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Being a Switch 24/7 (lol, what?!) - 12/25/2009 11:00:03 AM

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So here is one I think about sometimes. It sounds really hot in my mind... even though I can't actually conceptualize how precisely it would work.

Assuming you have two people that actually enjoy both dominant and submissive roles, I wonder how high percentage of the time the two of you could actually get up to employing any kind of power exchange. I don't actually know how that could even work, but uh... I think it might be fun to try anyway.

The hard part would be the switching. Even if you assume one role for days, at some point the tides would have to turn near instantaneously to institute the reverse dynamic, communication would be key here but actually pulling it off consistently without falling back into vanilla mode would be very challenging.

I wish I had fantastic ideas to contribute to this discussion, I'm just amused by the idea and think it's a fun thought experiment. It's probably nearly impossible to pull off in practice, but I'd love hear everyone's thoughts.

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RE: Being a Switch 24/7 (lol, what?!) - 12/25/2009 7:29:28 PM

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We flip over real fast if you hold a really big magnet up to one end (just kidding).

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RE: Being a Switch 24/7 (lol, what?!) - 12/25/2009 7:34:23 PM

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I wouldn't say my boy is a switch, but sometimes I do submit to him and he takes power. It's not anything that we really discuss, the switch just happens naturally for us. We sense eachother's moods and act accordingly.

With a couple that enjoy more of a 24/7 -type relationship I could see how the when and where of a switch might have to be talked out, but for me at least, the switch flips fairly easily.

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RE: Being a Switch 24/7 (lol, what?!) - 12/26/2009 4:54:21 AM

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I would say that we are switch 24/7 but its probably too complex to explain in words.
both of us are more dominant than we are submissive. I would go as far as to say that neither of are submissive but we will relent and be subdued by one another.
When it comes to some action we are a bit like two tigers weighing each other up... both of us wanting to dominate.... both of us ready for the fight.
The rest of the time we are a fighting team that drive each other to do well, to succeed, to achieve and to make one another lives blissful.
Its funny but with all this power exchange going on, we rarely argue and never ever fall out.

I wouldn't have it any other way. This is pure perfection.

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RE: Being a Switch 24/7 (lol, what?!) - 12/26/2009 3:52:36 PM

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we've got a circle worn into the rug from chasing each other with paddles.

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RE: Being a Switch 24/7 (lol, what?!) - 12/27/2009 12:00:28 PM

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to be honest i don't think it's that hard to have two switchs play. Just got to be honest and talk about what moods you're in. Hell,if you're both in a dominant mood,you can have a little ''battle'' so to speak,and whoever wins gets to be the top for the time being. You would just have to be two true switchs,and not have one person more dominant or submissive beacuse something like that would tilt towards that instead of being in the middle,balance. I've just myself got into a play relationship with another switch,however i believe he is more submissive. Basically i think the biggest thing is you'd have to be creative,open and be in tune with your moods. those are my thoughts

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RE: Being a Switch 24/7 (lol, what?!) - 12/28/2009 3:49:01 AM

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I would go as far as to say that neither of are submissive but we will relent and be subdued by one another.

Maria, are there times when one of you is just not in that mood, and refuses? If so, I would assume that it doesn't become an issue for you two.

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RE: Being a Switch 24/7 (lol, what?!) - 12/28/2009 6:46:59 PM

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Hi Level, I will be totally honest with you here. I never feel in the mood to submit and I know Steve doesn't either. We are both always ready to dominate, often sadistically. Steve is obviously the stronger of the two of us and so if he decides he's going to wipe the floor with me he does! I tend to be the more cunning of the two of us and just make sure I get in there first... often in a kind of sneaky way! There have been a few instances when I resent him wiping the floor with my arse, especially if I thought I got in there first and he throws it right back at me. I don't ever sulk about it but I will tell him in no uncertain terms that its not on and for a few days after I usually get my own way and am consequently in sadistic heaven!

I don't know how this would work if we were both leaning towards the sub side. I would love to hear from people that do.

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RE: Being a Switch 24/7 (lol, what?!) - 12/28/2009 7:46:59 PM

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Hi Maria. That's a good question; I wonder if it's tougher if one leans to the submissive side, or from the dominant side, to "go over".

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RE: Being a Switch 24/7 (lol, what?!) - 12/29/2009 1:55:49 AM

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I believe its far easier for two dominant types than it is for two submissive types but then I would, wouldn't I!!
I can't answer for the submissive types but I believe the reason it works so well for dominant types is because we both have the urge to lead. So long as we can agree on the core elements the principle of the relationship and the direction it should take, then having a functional relationship is easy.

In my past relationship which was very much D/D, we never scened together at all and yet it still worked very well for a long time. I think it was to do with the fact that we both had the same interest and could talk about it together till the cows came home. The problem was we couldn't get intimately excited about one another other than in a vanilla way.
Sexual dominance is very important to both Steve and me and I am wondering how that goes with a submissive couple.

I do know a few sub/sub couples that switch and they seem to have very strong relationships.

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RE: Being a Switch 24/7 (lol, what?!) - 12/29/2009 3:11:21 AM

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Good point about leadership; as long as both parties are rowing in the same direction, there's no reason it can't work. Lots of food for thought here

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RE: Being a Switch 24/7 (lol, what?!) - 12/29/2009 10:15:11 AM

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I do know a few sub/sub couples that switch and they seem to have very strong relationships.

I started as a sub and only tried topping for my sub boyfriend. Turns out I really like topping, so I switched to switch. I tend to adapt and flow really easily, so being sub/sub was met as a challenge to do something with rather than an uphill battle.

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RE: Being a Switch 24/7 (lol, what?!) - 1/1/2010 3:59:30 PM

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One of the most dynamic couples I've ever known were a switch couple, though both leaned more toward having dominant/alpha personalities. They'd flip a coin, and see who was going to be bottoming that day/week. I kid you not! I absolutely loved to watch them play, and enjoyed bottoming to them. Their energy, enthusiasm, and creativity was amazing. I don't know how practical their approach would be, for just any couple, but it worked for them.

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