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2BeMarriedNOwned -> Don't Be Fooled (3/12/2006 8:55:06 AM)
I am fed up! I was married 2 years ago to a Mistress? I was fooled. she has turrned into a vanilla. Gosh I need some help here. I guess Im looking at divorce and also finding a new Mistress for a lifetime commitment. Any Ideas?

MstrssPassion -> RE: Don't Be Fooled (3/12/2006 9:15:49 AM)
It took the whole courtship plus 2 yrs to figure this out?? If divorce court is calling then take care of that with as little pain as possible for both parties BEFORE you look for the next partner. No sense in dragging someone else in while this is going on. That is the best advice I can think of... for ALL parties involved. (you, the wife & the new person you would seek)

IrishMist -> RE: Don't Be Fooled (3/12/2006 9:18:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: 2BeMarriedNOwned I am fed up! I was married 2 years ago to a Mistress? I was fooled. she has turrned into a vanilla. Gosh I need some help here. I guess Im looking at divorce and also finding a new Mistress for a lifetime commitment. Any Ideas? Pity party? /shrug

yourMissTress -> RE: Don't Be Fooled (3/12/2006 9:45:54 AM)
Ok, couple of observations... You started a thread not too long ago in the Ask a Mistress forum wanting to know why you weren't getting replies to the emails you sent out to Mistress' and whining that none of us ever gave you a chance. You stated in that thread that your wife/Mistress died seven years ago. And you said that in that time you've been active in your community but still, no one gives you the time of day. A quote from your own profile: why is it so hard to find the serious people? Where are the people that really know what ownership is about? where are the people that seek complete and dedicated slavery of another? I get discouraged at times. i am re-locateable, will sleep at Mistreses feet. I am loyal and for the second time I wish to make the biggest surrender in my life. Now, to answer your questions... Game players do not attract serious people. The people who know what ownership is about will avoid you like the plague. Again, those who seek complete and dedicated slavery of another are doing just that, and do not see you as a candidate. If you are married and looking for someone else, you are proving that the rest of this quoted portion of your profile is complete bullshit. Good luck.

OscarHargraves -> RE: Don't Be Fooled (3/12/2006 9:46:10 AM)
Try very hard to make it a 'friendly' divorce. If the two of you can be amiable and 'agree to disagree' it will be a lot easier on both of you. When that's done then WALK AWAY. Don't keep going back as so many others do. Start again and find what you want. This time you might also consider a little more communciation about mutual expectations BEFORE the wedding bells chime......

BitaTruble -> RE: Don't Be Fooled (3/12/2006 9:52:13 AM)
You've made several posts to the forum and this is the very first time you've mentioned you are already married. All the other posts had to do with 'wanting' to be married, to find the "one', complaining and whinning there was no one 'real' out there.. all the while you have someone 'real' within touching distance, but you don't like how things are going because you're not getting what you 'want' .. so my advice would be to start being honest, first with yourself, then with her. Talk to her, tell her how you are feeling. Ask her what you can do to help put the BDSM back into the marriage. I'm afraid, given all your other posts, I can't garner much in the way or sympathy or advice for you on 'this' issue. Your personal relationship is yours with which to deal, so ... deal with it. Celeste

truesub4u -> RE: Don't Be Fooled (3/12/2006 9:58:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: 2BeMarriedNOwned I am fed up! I was married 2 years ago to a Mistress? I was fooled. she has turrned into a vanilla. Gosh I need some help here. I guess Im looking at divorce and also finding a new Mistress for a lifetime commitment. Any Ideas? Talk about not being fooled???????????????????? Who are you trying to fool?.. Your wife? The ones who's alive or passed on 7 year years ago? Or your next victim?

LadyJulieAnn -> RE: Don't Be Fooled (3/12/2006 10:06:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: 2BeMarriedNOwned I am fed up! I was married 2 years ago to a Mistress? I was fooled. she has turrned into a vanilla. Gosh I need some help here. I guess Im looking at divorce and also finding a new Mistress for a lifetime commitment. Any Ideas? Medication?

amayos -> RE: Don't Be Fooled (3/12/2006 11:27:10 AM)
"She has turned into vanilla." Here we go again. Another "owned slave" is taking his marbles and going home. As an aside, it riles me a bit how derogatory some use the term "vanilla", sneering at that paltry way of life as if it's beneath them. It's not a good way of looking at the world, or the people and relationships in it.

MistressSassy66 -> RE: Don't Be Fooled (3/12/2006 11:36:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: truesub4u quote: ORIGINAL: 2BeMarriedNOwned I am fed up! I was married 2 years ago to a Mistress? I was fooled. she has turrned into a vanilla. Gosh I need some help here. I guess Im looking at divorce and also finding a new Mistress for a lifetime commitment. Any Ideas? Talk about not being fooled???????????????????? Who are you trying to fool?.. Your wife? The ones who's alive or passed on 7 year years ago? Or your next victim? LMAO... My thoughts exactly...lol

CERCKL -> RE: Don't Be Fooled (3/12/2006 11:58:27 AM)
quote: As an aside, it riles me a bit how derogatory some use the term "vanilla", sneering at that paltry way of life as if it's beneath them. It's not a good way of looking at the world, or the people and relationships in it. Here I agree, vanilla is not a derogatory term...relationships of ANY kind work best with trust, openess etc, etc...and some manifest in 'vanilla' some do not...all need to be 'real' regardless of how they manifest themselves...besides, some of my best friends are vanilla (tongue in cheek)... C

amayos -> RE: Don't Be Fooled (3/12/2006 12:11:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CERCKL quote: ORIGINAL: amayos As an aside, it riles me a bit how derogatory some use the term "vanilla", sneering at that paltry way of life as if it's beneath them. It's not a good way of looking at the world, or the people and relationships in it. Here I agree, vanilla is not a derogatory term...relationships of ANY kind work best with trust, openess etc, etc...and some manifest in 'vanilla' some do not...all need to be 'real' regardless of how they manifest themselves...besides, some of my best friends are vanilla (tongue in cheek)... C And I will say likewise: hear, hear.

IronBear -> RE: Don't Be Fooled (3/12/2006 12:22:15 PM)
I read the OP and I had sympathy. I read the replies and I lost the sympathy I had. I will not grace this thread with anything further. There is a limit and it has been reached!

ExistentialSteel -> RE: Don't Be Fooled (3/12/2006 12:42:22 PM)
I think some people sit around dreaming up posts and sometimes can't keep their stories straight.

CERCKL -> RE: Don't Be Fooled (3/12/2006 12:47:00 PM)
quote: I think some people sit around dreaming up posts and sometimes can't keep their stories straight. Laughing very loud...the old Mitsubishi commercial "Look at me, Look at me!!!" C

IronBear -> RE: Don't Be Fooled (3/12/2006 12:57:28 PM)
I seem to remember that some one in CM posted a commentthat when Mitsubishi tried to market their Pajero in soain it flopped like a limpodick.. The reason apparently was the in Spanish, Pajero means Wanker..... Does you referal to the Mitsubishi add have anything to do with this and the OP???? [8\|][:-][;)][:D][:D][:D][:D] Wanders idly off wondering why he is smoking two cigarettes and trying to drink three cups of coffeee and hasn't been to bed again......

CERCKL -> RE: Don't Be Fooled (3/12/2006 1:01:21 PM)
Laughing really hard now...didn't know about the 'wanker' situation...but perhaps synchronicity? I have read a lot of your posts IronBear and though I don't always agree with your philosophy I respect your sense of humor and your obvious integrity and thoughtfulness. Later, C

BitaTruble -> RE: Don't Be Fooled (3/12/2006 1:42:33 PM)
quote: As an aside, it riles me a bit how derogatory some use the term "vanilla", sneering at that paltry way of life as if it's beneath them. It's not a good way of looking at the world, or the people and relationships in it. It's not uncomon for people to try to empower themselves by belitting another person's choices. It's sad, but not uncommon. I believe the general school of thought is that doing so comes from a place of insecurity in their own choices, but better minds than mine would have more insight into such behavior. That said.. Amayos, you do realize that one more post will get you paddled, right? ;) Celeste

IronBear -> RE: Don't Be Fooled (3/12/2006 1:47:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BitaTruble quote: As an aside, it riles me a bit how derogatory some use the term "vanilla", sneering at that paltry way of life as if it's beneath them. It's not a good way of looking at the world, or the people and relationships in it. It's not uncomon for people to try to empower themselves by belitting another person's choices. It's sad, but not uncommon. I believe the general school of thought is that doing so comes from a place of insecurity in their own choices, but better minds than mine would have more insight into such behavior. That said.. Amayos, you do realize that one more post will get you paddled, right? ;) Celeste There is a short list for the paddlor I take it????????

yourMissTress -> RE: Don't Be Fooled (3/12/2006 1:50:40 PM)
quote: That said.. Amayos, you do realize that one more post will get you paddled, right? *Pulls up a ringside seat and calls for truesub4u to bring coffee and chocolates.

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