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RE: Things CollarMe has taught me about BDSM - 11/28/2009 12:08:07 PM   
Acer49


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ORIGINAL: mercyriddle

I think an interesting lesson for an inexperienced sub like myself is that being a creep knows no gender boundaries.

Being a BBW sub, I always expect to receive one or two messages from a certain sort of man who sees plump girls and just goes for it.

But on CM, its the first time that I have received similar messages from women, or just plain out creepy ultra demanding messages from Dommes.

What can we learn from this? That BDSM has every type of personality under its black latex umbrella, and it is good to learn this in an online environment before going out to real life.

And it reminds me that just because I am a lesbian doesn't mean that I don't have to worry about my own safety. Creeps come in all shapes and sizes, ladies included!

Also, I don't know if this counts as me being a brat, but one line messages entirely composed of chatspeak? I am deleting and blocking your illiterate Domme ass, sorry to say. Literacy is my big kink.



Collar me has shown me

There are some great people here. However, there are also some, who have exhibited behaviors I would have never expected from so called adult hunman beings.

It is truly sad that people have forgotten the addage, "treat others as you yourself expect to be treated"

However, even after many years, I try to remain optimisitic, hoping the good outweigh the bad and that I do not become as others have, jaded and untrusting.

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RE: Things CollarMe has taught me about BDSM - 11/28/2009 12:08:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: GYPSYMAMBO

OP:
 
These site has taught me:

There are ppl with high integrity and regard for human life
There are compassionate folks everywhere
YOU never know where you will recieve great wisdoms
To question ingrained belief patterns
To listen to the dull and ignorant for they too have their story
PPL will reach back..from miles if you reach out in isolation
To stand stronger in my truth and D style
That  opinion is NOT fact
That from personal experience comes personal response
To love
To laugh
 
 
GM



Hello, Gypsymambo
Just wanted to tell you that I enjoyed reading what your wrote.



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RE: Things CollarMe has taught me about BDSM - 11/28/2009 12:12:53 PM   
rockspider


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Status: offline 		Well what has CM taught me?
It has taught me that irrespective how long time you have done something, and how enjoyable you may have found it, there will be some dude, half your age, coming and telling you that you are doing it all wrong, and you haven't enjoyed it one bit.

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RE: Things CollarMe has taught me about BDSM - 11/28/2009 12:51:12 PM   
maugseros


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ORIGINAL: Hierodule

This site taught me that I am lucky to have a Master that I trust and am compatible with.


Yep... because even in a community of what you think of as "like minded" people, it seems more often that you meet  those who are still light years away from what you would hope to find.



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RE: Things CollarMe has taught me about BDSM - 11/28/2009 1:14:35 PM   
daintydimples


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GYPSYMAMBO

OP:
 
These site has taught me:

There are ppl with high integrity and regard for human life
There are compassionate folks everywhere
YOU never know where you will recieve great wisdoms
To question ingrained belief patterns
To listen to the dull and ignorant for they too have their story
PPL will reach back..from miles if you reach out in isolation
To stand stronger in my truth and D style
That  opinion is NOT fact
That from personal experience comes personal response
To love
To laugh
 
 
GM



I could not have said it better myself.


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RE: Things CollarMe has taught me about BDSM - 11/28/2009 1:43:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		Among a host of other things... i met the Man of my dreams/fantasies.Also i learned there are some very real people on the internet. GreedyTop for instance, is one of the coolest sincerest people i know, and i met that gem of a woman right here.

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RE: Things CollarMe has taught me about BDSM - 11/28/2009 1:53:07 PM   
maugseros


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Status: offline 		I've also not so much learned but noticed.. that no matter where you go on the internet (here on CM or anywhere else) that the number one logical fallacy of the ad hominem attack seems to be alive and well, and thriving. lol :)



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RE: Things CollarMe has taught me about BDSM - 11/28/2009 2:31:09 PM   
antipode


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quote:

one line messages entirely composed of chatspeak


IT may not be your cup of tea, but there are plenty of people accessing dating sites from cellphones - statistically, there is an increase in internet users that have no PC at all, or own one, but do not use it to surf the web. So while I sympathize with your desire for proper language, perhaps you should remember it is 2009, not 1989.

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RE: Things CollarMe has taught me about BDSM - 11/28/2009 2:37:40 PM   
CalifChick


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quote:
 
Things CollarMe has taught me about BDSM
 

 

I'm still waiting to hear the answer to this.  What has CM taught you about BDSM?  Or was that just a catchy title?
 
 
Cali
 

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RE: Things CollarMe has taught me about BDSM - 11/28/2009 2:42:12 PM   
AquaticSub


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Status: offline 		Honestly... I've learned way too much to list it here. I've changed and grown so much from my interactions here on CM. I've become both a more accepting person, a more open-minded person and, hopefully someone who is better able to express my own wants and needs.

I feel so grateful for these message boards and for all the wonderful people who have influenced me through them.

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RE: Things CollarMe has taught me about BDSM - 11/28/2009 2:42:50 PM   
DomImus


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ORIGINAL: Hierodule
This site taught me that I am lucky to have a Master that I trust and am compatible with.


Yano, that's a really good point. I was being tongue in cheek in my earlier response but this really hits home and it's not just CM. It's the whole bdsm 'community' at large. It was serendipity beyond the scope of what my intellect is able to grasp that led me to mine in the sea of what is available out there.


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RE: Things CollarMe has taught me about BDSM - 11/28/2009 2:49:00 PM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		It has given me a window into dynamics and kinks that I don't share or have any interest in.  

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RE: Things CollarMe has taught me about BDSM - 11/28/2009 2:56:19 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: mercyriddle

Nobody is entirely perfect! Except for Leonard Nimoy. That dude is awesome.



At the risk of starting a flame war.... .Have you -seen- the abomination that is the Ballad of Bilbo Baggins????


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RE: Things CollarMe has taught me about BDSM - 11/28/2009 3:17:05 PM   
GreedyTop


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quote:

ORIGINAL: breatheasone

Among a host of other things... i met the Man of my dreams/fantasies.Also i learned there are some very real people on the internet. GreedyTop for instance, is one of the coolest sincerest people i know, and i met that gem of a woman right here.


I am humbled.

*smooch*


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RE: Things CollarMe has taught me about BDSM - 11/28/2009 3:46:28 PM   
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RE: Things CollarMe has taught me about BDSM - 11/28/2009 3:47:36 PM   
Hierodule


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Status: offline 		LOL that shit is priceless. He had to be on some pretty good drugs when he made that video.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Llyren

quote:

ORIGINAL: mercyriddle

Nobody is entirely perfect! Except for Leonard Nimoy. That dude is awesome.



At the risk of starting a flame war.... .Have you -seen- the abomination that is the Ballad of Bilbo Baggins????


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RE: Things CollarMe has taught me about BDSM - 11/28/2009 3:50:40 PM   
Llyren


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I know.  What -was- he thinking?  And why abuse Tolkien like that?

But back to the topic.  What I've learned is that it's not too late for me, and I've also met some people I consider friends.  *hugs Aquatic and Wyld*


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RE: Things CollarMe has taught me about BDSM - 11/28/2009 11:09:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		Someone mentioned that nobody is perfect. I suppose it is true, but i have meet quite a few perfect assholes in my time

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RE: Things CollarMe has taught me about BDSM - 11/28/2009 11:29:41 PM   
Valyraen


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ORIGINAL: rockspider

Someone mentioned that nobody is perfect. I suppose it is true, but i have meet quite a few perfect assholes in my time


Wait, what?! Damnit, there's someone out there that's more of an asshole than I am?

I'm just gonna have to try harder.


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RE: Things CollarMe has taught me about BDSM - 11/28/2009 11:42:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mercyriddle

Nobody is entirely perfect! Except for Leonard Nimoy. That dude is awesome.

20 Points.


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