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RE: Brokenhearted. - 3/24/2006 10:28:33 AM

mistressandy

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i agree that whomever would hack your email is no friend of yours what you do in
your private life is your business and no one else should care i,m a very private person and not all my friends would understand me being a domm so the friends
that dont know,know me as wellas the friends that do only my desire for the dark side is kept to me move on and i hope you find true friends

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RE: Brokenhearted. - 3/24/2006 10:41:05 AM

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I lost my so called "best friend" of over 22 years when i told her about my being submissive and tried to explain about the lifestyle. She was horrified and said id "gone weird!".. I was very hurt at the time because i had supported her through a great deal over the years and couldnt believe she had turned her back on me like that.
I now realise she was no loss as she was never a true friend to me. I would rather be alone than have friends like that.
True friends accept you for who you are.. not who they want you to be or think you should be.
To open yourself to someone and explain about your sexuality and who you are and to have it thrown back in your face and be ridiculed hurts very much. I have had people in the past i trusted enough to tell then make me a laughing stock to others and go behind my back telling my family members also. BDSM is not an easy thing for vanilla people to understand and i am a shy person that just wanted to dive under the nearest stone and hide away when it happened.
With time i have learnt that i have found my true self which is wonderful in itself so i no longer feel ashamed of who i am but feel happy with the love and submission i am able to give my Master.
I may be "weird" to vanilla people but who is to say what is weird in this world today?. Just because someone does not understand something does not make it weird or unacceptable. Unfortunately people are quick to judge anyone they consider to be outside the "Norm" for them.
One thing i love about this Lifestlye is that there is a high level of acceptance for others. I went to a local BDSM/fetish gathering with my Master a few months ago and it was so relaxed and friendly. There were all sorts of people there with all sorts of fetish preferences having a good time and no one cared what they were dressed in or wearing. They were all people being themselves and having a good time... i think that is wonderful.

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RE: Brokenhearted. - 3/24/2006 10:52:23 AM

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My solution has always been to be honest and accept that not everyone will agree with the way I choose to live. I live my life for those that I choose to allow inside my circle and myself. Perhaps this experience will eventually help you to adopt a life philosophy that serves your satisfaction. I am willing to bet that you will be much happier when you do.

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RE: Brokenhearted. - 3/24/2006 10:57:04 AM

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Hi Mary,
Welcome to the boards. Good luck to you.

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RE: Brokenhearted. - 3/24/2006 11:01:26 AM

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You can always write to Me - I'm happy to chat with you. What kind of a friend would hack another's email???? What's unhealthy is having to hide things from those you care about. Find new friends. Good Luck - feel free to write.

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RE: Brokenhearted. - 3/29/2006 1:37:00 PM

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I never realized how many similar stories there are to this one. In my case, I left my husband and he threatened to tell my boss, my friends, my family, etc., if I didn't go back to him...I didn't, and he followed through. What a nightmare.

I'm sorry for what you've been through.

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RE: Brokenhearted. - 3/29/2006 2:04:38 PM

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I was so furious at my ex once..and I needed to access her email.. I was going to hack it once..could even use the legal way 'cause I knew the answer to her security question so I could've easily changed her password..I only made it half the way I couldn't possibly force myself into changing her password so withdrawed eventually..even did a couple of tries and I can't say I'm proud of it but even though it was my ex, she was my ex when was going to hack it, I just couldn't do it it was soooo far from being morally right no matter how angry I was..and if it was your best friend who did it..she doesn't deserve the smallest respect..people just aren't supposed to do those things and it's sad when it happens..

I'm sure you'll find a lot of great friends who'll accept you for who you are

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RE: Brokenhearted. - 3/29/2006 2:17:01 PM

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Welcome to Our Lil Family plase make your self comfey and have fun. Some of Us don't bite ( Hard) .

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RE: Brokenhearted. - 3/29/2006 2:47:56 PM

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I agree with JohnWarren entirely. This was not a friend; not only because she hacked your mail, but also because she judged you so harshly. This judgement showed she was not interested in you, just whatever she percieved you to be as an adjunct to herself.

Being new and needing friends, you should join CAPEX or SSCN in Charlotte or Raleigh.

Sir Si

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RE: Brokenhearted. - 3/29/2006 3:13:33 PM

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Good evening MissPrivate, and welcome to the forums :)

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RE: Brokenhearted. - 3/29/2006 3:20:45 PM

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Missprivate, I am so sorry for the loss of your friendship. That's never an easy thing to endure. However, as someone stated earlier, if she is going to judge you that harshly for your chosen lifestyle, then she wasn't a true friend to begin with. The sting will lessen with time and you'll be stronger for it. Also, I'm cute and cuddly so I'd be happy to be your friend. You sound like a really sweet person. Welcome to CM.

P.S. I'm glad you asked about the ice cream cone. I didn't for fear of sounding like a total noob. hehehehe

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RE: Brokenhearted. - 3/29/2006 4:40:03 PM

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Interesting post - and I agree with the others that you will find friends here.

One of the things that your "friend" revealed was her controlling nature. The act of breaking in to your system was an act of control. She probably did other similar things that you might not have recognized. I take it you are of a submissive nature? (Just guessing...) This could be useful information to you as you find new "true" friends. :-)

Have fun in your adventure.

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RE: Brokenhearted. - 3/29/2006 5:02:39 PM

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Mary,

Welcome to CM from another newbie. One that you count as a true friend would never abuse your trust that way. Chalk it up as a lesson learned and be more cautious who you call a friend. There's nothing wrong or bad with the lifestyle we are a part of. It's just not for everyone and they don't understand the inner beauty of this kind of life. Feel sorry for them, they are the one's that can't come to terms with their true selves.

Feel free to write to me anytime if you'd like to become friends. I too am looking for friends.

Angellica

< Message edited by Angellica -- 3/29/2006 5:07:05 PM >

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RE: Brokenhearted. - 3/30/2006 2:04:24 PM

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yeah, everyone seems to be in consensus, you are much bettter off with out her. Only the ignorant and small minded judge others and attempt to label them. The height of hypocrisy is to do vile, underhanded, disgusting and last I heard illegal, things to their supposed 'friends', and then somehow find the gall to suggest that they are the one who is disgusting. True friends support you!

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