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littlewonder -> RE: Being dommed before Domme's children (12/5/2009 5:21:22 PM)

uumm....so you washing the dishes or vacuuming the floor in front of children is going to scar them in some way??? <scratches head>




ordinary -> RE: Being dommed before Domme's children (12/5/2009 5:58:48 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady


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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

If it were me, I would cease serving. Kids should be NOT involved in kink. Let them make up their own minds but adult kink lifestyle should NOT be around kids PERIOD
Kevin



So if you would not become involved with or move in with someone who had children? Cleaning the house when done in the ordinary "vanilla" way (as in wearing normal clothes) really isn't all that kinky.


You forget that there are some guys who think everything should be about kink, even brushing his teeth should turn him on. It's really not hard to see where lobo is coming from, if he can't separate himself from his desires long enough to realize that life is real, and dishes don't wash themselves.




ordinary -> RE: Being dommed before Domme's children (12/5/2009 6:08:10 PM)

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ORIGINAL: bootkisserboy

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ORIGINAL: CarrieO

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ORIGINAL: bootkisserboy

I have a question for other submissives and slaves.  A number of female Dommes have children at home and they want a service sub or slave to take care of their place.  How do you feel about doing housework, etc. in front of their children? 

Switch here...The bolded part above I find to be more than ludicrous.  Since when did housework become X-rated?  If you've been asked to serve by cleaning a Dommes's house, why does it follow that this would become kinky?  I would think if both you and the woman involved were mature adults, the act of submission in the form of simple housework could be achieved without the means of kink while also maintaining the needed power structure.

I am curious how other feel about it.  To me, being a submissive is a private affair and I do like flirting with some public play, I don't like the idea of serving in front of children.  Thanks.

If by house cleaning you mean flouncing about in the nude or dressed in a frilly maid's costume while Ma'am follows you around, crop in hand, ready to punish for any mistake, then yes...totally inappropriate.
 
While I was on vacation this past summer, I visited with a friend and spent many days with he and his Domme/GF and her 2 children.  During that time, my friend remained clothed around the kids and in public, he cooked, cleaned up after meals, helped do some computer work for her, mounted some shelves in the kids room and did all this while maintaining the power dynamic they had.  It was beautiful to see and a pleasure to talk with this woman while my friend waited on us...in what would appear to be a very vanilla manner. 
 
I guess it comes down to the dynamic the two of you have, how service is defined, whether or not you have the ability to trust her judgement in regards to this matter and if you approach this in a mature manner.
 
 



This is fine if you find it ludicrous.  I find it ludicrous that many like YOU cannot read a simple post.  I was asking other submissives how they felt about doing housework around children.  It is a VERY simple question and YET I get dommes and people like you telling me HOW I SHOULD feel about it.  I feel the way I feel about it and I don't want to change my feelings about it, either..  About the only post worth considering is the one written by lobodomslavery.  I just wanted some input from other submissives.  Take your judgement and shove it, CarrieO.





If you're unwilling to accept housework as a condition of service, then that's your RIGHT. Lots of people don't want to touch other people's dirty things. If you're unable to separate housework that she tells you to do from kink, and you think that you need to be in some kind of state of being (naked, chained, collared, chastized, whatever) then that's your RIGHT as well.

You have gotten many responses, but you bitch about all of them except one, the one that goes along with your thought pattern so that you don't have to step out of your comfort zone. It's a sign that you may have problems communicating, because if it's not what you want to hear, then you say it isn't valid for whatever reasons.




NYLass -> RE: Being dommed before Domme's children (12/5/2009 6:36:16 PM)

Most people have to do the housework around children.  If you vacuum them up instead of around them DCF gets called.

Housework is not necessarily kink related.  You can dust, clean and do chores while clothed.  There is nothing wrong with that.  I do recommend cooking while fully dressed, btw.  Bacon splatters are not good owies.




WestBaySlave -> RE: Being dommed before Domme's children (12/5/2009 6:36:43 PM)

I must say, I find it hard to get into the head space where simple, everyday chores - cooking, gardening, cleaning, and so on - are adult acts that shouldn't be engaged in around children.

My last master was a lawyer with an office at home, and I was to be seen cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, and most frequently, gardening, by him, his paralegal, his clients, and often, their children. I once made everyone who was around fruit smoothies, so I suppose you could say I not only served my master around others, I served them directly. They certainly didn't seem traumatized.

Part of my arrangement with him was domestic service, but it's very easy to hide any BDSM elements of that. If someone had asked, I simply would have said I was staying with him that summer in exchange for taking care of the house and garden.




DesFIP -> RE: Being dommed before Domme's children (12/5/2009 6:38:50 PM)

My only point was if she's lying around eating bonbons while a friend visits, won't they be confused? Or does she commonly act like this when visitors come over?

But yeah, if she's working and he's helping out, it shouldn't raise any questions.




silvermuse -> RE: Being dommed before Domme's children (12/5/2009 6:52:10 PM)

I find nothing wrong in doing housework, or other non sexual service in front of the children. No more than I found it wrong to do in front of children prior to being in a D/s relationship.


muse




DemonKia -> RE: Being dommed before Domme's children (12/5/2009 6:59:40 PM)

FR, after continuing read thru

If it makes one uncomfortable to be around minor children, then that's a perfectly legitimate consideration / compatibility issue . . . . . Permanently childless households may need to be sought, discussed, & etc early in the process . . .. .




CarrieO -> RE: Being dommed before Domme's children (12/5/2009 7:10:24 PM)

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ORIGINAL: bootkisserboy

This is fine if you find it ludicrous.  I find it ludicrous that many like YOU cannot read a simple post.  I was asking other submissives how they felt about doing housework around children.  It is a VERY simple question and YET I get dommes and people like you telling me HOW I SHOULD feel about it.  I feel the way I feel about it and I don't want to change my feelings about it, either..  About the only post worth considering is the one written by lobodomslavery.  I just wanted some input from other submissives.  Take your judgement and shove it, CarrieO.



People like me....bless your heart. 

The rest of what you wrote isn't worth the bother. 





LafayetteLady -> RE: Being dommed before Domme's children (12/5/2009 8:45:54 PM)


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ORIGINAL: bootkisserboy

This is fine if you find it ludicrous.  I find it ludicrous that many like YOU cannot read a simple post.  I was asking other submissives how they felt about doing housework around children.  It is a VERY simple question and YET I get dommes and people like you telling me HOW I SHOULD feel about it.  I feel the way I feel about it and I don't want to change my feelings about it, either..  About the only post worth considering is the one written by lobodomslavery.  I just wanted some input from other submissives.  Take your judgement and shove it, CarrieO.



Seems as though you proved mine and others statements that you are unable to separate "kink" from real life, and that for you it would be "lowering" yourself to doing "women's work." Based on your response, I would say that this woman would be better off NOT having you around her children at all. You seem to lack the restraint necessary to behave like mature adult.




CalifChick -> RE: Being dommed before Domme's children (12/5/2009 9:02:05 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ordinary

It's really not hard to see where lobo is coming from, if he can't separate himself from his desires long enough to realize that life is real, and dishes don't wash themselves.




Truer words were never spoken.

Cali




peppermint -> RE: Being dommed before Domme's children (12/5/2009 9:17:52 PM)

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I was asking other submissives how they felt about doing housework around children.


I have never had any problems with doing household chores while children watched.  I am also wondering why this is a problem for you.  You have not given us enough information to understand why you consider it a problem. 




Mercnbeth -> RE: Being dommed before Domme's children (12/5/2009 9:55:18 PM)

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...How do you feel about doing housework, etc. in front of their children?... 


this slave would feel wierd...not because she fetishizes housework, but because she was raised that housework is the children's job...not something they watch other people do while they sit on their asses.




LafayetteLady -> RE: Being dommed before Domme's children (12/5/2009 10:41:57 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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...How do you feel about doing housework, etc. in front of their children?... 


this slave would feel wierd...not because she fetishizes housework, but because she was raised that housework is the children's job...not something they watch other people do while they sit on their asses.



Now if I could just get my son to understand that concept. He seems to believe there are little fairies that come and take out the garbage, clean the bathroom, do the dishes and the laundry. Food miraculously appears in the fridge and the cabinets.

Since I don't particularly care for his current girlfriend, I guess it would be quite amusing to watch her discover that fact about him.




dreamerdreaming -> RE: Being dommed before Domme's children (12/5/2009 11:13:54 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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...How do you feel about doing housework, etc. in front of their children?... 


this slave would feel wierd...not because she fetishizes housework, but because she was raised that housework is the children's job...not something they watch other people do while they sit on their asses.


Exactly, thank you!




Llyren -> RE: Being dommed before Domme's children (12/5/2009 11:32:57 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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...How do you feel about doing housework, etc. in front of their children?... 


this slave would feel wierd...not because she fetishizes housework, but because she was raised that housework is the children's job...not something they watch other people do while they sit on their asses.


I agree.  I'd be uncomfortable at watching otherwise capable children lolling about while I scrubbed.  Or I'd probably be getting them involved in the cleaning as well.  I think children, boys and girls, should know how to do all basic household tasks.  Besides, I'm really, -really- bad at housecleaning, so I'd be uncomfortable for that reason in general.

I agree with those who think the OP is trying to rationalize getting out of doing something that doesn't cater to him sexually.




wandersalone -> RE: Being dommed before Domme's children (12/5/2009 11:40:41 PM)

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ORIGINAL: bootkisserboy

About the only post worth considering is the one written by lobodomslavery. 



uh oh that can't be good [:D]



You wanted a submissive's perspective..... I see nothing wrong with doing housework in front of a dominant's family.  Service does not need to be done in fish nets and latex maids outfits to please a dominant, in fact I think a lot of the time it is the submissive who is getting off on dressing up, the D type just want's their house cleaned!!




Acer49 -> RE: Being dommed before Domme's children (12/6/2009 12:14:01 AM)


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ORIGINAL: bootkisserboy

I have a question for other submissives and slaves.  A number of female Dommes have children at home and they want a service sub or slave to take care of their place.  How do you feel about doing housework, etc. in front of their children? 

I am curious how other feel about it.  To me, being a submissive is a private affair and I do like flirting with some public play, I don't like the idea of serving in front of children.  Thanks.



Not knowing what type of service she desires, it is hard to say. Doing basic domestic chores in front of a child is not going to damage them or you. However if she expects you to do it in the nude, I can see your concern. Talk and find out




lobodomslavery -> RE: Being dommed before Domme's children (12/6/2009 12:57:17 AM)

 Please dont take it personally. i just wouldnt be a slave to a married Woman or to someone who at least has a partner and You need a partner to create children in the first place, now if the Woman has no children but wishes to have some that would be different, if its done in the context of a loving marriage and You are the husband thats Your own business but for me to come into a relationship and be a slave to a married Woman or partnered Woman already, no i just dont think its correct for me to do that, the same as it is none of my businesss what a Woman's private domestic arrangement, kids no kids etc, in work, it is not my business to interfere in an already set up relationship and i would think i would be interfering, it also i think gives kids the wrong message, they have one Daddy , one Mammy, and ok people do do work around the house but the idea that someone comes in and works for nothing and that Mammy is a slave owner which is the direct message, no i dont think its right, like i say let them make up their own mind when they are older, there is plenty of information out there and it is likely to become more and more acceptable as time goes by certainly by the time those kids are adults and wish to become either Doms/Dommes or slaves or subs etc it is likely to be very mainstream
Kevin




lobodomslavery -> RE: Being dommed before Domme's children (12/6/2009 1:09:19 AM)

But then again i have so alienated myself from Dommes on this site that i doubt anyone of them would see me as a catch. Who wants someone who constantly sneezes and finds it sexy after all, amnt i a swine flu hazard. Laughs
Kevin




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