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Vanilla sex - 3/12/2006 6:37:28 PM   
slave55555


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Hello everyone,

I’m a switch! And I enjoy it very much.
But sometimes it affects me emotionally. After a period of time
I mean I feel bad towards the sub I dom. Also, I feel insulted when I’m sub.

I personally prefer to have a love relationship with my switch mate.
Therefore, I feel we should have normal sex intercourse occasionally.

I didn’t have such a relationship yet. But I read many stories regarding my fantasies; also I share roles and ideas over yahoo chat sometimes.

My question is:
Are their other people like me?
Also, do you people think this is weird or something?

Thanks for your time,
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RE: Vanilla sex - 3/12/2006 6:40:51 PM   
siamsa24


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Yes, there are people like you! Take a gander at my and my man, we are just like that

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RE: Vanilla sex - 3/12/2006 7:23:15 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Trust me, a great many kinky people (switch and non switch) still enjoy vanilla sex.

Do what works for you.

Oh and yes many people will think it's weird.

Trust me, any question that start out with "DOes anyone...?" is always answered yes.

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RE: Vanilla sex - 3/12/2006 8:40:56 PM   
fergus


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okay,

you ain't alone ;) I am like that.

I LIKE vanilla sex too. AND I like to 're-ground' with it once in a while if that makes sense.

fergus

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RE: Vanilla sex - 3/13/2006 6:01:00 AM   
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My bf and I do the vanilla sex thing, of course we always incorporate sex into our play to. We both just love sex There are times when we are both hot and horny and just end up going at it, then there are times we have scheduled *playtime* which ends in sex. I say If its not hurting anyone and it works for you, then go for it.

Let's face it in all that I've read and seen in all my years nothing is really wierd anymore.

Lashra

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RE: Vanilla sex - 3/13/2006 6:36:17 AM   
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Vanilla picked up its name for a reason. If you can down 2 bottles of chocolate sauce, 1/2lb of crushed nuts and marshmallws, without the vanilla icecream underneath it, then bully for you, but most people couldn't handle that much topping, in any sence of the word

J

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RE: Vanilla sex - 3/13/2006 7:35:58 AM   
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I have found myself less and less attracted to the thought of and desire for vanilla sex or vaginal penetration with a penis in general. (This is probably why I am still technically a virgin.) I would not be opposed to it though.

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RE: Vanilla sex - 3/13/2006 7:55:18 AM   
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Hey 'streme. Keep it that way for as long as possible. I'll avoid the public information style stuff ...
(Timmy gave in to his urges in the back of his fathers sedan, and lost a part of his childhood that he'll never regain, as well as $20 that he can just kiss goodbye)
..and say We tend to forget that this stuff is about enjoying the escalation of experience, not reveling in the heights we reach.
If it were, you'd just hire 5 thai ladybois, a snake charmer and a pair of identical labradors, ring out for 3 gallons of lime jelly(o), and tick the box off in the morning.

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RE: Vanilla sex - 3/13/2006 11:52:45 AM   
slave55555


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I really enjoyed your replies…. It makes me more self-assured after discussing this with you guys.
Thank you everyone for your time,

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RE: Vanilla sex - 3/13/2006 1:27:39 PM   
BitaTruble


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If you are talking straight missionary position sex, it's very intimate, you get to touch in ways that just aren't possible in other variations. For me, I like 'all' sex and vanilla is on the list. ;)

Celeste

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RE: Vanilla sex - 3/13/2006 2:14:12 PM   
Laura


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Anyone who goes on and on about vanilla seems like an elistist snob to me. There is no vanilla, it's all good, all part of sex, the relationship, whatever it is you are doing. To label sex or people as being too vanilla is to be someone living in unreality.

I am a Switch but I am me before, after and always.

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RE: Vanilla sex - 3/30/2006 7:10:53 PM   
apb


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Laura

Anyone who goes on and on about vanilla seems like an elistist snob to me. There is no vanilla, it's all good, all part of sex, the relationship, whatever it is you are doing. To label sex or people as being too vanilla is to be someone living in unreality.

I am a Switch but I am me before, after and always.


I am inclined to agree in as much as all sex can be good.  I have many vanilla friends and enjoy watching and participating in vanilla sex sometimes.

However, after 25 years of vanilla (90% lesbian) sex, I enjoy the intensity of love making with my Domme after a scene or play.  I am also starting to see that just the very fact that we share a D/s relationship brings a different intensity to the bedroom.

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RE: Vanilla sex - 4/5/2006 12:44:35 PM   
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Curiosity.

What is the fascination with sex, regardless of flavor?

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RE: Vanilla sex - 4/5/2006 4:13:11 PM   
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     As Oscar Wilde once said, "Celibacy is the most unusual of all perversions."  A good old-fashioned roll in the hay is sometimes just what the Dr ordered.  But is it still vanilla if you throw in a couple good smacks on the ass during?

    A Heretic as Usual
     Rich

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RE: Vanilla sex - 4/5/2006 4:47:30 PM   
SimplyV


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I should not have read this thread.. so much talk of sex and "re-grounding" with sex.. and.. vanilla sex.. and other sex.. and penetration..


quote:

ORIGINAL: Dustyn

Curiosity.

What is the fascination with sex, regardless of flavor?



Umm since I can't find your profile.. I have no idea if you're female or male..  but dang.. You don't know what the fascination with sex is?? You seriously have not been having sex with the right people then.

On the other hand.. this thread is making me think if maybe I might be a sex addict..


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RE: Vanilla sex - 4/5/2006 4:53:56 PM   
fastlane


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LOL...yes you are a sex addict and anyone who isn't just has not found a good partner yet.

Horny as always, Kevin

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RE: Vanilla sex - 4/5/2006 7:37:35 PM   
MsPoetress


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My husband and I have been together for over a year, and there are times when vanilla sex is all we have strength for.
 
When I first got into this relationship I was worried that he would want to play all the time, it can be very emotionally and physically draining and leave me that way for days.
 
I'm mad, you're mad, we're all mad here, it's the fad for many a year, if you think we're crazy my dear, you're right cause I'M mad, YOU'RE mad, we're ALL mad here!
 
 

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RE: Vanilla sex - 4/5/2006 7:55:39 PM   
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I am male, and have had a few partners over the years.  I fully understand the fascination with it, just not the preoccupation.

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RE: Vanilla sex - 4/7/2006 10:17:47 AM   
bignipples2share


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Okay, I'm preoccupied with it, I want EVERY session, playtime, vanilla sex, whatever catagory we're doing that day is thrown into, to end with the big O. Just some days, there's hours between start and finish before we get there < wicked grin >
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RE: Vanilla sex - 4/8/2006 11:00:52 PM   
acctonthelook


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Bignipples2 - I like your thinking.  Me 2!!!!!! LOL

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