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littlebitxxx -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/8/2009 8:52:56 PM)
<FR> All of the above, at times and in varying degrees. And to AnimusRex: goes without saying. weg

drtygrl -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/9/2009 4:02:46 PM)
I think there is quite a bit involved and often depends on the person. My ideal is a dominant that stimulates me intellectually and physically. In addition to basic relationship chemistry, compatible kinks and orientation are important. Each person varies on their level of desired control and submission and reaching the balancing point between the two is crucial. By far, the most important aspect is respect. Without genuine respect for my D as a person, as a man and as a master, I could not fully submit myself.

MasterTslave -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/9/2009 4:15:22 PM)
Master T is my perfect Master...He is loving and i know that i am the joy of His life (and He is mine)...He is understanding, but knows when to get out the whips!

Dominasola -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/9/2009 7:55:27 PM)
I am in a constant state of change and transformation; I am not the person I was 5 years ago, nor am I necessarily looking for the same qualities in a partner as I did then. As such, however, something I wish for a potential partner to possess is an ability to adapt to and flourish in new situations. In addition to this, he would have to be an extremely passionate person- someone who possesses not only a certain joie de vivre, but also a passion for being the dominant personality in a relationship. I would not be able to survive under the hand of a master who simply wants someone to kick around because he can. A passion for knowledge and learning would also be a defining quality of my ideal master; I would not be able to submit to someone who was not constantly attempting to better himself.

Aileen1968 -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/9/2009 8:05:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkLordPrince There are cetain behaviors which are appropriate for a Master, and there ones which are not. Since this is clearly a subjective question, I was curious to find out from female submissives what defines their "perfect" Master. He's my best friend and my lover.

Mercnbeth -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/10/2009 9:41:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkLordPrince There are cetain behaviors which are appropriate for a Master, and there ones which are not. Since this is clearly a subjective question, I was curious to find out from female submissives what defines their "perfect" Master. He is dominant. not just behind the bedroom doors or only in the context of our relationship. it permeates everything He involves Himself in. He is sadistic. not in the sociopathic way, but in a good way...that masochists and other sadists from time to time, appreciate and have fun with. He has a sense of humor...not just the kind that laughs AT everyone else, but at life and Himself as well. He is financially self-supportive...and does not NEED to rely on this slave for financial accumen or earning ability in order to provide for Himself. He finds this slave pleasing...and doesn't NEED to send her to the plastic surgeon or the tanning bed or an etiquette class or someone's else's idea of a "slave/submissive training course" in order to mold her into the herd's ideal of perfection. He has no secret "submissive side" that this slave would NEED to creatively manipulate out of Him for Him to enjoy it. He has no interest in this slave's destruction...physical or emotional...in any way, passive-aggressively or in a more overtly abusive way. Edited to add (Merc): It is my sincere hope that beth is able to find someone as she describes someday. Until then; she's stuck with me. [sm=evil.gif]

Sfortzando -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/10/2009 12:46:42 PM)
In general, the least appropriate behavior a Mistress or Master can demonstrate is the audacity to command a sub that does not belong to them. Unless it's a munch or play party where protocol demands that subs submit to all Mistresses/Master in the room (and I've never heard of this, I'm just including the senario for purposes of hypothetical discussion), Dom/mes need to realize that subs and slaves are people first.

roland23 -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/15/2009 8:34:31 AM)
According to many of the female subs I've encountered on Collarme, looks, wealth and herculean strength seem to be extraordinarily important. Kinda like high school or perhaps junior high.

Justme696 -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/15/2009 9:20:51 AM)
btw I like the word appropriate....not using perfect for once. You read so often in profiles that people have the perfect Master. No one is is perfect..but appropriate one can be

breatheasone -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/15/2009 9:27:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Justme696 btw I like the word appropriate....not using perfect for once. You read so often in profiles that people have the perfect Master. No one is is perfect..but appropriate one can be Perhaps they mean perfect for them. i certainly am guilty of calling my Master perfect....but i think i mean perfect for me, so it feels like what it is...perfect.

lally2 -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/15/2009 11:35:19 AM)
just a regular guy with a naturally dominant personality and a sadistic streak.

yellowroses -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/15/2009 5:53:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HisSweetElysium Empathetic -understanding, communicative, honest, sensitive, patient, stable Intelligent -verbal, inspiring, respected, creative, witty, humorous, challenging, engaging, passionate Strong -assertive, protective, stable, aggressive, possessive, secure Attractive -athletic, tall, charismatic, genuine, confident, passionate, intense, adventurous, dead sexxxy! [:D] I deleted a few adjectives from the original list. I think that the above describes what I would like in a Master. Wait a minute...that perfectly describes Chip (AnimusRex) to a T. In my very bias opinion...He is perfect. kim

wandersalone -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/16/2009 2:48:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: yellowroses Wait a minute...that perfectly describes Chip (AnimusRex) to a T. In my very bias opinion...He is perfect. kim Does that make him a T-rex? [sm=biggrin.gif]

yellowroses -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/16/2009 6:43:08 AM)
LOL-Oh my goodness that was a great response! How do I give out points???

sexyred1 -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/16/2009 8:16:20 AM)
As you grow, things that you desire in a partner change. The things that would be appropriate for me are chemistry and compatibilty, which includes intelligence, sensitivity, empathy, passion, loyalty, humor and honesty. I don't have a defined look I need, I find different men sexy. If I had to pick the top two things it would the ability to communicate, both talking and listening and how he makes me feel. I need to feel the same level of intensity from someone, that I have for them.

sunshinemiss -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/16/2009 8:43:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail I'm all those things and got a big dick besides, and I am still sleeping with myself, so YMMV. Ron Yeah, but you live in the middle of fricking nowhere, darling! Your dick isn't that long!

NymphetamineGirl -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/16/2009 11:02:00 AM)
The following are things I feel that made my submission (and only mine, not anyone else's) such sweet surrender. I am very grateful that I had all of this in my master. To me, a master must display mastery of himself. This means he is OK with being human and shrugs off restrictive stereotypes of stoic machismo. He must understand that our actions come from our inner strength, not vice versa. In short, lean on me, too. Love is something I do well. Maintaining an environment where it's safe to be honest is a must, in both directions. This means not being threatened by anything I tell you. Show me my well-being is your first priority. I must be the center of your universe too. Don't expect to push me further than I trust you. Know the difference between good tears and bad tears, and if they're bad, walk through it with me and try again later. You can do anything to me that pleases you, so long as you stay connected with me, and ensure my safety at all times. ANYTHING. You can overrule my will, but I need it respected. Pull rank carefully, and follow it up when you've been proven right OR wrong, this is a chance to build even deeper trust. But mainly, there is one thing that I think is the core substance of a master for me - wanting and appreciating my submission, and being responsible enough to earn it. Then, everything shall be as you desire, and I will glory in it.

PrincessofFire -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/16/2009 2:35:43 PM)
I am a full time student who holds a full time job. However, taking care of MY household is also very important to me, and I like to make sure that everything my daddy needs when he comes home from work is taken care of already. My perfect Dom is the one I have. Patient, encouraging, with a lap to curl into when I'm stressed out with the rest of my life. My favorite thing he does that makes him perfect in my eyes is take away all the stress right before we go to bed by tucking me in and reading me to sleep :)

KneelforAnne -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/16/2009 2:46:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NymphetamineGirl The following are things I feel that made my submission (and only mine, not anyone else's) such sweet surrender. I am very grateful that I had all of this in my master. To me, a master must display mastery of himself. This means he is OK with being human and shrugs off restrictive stereotypes of stoic machismo. He must understand that our actions come from our inner strength, not vice versa. In short, lean on me, too. Love is something I do well. Maintaining an environment where it's safe to be honest is a must, in both directions. This means not being threatened by anything I tell you. Show me my well-being is your first priority. I must be the center of your universe too. Don't expect to push me further than I trust you. Know the difference between good tears and bad tears, and if they're bad, walk through it with me and try again later. You can do anything to me that pleases you, so long as you stay connected with me, and ensure my safety at all times. ANYTHING. You can overrule my will, but I need it respected. Pull rank carefully, and follow it up when you've been proven right OR wrong, this is a chance to build even deeper trust. But mainly, there is one thing that I think is the core substance of a master for me - wanting and appreciating my submission, and being responsible enough to earn it. Then, everything shall be as you desire, and I will glory in it. LOVE IT!

osf -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/16/2009 6:15:19 PM)
my behavior is always inappropriate which makes me the perfect master

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