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CarrieO -> RE: what ive noticed (12/18/2009 8:16:00 AM)
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OP,
Since your original post wasn't really a question but instead a statement, I'll comment on that...and I'll try to do this without being rude because although your posts come across as crass and poorly written, you do make a point that in different ways has been posted or commented on before. I'm also not going to make comments on you personally, as I don't know you, or your profile, to be honest I really don't care to look at it.
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ive noticed that most , not all profiles for sub/slave women spell out specifically what their fantasies are and what they like/want but rarely do they spell out what they are and have to offer '
Yes, I agree, some (not all ) subs and slaves...both male and female...rarely spell out in their profiles what they offer beyond kink and play. It has been my experience that many people on CM, regardless of gender, create profiles in the hope of finding a play partner of fuck-buddy. Not that this is a bad thing...for some, it's all they can offer.
However, when I did have a fully written profile and was actually looking for a partner, I was quite clear about wanting a relationship and not simple playdates. Guess what, even with things spelled out, I still heard from men wanting nothing more than a quick fuck, regardless of what I had written for likes/dislikes and such. I've recieved emails from doms telling me they believe I have the makings of a good slave when my profile stated quite clearly I'm a dominant-leaning switch looking for switch and submissive men ONLY. I'm not sure how much clearer I could put it.
I've learned in my time here on CM that most people don't take the time to read a profile...especially those that have pictures ( I can only imagine their bookshelves...full of nothing but picture/board books). That won't stop me, if and when I do decide to start looking again, from creating a well-written and thoughtful profile. I understand, though, that few will bother with the content and instead look to see if the kinks match up.
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profiles on here are a sales pitch, period
I agree 100% with this statement and have always said the same. A profile is nothing more than an advertisement and you are the product being sold. This is true for any type of profile on any site...kink or vanilla. If you can't be creative enough to accentuate the positive aspects of who you are...how do you expect to draw interest? Posting a photo of T&A or your dangly bits only goes so far...everyone has a body, what makes you any different from the next piece of ass? In fact, when I see a profile with those types of photos and nothing but kink and fantasy, I get the impression its all they are...nothing but a fantasy...and little to offer outside of play.
In the end, if you want to know whether or not a person would be a good fit for you, you'll need to interact in person with them. Meet...talk...exchange ideas...you know, approach them like the human being that they are and not as a blow-up doll, there only for your enjoyment. If you want a toy...buy one at the store. If you want a person you can interact with...be a person people would want to spend time with.
Like my sig line says....This really isn't rocket science.
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