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Trying anal - 3/13/2006 1:57:08 PM

SweetEscravo

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My dom and I have been wanting to try anal sex for a long time but haven't actually done it yet. It is something he really wants, and although I'm not 100% about it, I can't say I'm not enticed. The thing is that I really don't know anything about it...such as what it will do to my body. I am somewhat of a worrier, and since I've heard a lot of bad things about anal sex, I am wondering if it is healthy, safe and a good idea. Are there any things I can do to prep my body for it, such as eating certain food beforehand, exercizing, drinking water...anything like that? I am kind of worried about trying this.

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RE: Trying anal - 3/13/2006 2:16:43 PM

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My dom and I have been wanting to try anal sex for a long time but haven't actually done it yet. It is something he really wants, and although I'm not 100% about it, I can't say I'm not enticed. The thing is that I really don't know anything about it...such as what it will do to my body. I am somewhat of a worrier, and since I've heard a lot of bad things about anal sex, I am wondering if it is healthy, safe and a good idea. Are there any things I can do to prep my body for it, such as eating certain food beforehand, exercizing, drinking water...anything like that? I am kind of worried about trying this.

An excellent book on this is The Ultimate Guide for Anal Sex for Women. The author is an old friend of mine and she goes into great detail about how to keep it safe and make it a pleasant experience. The link on Amazon is http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1573442216/102-7165081-4536959?v=glance&n=283155

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RE: Trying anal - 3/13/2006 2:24:13 PM

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Each person reacts differently. There are a lot of threads on here about anal activity. I haven't learned how to post them in responses yet. I do know this though, being how you never have at all... I'm hoping your Dom has. But if not. SLOW is the key. Lube... Lube... Lube... is a must.

I also found out.. during my first time.... my Former Master that taught me to love it... let me do things. Go at my own pace. I found myself frustrated quite a few times when I failed myself let alone him in my trials. But being pushed wouldn't of worked either. The body that is use to rejecting there... objects to accepting. So it must be trained. Start small.... finger... messaging... letting yourself get use to things. Allow your body to talk to you.. and let you know when ready to try something further. No one knows your body more than you do. Some takes first time tries.. others it takes more and more. Don't be in a hurry... look for others commments on this.. read back through threads...<damn I wish I could post links on here> But until you are ready... it's going to painful.. non pleasureable for you... and you may never want to try again.

I hope I help at least a little here... good luck in your journy... and enjoy.

Edited to add: I noticed after my post Mr Warrens post... I knew someone would have links to help in your search... nice to see some try to be helpful. Enjoy your week..

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RE: Trying anal - 3/13/2006 7:00:35 PM

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In light of your other thread about girly pain from recently loseing our virginity I would get that fixed first. Until you know WHY you're in pain I would be VERY hesitant to let someone that by our statements is rough try anal.

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RE: Trying anal - 3/13/2006 7:13:51 PM

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In light of your other thread about girly pain from recently loseing our virginity I would get that fixed first. Until you know WHY you're in pain I would be VERY hesitant to let someone that by our statements is rough try anal.

I agree Rose... I had seen this post before the other. Or would of stated the same.

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RE: Trying anal - 3/13/2006 7:57:49 PM

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About lube.

Too much is almost enough.

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RE: Trying anal - 3/13/2006 8:52:07 PM

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About lube.

Too much is almost enough.

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So true. And it's very enjoyable if you are soooo ready to have him inside you....begging even, for whatever way he wishes.

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RE: Trying anal - 3/14/2006 12:41:30 AM

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I absolutely love anal. But it wasn't always that way. The first few times the pain was to intense. I learned to relax with the help of a sex toy designed for that. Lots of lube and starting entry on my side seemed to be easier. Once I realized he wouldn't hurt me and would stop if it did I learned to enjoy the sensation. The orgasm that can be reached with anal is pretty intense. If you are worried about stretching yourself out just do kegel exercises. I have been enjoying anal for years and still am very tight. Just, as an RN I have to add this, just don't go from anal to vaginal. You can get a very nasty infection that you really don't want. Don't get discouraged if you can handle full penetration the first few times. It takes a while to believe that it won't always hurt and you may actually reach a point where you want that almost as much as vaginal. Just some advice but think of yourself as a sexy older hot rod. You have to be warmed up pretty hot to run like a top but once you are there anything can be possible. Just a thought.

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RE: Trying anal - 3/14/2006 4:36:41 AM

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You might want to purchase an anal training set. Its basically 3 different sized butt plugs and a belt that holds it in place. Always use lots of lube and try to relax and go SLOW. This training can take awhile but I found with my BF for him it made it easier to take the strapon.

It shouldn't hurt though you will feel pressure, take your time, relax and enjoy.

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RE: Trying anal - 3/14/2006 7:30:42 AM

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ORIGINAL: Lashra

You might want to purchase an anal training set. Its basically 3 different sized butt plugs and a belt that holds it in place. Always use lots of lube and try to relax and go SLOW. This training can take awhile but I found with my BF for him it made it easier to take the strapon.

It shouldn't hurt though you will feel pressure, take your time, relax and enjoy.

Lashra

Unless you're into the painful side of this. Being one that is... and this is only me.. not for everyone.... the less painful it is.. the less I like doing.... so we take breaks.. give me time to get back to the painful side of feeling.

But reguardless... back to original aspects... until you find out from your OBGYN why you're having the other pain..... that you described in other post..... anal should be put on hold.

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RE: Trying anal - 3/14/2006 8:23:44 AM

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Unless you're into the painful side of this. Being one that is... and this is only me.. not for everyone.... the less painful it is.. the less I like doing.... so we take breaks.. give me time to get back to the painful side of feeling.

Sometimes it's not so much the girl is into pain but the Master wants her to feel it.

Starting out with plugs may be helpful. A small one just to get used to the feeling of something in you, and then work up. i do recommend lube for the first couple of times, at least (i don't always have that luxury anymore) and some prior stretching beforehand. It is a wonderful experience - good luck!!

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RE: Trying anal - 3/22/2006 7:43:23 AM

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Well my previous Sir is the one who got me into anal and he started out with fingers and small plugs. I acctualy never used lube but the first time he tried it(i never refused anything to him) i was drunk so my body was more relaxed anyways. It hurts at first but trust me it can feel often if he takes it slow at first :( God I miss Sir and his anal play. but anyway make sure to be really relaxed and comfortable.

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RE: Trying anal - 3/22/2006 10:09:59 AM

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This is the first time I've posted in this forum. I have read others but this one strikes close to home.
I was anally raped by my first husband about 20 years ago, i have had problems ever since and it was stated to my Dom that this was a hard limit - no questions.
Due to further complications in that area, i ended up having two minor surguries.
It was me that brought up the topic again, as He never talked about it or asked, and stated that He could live the rest of his life without anal and be fine and love me and value me just the same.
I was still scared of the idea, but wanted to know if i could do it, to be able to do this for my Dom, and to overcome the lasting emotional pain that had been inflicted on me years ago.
It took a lot of arousing, teasing and lube but our first attempt at it was a success. We both enjoyed it immensely. Once i realized that i had actually been able to do it, and that i was okay afterwards, i cried. My Dom held me tight as i let go of the memory of the pain and hurt inflicted on me years ago.
It is not something that we do all the time, i still need to be taken gently and worked into it carefully. This is both in the physical sense and emotional, but to U/us, we have done what i had always imagined impossible.
Anal, when done with care, consideration, lube and knowledge and a lot of relaxation, can be pleasureable. Something i never thought I would hear myself say.