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armando476 -> What is a good place to find a mistress? (12/17/2009 8:17:40 PM)

Hello all I would like to meet a mistress, where can I go?



tsatske -> RE: What is a good place to find a mistress? (12/17/2009 8:29:25 PM)

a munch. really, there is no better place to meet people.
get active in the community in general. go to munches, and you will get invited to parties. post on the boards here, either fucking around on the random banter folders, or posting to discussions that interest you in community discussions, or both.
If you are an open, friendly people, and just try, at first, to meet people in general, it will make it easier for you to meet a Mistress. Really.



lobodomslavery -> RE: What is a good place to find a mistress? (12/18/2009 11:52:15 AM)

I disagree . A Fetish party I would say. I asked a Woman what Her orientation was at my last munch last Saturday night and She avoided the question simply saying that She is here to enjoy the evening. I was hoping to maybe serve Her but She did not follow it up so i let it go. A Fetish party definitely. With that in mind, I hope to Nimhneach in the new year- the Irish Fetish Party in Dublin- my local town
Kevin



theRose4U -> RE: What is a good place to find a mistress? (12/18/2009 11:54:50 AM)

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She avoided the question simply saying that She is here to enjoy the evening


That's dominant for "not interested in you or discussing why"



frankx -> RE: What is a good place to find a mistress? (12/18/2009 12:07:29 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: armando476

Hello all I would like to meet a mistress, where can I go?


You don't want to meet a woman? Huh!?



slavekal -> RE: What is a good place to find a mistress? (12/18/2009 12:20:59 PM)

EVERYPLACE.  Here, other BDSM sites, at work, at school, at fetish clubs and parties.  At vanilla clubs.  They are everywhere, but you have to learn how to spot them.  And you have to be willing to do the work.



darkfootsteps -> RE: What is a good place to find a mistress? (12/18/2009 12:49:39 PM)

you have to be one thing that sets you above anything else, "human" treat her like one as well, most Domme's want humanity in a sub...well I hope  so lol...talk to her find out what she likes vanilla as well...then if your really lucky..



GYPSYMAMBO -> RE: What is a good place to find a mistress? (12/18/2009 12:58:16 PM)

OP:
fetish workshops
courses
fet nights
conferences
munches
on-line
pro websites
through other kinsters
by accident
regular sites
at the supermarket
PTA
soccer game
schools
night classes
bar
meditation groups

 
you can FIND them there but wheather they TELL you or 
you become THEIRS is another story...
 
 
GM
 



lobodomslavery -> RE: What is a good place to find a mistress? (12/18/2009 2:16:27 PM)

Well i told Her i was sub so i didnt think She would be offended if i asked Her what Her orientation was. But like i say maybe wrong venue. Tried at a Fetish Party might work better. Also maybe converse with Her more , dont introduce kink straight away
Kevin



numuncular -> RE: What is a good place to find a mistress? (12/18/2009 6:57:34 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: armando476

Hello all I would like to meet a mistress, where can I go?

ghana, theres fucking millions of them there.

really though, as a lot of people have said, munches etc.
there do seem to be a lot of goths/emos into BDSM (i cant stand that sort of music myself) though those sort of gigs you'd stand a chance of bumping into someone, though of course theres no sensible way to start the right conversations there!
if you're lucky it could be anywhere, I met my last mistress by chance in a bar in budapest a couple of years ago.




AcademyForSlaves -> RE: What is a good place to find a mistress? (12/18/2009 9:34:33 PM)

Hi.

1-Here's a good place (Collar).

2-Local munches and events.

3-Adult classifieds in newspapers.

4-Mistress magazines.

5-BDSM personals and classifieds.

6-Femdom directories (you can find lots of those on our site's links page)

7-Femdom sites and their links pages.

Hope this helps.



armando476 -> RE: What is a good place to find a mistress? (12/19/2009 12:11:12 AM)

Thanks guys for your help. One question whe guys say Muches, what do you mean by that lol. I am new to this lifestyle so I do not know some terms...



GYPSYMAMBO -> RE: What is a good place to find a mistress? (12/19/2009 12:36:08 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: armando476

Hello all I would like to meet a mistress, where can I go?


ask Tiger...
 
GM



sunshinemiss -> RE: What is a good place to find a mistress? (12/19/2009 6:35:51 AM)

Armando --
Munches are usually lunch or dinner get togethers of lifestyle people.  It's generally pretty low key - meet at a restaurant, chat, get to know people.  Usually no fetish wear.  There is a certain amount of "posing" between people sometimes, but meh... you get to weed out the chaff from the grain.  Google that and things like bdsm groups, events, etc.  There is a LOT happening in your area.

Good luck.
sunshine



Drifa -> RE: What is a good place to find a mistress? (12/19/2009 7:51:35 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss
...Google that and things like bdsm groups, events, etc.  There is a LOT happening in your area....


Google specifically for your town and the term BDSM.



UrMyboi -> RE: What is a good place to find a mistress? (12/19/2009 8:43:34 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: slavekal

EVERYPLACE.  Here, other BDSM sites, at work, at school, at fetish clubs and parties.  At vanilla clubs.  They are everywhere, but you have to learn how to spot them.  And you have to be willing to do the work.


How do you learn how to spot them?? Is there a secret handshake or something?? If only it were that easy ...



slavekal -> RE: What is a good place to find a mistress? (12/19/2009 9:02:54 AM)

Perhaps "spot" was the wrong word. You have to gauge their domina interest/potential. There are a lot of ways to do that. I have met dommes in many environments, kinky and vanilla.



girlmorgan -> RE: What is a good place to find a mistress? (12/24/2009 10:51:42 AM)

You can always take the direct approach as everyone has suggested or you can allow it to simply happen when it is supposed to. Make friends with people, be subtle with conversation, drop hints of what you like.
By the way, not every dominant woman attends local community gatherings.
To add to the list: church and hospital: emergency



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