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WyldHrt -> RE: New to lifestyle/being a sub (12/12/2009 1:36:01 AM)
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Worst mistake - Losing common sense just because kink is involved.
Ding ding ding! Winner!
It can be really confusing for someone just discovering submission; it certainly was for me. For most s types, the goal is giving up control. Doing so often requires a bit of a mental shift, as most of us were raised to be in charge of our lives. When we make the decision to give that control to another for the first time, it can be a bit disorienting. Add to that the enormous amount of disinformation that most new folks on both sides of the kneel tend to run into when first exploring, and it's no wonder that internal compasses get confused.
You will hear this said often on the boards, and it is true: a BDSM relationship is still a relationship. As a sub, you have every right to reject a potential partner for any reason, and to look for someone who will make you happy. You are under no obligation to submit to anyone just because they have a D on their shirt... no matter what some will tell you, lol.
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