Is Being Bi an Advantage or a complication

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MFM4me2 -> Is Being Bi an Advantage or a complication (12/16/2009 3:20:26 PM)
I think it was Woody Allen who joked that being bi doubles your chances of having a date on Saturday night. Not really. Most people want things clear cut - you're either straight or gay, Dom or sub - and gray areas make a lot of folks nervous. I think it makes for the best of all worlds and I enjoy a broad continuum of possibilities. Is being bisexual an advantage in a switch, or does it just complicate things?

LadyPact -> RE: Is Being Bi an Advantage or a complication (12/16/2009 3:56:13 PM)
I'm curious to know why the question applies only to someone who identifies as a switch, or if you would have posed the same question in regards to those who only identify as Dominant or submissive?

MFM4me2 -> RE: Is Being Bi an Advantage or a complication (12/16/2009 5:57:35 PM)
Hi LadyPact. I was thinking about the term "switch hitter" because it's often used to mean bi and it's how I describe myself - a classic switch hitter.. My question applies only to switches because I chose to ask it in the Ask a Switch forum. I could have posed the same basic question in the Dom or sub forums, or a realtors/guitar players/truck drivers/nurses forum for that matter, because there are bi and bi-curious people everywhere.

CarrieO -> RE: Is Being Bi an Advantage or a complication (12/16/2009 6:29:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MFM4me2 Is being bisexual an advantage in a switch, or does it just complicate things? Neither an advantage nor disadvantage. It has nothing to do with being a switch, imo, except for the fact you'll get people who not only tell you to make up your mind D/s wise but also in regards to gender preference. Just another label.

MFM4me2 -> RE: Is Being Bi an Advantage or a complication (12/16/2009 6:45:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CarrieO quote: ORIGINAL: MFM4me2 Is being bisexual an advantage in a switch, or does it just complicate things? Neither an advantage nor disadvantage. It has nothing to do with being a switch, imo, except for the fact you'll get people who not only tell you to make up your mind D/s wise but also in regards to gender preference. Just another label. Hi CarrieO. Thanks, that answers what I was getting at. But aren't there other people who think of it as a range of possibilities rather than an unwillingness to make up your mind?

CarrieO -> RE: Is Being Bi an Advantage or a complication (12/16/2009 7:07:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MFM4me2 Hi CarrieO. Thanks, that answers what I was getting at. But aren't there other people who think of it as a range of possibilities rather than an unwillingness to make up your mind? Of course there are people who see the possibilities...isn't that what makes the world go 'round? My point is it's neither here or there if a person identifies as a bi-switch, straight switch or a tri-poly-switch-only-during-the-full-moon ( now my head is spinning ). Unless, it becomes an issue for the parties involved...why does it matter? My comment about an unwillingness to make up your mind goes back to your mention of some people liking this to be clear cut. All these labels just make it easy to put someone in a box. Thank goodness for the square pegs that don't fit into the round holes...the un-boxables [;)]

sunshinemiss -> RE: Is Being Bi an Advantage or a complication (12/16/2009 7:12:27 PM)
oooo. I wanna be in the Carrie club of un-boxables.

VampiresLair -> RE: Is Being Bi an Advantage or a complication (12/16/2009 7:33:41 PM)
When you have a partner, then your being bi shouldnt really matter anymore. I have always found that it tends to be a disadvantage in some respects because a great deal of the partners I have had in the past equated bi with threesome seeking sex fiend, rather than with simply attracted to both genders but choosing monogamy.

johndafreak -> RE: Is Being Bi an Advantage or a complication (12/16/2009 10:54:24 PM)
Is being switch an advantage in a bisexual, or does it just complicate things?

MFM4me2 -> RE: Is Being Bi an Advantage or a complication (12/17/2009 5:52:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: johndafreak Is being switch an advantage in a bisexual, or does it just complicate things? For me it's been more of an advantage in that it opens up more possibilities. It only complicates things with very vanilla partners, something I've promised myself I'll never do again. People's taboos can be unpredictable. I met this woman about a year and a half ago who has very little interest in straight men. I don't think many approve of bi men but when I told her I'm bi she was thrilled and always says she hopes she can see me with another guy someday. You never know.

StayPutDarling -> RE: Is Being Bi an Advantage or a complication (12/17/2009 7:16:12 PM)
I might be bisexual...but what really turns me on is intelligence. I look for people as, or more, intelligent than I am. It's what I'm naturally drawn to. And that eliminates a lot of people, regardless of gender. (Sorry, I normally just lurk, but this question caught my eye)

Underumam -> RE: Is Being Bi an Advantage or a complication (12/19/2009 5:24:38 PM)
I find labels to be extremely limiting and restrictive.......

MFM4me2 -> RE: Is Being Bi an Advantage or a complication (12/19/2009 9:32:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Underumam I find labels to be extremely limiting and restrictive....... I wouldn't appreciate being reduced to a label, or stereotyped by a label, but a certain amount of labeling is simply descriptive. I am a bisexual. That's not limiting or restrictive. It's a descriptive label, neither good or bad, that I can use to define myself and help explain to someone who I am until they know me more fully.

DrkJourney -> RE: Is Being Bi an Advantage or a complication (12/19/2009 9:42:36 PM)
Don't know about switches but in my little corner of the world it's a definite plus...lol

Andalusite -> RE: Is Being Bi an Advantage or a complication (12/20/2009 2:37:40 PM)
It has both advantages and disadvantages when I was seeking. In my current relationship structure, I'm playing with a woman who is masochistic and a bit submissive, in addition to my relationship with my Master. She and I aren't overtly sexually involved, and are not in a romantic relationship, it's more friendship and kinky play. He strongly preferred that I find a female rather than male playpartner, and hoped that I could find someone who was willing to play with both of us, so my being flexible in that respect was definitely an advantage. All three of us are having fun together. :)

XXlittlegirlXX -> RE: Is Being Bi an Advantage or a complication (12/24/2009 1:01:23 PM)
Altho i do agree with what someone has said about labels,i also think that labels make it easier for you to explain your interests without having to go do the list,and them come up with it on their own. It's a love hate relationship with labels. I think being bi is just what it is. It's apart of who you are like,like gays or straights are. How could it make things complicated besides falling for someone of the same sex,and them being straight.

VirginPotty -> RE: Is Being Bi an Advantage or a complication (1/13/2010 1:13:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: StayPutDarling I might be bisexual...but what really turns me on is intelligence. A good a$$ does it for me anyday! Shoot I can TALK to anybody, give me some tail![sm=ass.gif] To the OP, I see many advantages but no complications.

LadyeAutumn -> RE: Is Being Bi an Advantage or a complication (1/15/2010 4:04:01 PM)
I have found my open mind to be disadvantageous, actually. I am poly, bi, and a switch. I have had people tell me that I am simply unable to commit, despite my loving and committed relationship with my husband, my self-employment (which takes a LOT of commitment), and my devotion to my son. I like to think of myself as sexually open minded, but some people will always prefer to avoid shades of gray.

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