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Men of Colour - 12/24/2009 12:41:52 PM

subwhite4u

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It just feels so right to me that I should submit and surrender to a man of colour. But it is so difficult finding a black dominant over here in england. Can anyone help me please

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RE: Men of Colour - 12/24/2009 12:51:07 PM

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My only suggestion is when you find someone you want to get to know, just talk to them like you would anyone else. Don't bring up color at all. By looking at your nik and this subject in general it could possibly be a put off.

I am only speaking from my experience. When someone contacted me and all they could talk about was my color I was instantly not interested. Not only because I specifically stated I didn't want to discuss this subject on my profile that I had at the time, but no one wants to be chosen just because what color they are, hair color, eye color, or just because we are in the same location, a person likes to think they were chosen because something in their profile appealed to you and you thought we had something in common.

Everyone has preferences, but in some cases it's really not necessary to state them. Black people are just that people...not some fetish on the list to the left.

Good luck on your search

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RE: Men of Colour - 12/24/2009 2:20:14 PM

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ORIGINAL: DrkJourney

Don't bring up color at all.

It is a specific trait that he is seeking in a potential partner.

He may as well eliminate mentioning wanting a specific gender of partner too, then.

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ORIGINAL: DrkJourney

Black people are just that people...not some fetish on the list to the left.

Skin color can indeed be a fetish. As can anything. At very least, it's an honest preference.

OP,

I've seen plenty of female s-types gear their profile to mentioning wanting to serve specific ethnicities or people of a certain skin color. I don't see why you couldn't just as easily mention it as a male.

But asking how to find a partner of any type is a rhetorical question. Find venues where you're more likely to run into people matching the prerequisites you want and understand the likelihood of finding such a mate.

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RE: Men of Colour - 12/24/2009 4:26:36 PM

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OP, you state in your profile that you're gay, but that you're looking for Doms of both genders. ????

You joined today, and are complaining how hard it is?

There HAS to be a gay scene in Manchester. Go out and meet people there.

Also... in your profile, I think you mean "gentle", not "gentile".

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RE: Men of Colour - 12/24/2009 4:32:42 PM

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I'm sorry, but the "gentile" made me LOL.

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RE: Men of Colour - 12/24/2009 8:06:00 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

quote:

ORIGINAL: DrkJourney

Don't bring up color at all.

It is a specific trait that he is seeking in a potential partner.

He may as well eliminate mentioning wanting a specific gender of partner too, then.

quote:

ORIGINAL: DrkJourney

Black people are just that people...not some fetish on the list to the left.

Skin color can indeed be a fetish. As can anything. At very least, it's an honest preference.

OP,

I've seen plenty of female s-types gear their profile to mentioning wanting to serve specific ethnicities or people of a certain skin color. I don't see why you couldn't just as easily mention it as a male.

But asking how to find a partner of any type is a rhetorical question. Find venues where you're more likely to run into people matching the prerequisites you want and understand the likelihood of finding such a mate.

As I stated it's just my opinion from my experiences and from talking to others of "color" and not the standpoint of the billions that think it's cool. It was presented as one option of why it may be difficult, I never once said "do it this way". And just because it's mentioned in "many" other profiles doesn't mean the target audience is particularly into it. Funny thought I was entitled to my opinion just like everyone else. If he doesn't want to take the advice he doesn't have to.

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RE: Men of Colour - 12/24/2009 9:00:53 PM

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