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switch relationship - 12/23/2009 10:48:29 PM

XXlittlegirlXX

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Has any switchs been in a relationship that was with another switch? Did it work out,or is this just considered two playmates having kinky sex? I'm really confused as if it would be consider a D/s relatonship if it's switched between the two,depending on moods and other things. Is it possible?

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RE: switch relationship - 12/24/2009 12:12:41 AM

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Hi XXlittlegirlXX, heres a bit about my partner and me...

Both of us are primarily dominant. Before Steve I was long term with another dominant partner. I never submitted to that partner and we lived a kind of on scene vanilla relationship. We both had our own submissive. Before him I always had a submissive partner.
Steve had submissive partners too up until meeting me and at that point neither of us could really get our heads around a switch type relationship but both of us knew that we were unfulfilled. There was always something lacking

My past relationships had no depth. Steves past relationships had no depth. They were selfish relationships in an unhealthy way..... at least for us.
I was never interested in calling a man Master or Sir... thats not my fantasy. I was never ready to just submit because thats not my fantasy either.
I really couldn't analyze what it is I wanted out of a relationship and the reason I believe is because up until meeting Steve I never truly and deeply trusted someone. Don't get me wrong, I loved exploring someones submission but as I uncovered the layers I just kept finding the same thing and I needed more. I needed a soul mate.
When Steve and me got together it was not for the D/s. We both knew we had a lot of similar kinky interests but we also needed to get on, on a mutual level. We were able to weigh each other up, test each other out and bounce off each other emotionally and physically.
Before Steve I had tried to taste submission but it just left a bad taste in my mouth. With Steve it was the most natural thing in the world. I wasn't scared or repulsed by Steves submission to me, I was enthralled, excited and enchanted by it.
We were both known for being pretty hard core dominants but what we both discovered is that we can be pretty hard core submissives too!. It becomes verbal, disciplined and even frightening... it is very real, very raw and feels incredibly primal.
So we are switches... we are liberated... we are very connected... we are everything we ever wanted to be rolled into one.... we are best friends.... deepest of lovers .... very, very real and we are absolutely complete. Nothing other than that matters

< Message edited by allthatjaz -- 12/24/2009 12:57:21 AM >

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RE: switch relationship - 12/24/2009 12:24:06 AM

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allthatjazz, that's beautiful. :)

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RE: switch relationship - 12/24/2009 11:37:43 AM

XXlittlegirlXX

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Oh wow Allthatjaz, That was a beautiful and heart warming little short story of how you found your soul mate.Speically the ending, It made me fuzz all inside,and I'm glad to know that this sort of relationship is something that can happen.

Also does your name have anything to do with the movie? beacuse if so,awesome! It's a good movie.

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RE: switch relationship - 12/25/2009 10:19:44 AM

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If that is the kind of relationship that you seek, then certainly others out there are seeking something very similar.

As a switch myself, I think being with another switch who I had a strong connection with would be wonderful.

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RE: switch relationship - 12/26/2009 4:57:09 AM

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Thanks sweetsub and XXlittlegirlXX
I actually named myself after one of my Bengal cats!

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RE: switch relationship - 12/26/2009 2:41:59 PM

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I've been involved with a couple of other switches, but I haven't felt dominant and submissive toward the same person. I could thwack someone who I felt submissive toward, or bottom to someone who I felt dominant toward, or we could be in an egalitarian kinky relationship. Currently I'm a slave and have a female submissive playpartner. I don't switch with either of them, but sometimes top and bottom within the same scene or at the same party.

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