Aynne88
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ORIGINAL: Hiskajirah Greetings zeph This is why even though I'm fairly well versed in the books and understand the meaning behind them, we live by what is realistic. The institution of marriage didn't exist in the books. A man doesn't marry his slave. They can be free companions. We're certainly not going to get divorced to fit this. He is my Master and I am his slave. I cannot say I've always been mastered, but I can say I've always been property. Back in the day it was by marriage that a woman became the property of man. Master AnimusRex said "I can only speak from my own life experience- but I believe that love can be the engine that drives a level of servitude that goes deeper, further, to more extremes than any kink" And I couldn't agree more. I have a hard time believing those that say... I don't want love, I don't need love, I rather have his mastery... Everyone yearns to feel love. It takes finding the right master and the man finding the right slave. All females manipulate to a point. We got Adam to bite that apple didn't we? Come're baby, look at this.. ? Doesn't it look yummy..? She probably enticed him, teased his lips with it's juices..even thought he already said NO.. he submitted and ate. And men, sometimes they do things similar even still.. it doesn't always mean their union is headed for doom.. but it does mean he can't keep allowing it or it will become doomed. I mean.. I've gotten something a time or two after sucking his yum yum like a golf ball out of a garden hose... Does that mean I manipulated him? ~laughs Warm wishes, ~twinkle Greetings beautiful twinkle ;) I know as a non-Gorean I always risk criticism by posting here but hopefully I can convey this correctly. I admit when I first came here I didn't always express myself with respect or understanding to the Gorean ethos and for that I apologize, but isn't it said that when you know better you do better? of course I paraphrase. . I think Zeph's question and her thoughts on it are quite correct and I also love what you and AnimusRex have said. I couldn't be mastered and obedient and especially compelled to please him as I do if I were not so loved and in love. It is his love that is the catalyst to drive me to want to please him in every way possible, sexually, of course, but I am much more than a "pleasure" slave. I work in his business, and I work very hard for him in that capacity. I cater to his every need and desire, and his love for me is in no way something that I use to maniplate him. Of course he loves having a beautiful girl at his feet in the evening, or bringing him coffee in the morning, or cleaning his home or whatever else I anticipate he may desire, but I don't understand the idea that his love for me weakens his Mastery of me. I am sure for some men that can't be as strict and punitive as needed if they are blinded by love for their slaves, but that is not my experience. I believe it is quite possible to love your possession and still wield the whip and hold the reigns firmly, if the man himself is in control of his dominance and position. When I dissapoint him I am quickly and firmly corrected, and it isn't pleasant. I don't beleive in the whole "funishment" thing, if he wants to beat me he just does so, and if I err, he quickly reminds me of my place, and my tears mean nothing at that time. He also holds me close, loves me, and treats me like a treasured possession. He doesn't however ever let me forget my place, nor do I want to. Do I manipulate him? I don't know, I mean I know that if he had a bad day or if he is stressed out I love to put on a super sexy lingerie outfit and prepare a wonderful meal in the nude with heels on and cajole him out of it, if that is maipulation, he seems to not mind it. . Love and mastery can indeed go hand in hand and enhance a relationship for this couple anyway. Thanks Zeph for a great discussion and I hope that I expressed my thoughts concisely here. I wish you all well~ Aynne
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As long as people will shed the blood of innocent creatures there can be no peace, no liberty, no harmony between people. Slaughter and justice cannot dwell together. —Isaac Bashevis Singer, writer and Nobel laureate (1902–1991)
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