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shahaba -> Rule Suggestions (12/25/2009 10:32:08 PM)
My past relationships have only been d/s within the bedroom, but I find myself becoming more and more interest in trying something closer to 24/7 with my next sub. I've started to compile a list of rules for my sub to follow. Of course all the basic stuff is there such as, "My sub will obey my commands without hesitation." and "Failing to comply with my commands will result in punishment." I've also come up with several which may not be so universal such as. "My sub is free to remove any clothing but is not to put any clothes on without my permission" What rules do you have for your sub/slave or do you have any suggestions?

LadyPact -> RE: Rule Suggestions (12/25/2009 11:30:34 PM)
My past relationships have only been d/s within the bedroom, but I find myself becoming more and more interest in trying something closer to 24/7 with my next sub. Fairly obvious from the content of the post. I've started to compile a list of rules for my sub to follow. Of course all the basic stuff is there such as, "My sub will obey my commands without hesitation." Great. Up until that time that you inadvertently command something that is harmful or damaging. and "Failing to comply with my commands will result in punishment." Funny, I'm more the type to know why first. To each their own, I guess. I've also come up with several which may not be so universal such as. "My sub is free to remove any clothing but is not to put any clothes on without my permission" Cool. What happens if there's a fire and you're not home? How about if she isn't dressed and the newspaper delivery boy or the mailman is at the door? What rules do you have for your sub/slave or do you have any suggestions? Yes. I have quite a few on things such as full disclosure, participation in protocols and rituals, etc. My actual suggestion to you is that you get your feet wet in a 24/7 situation so you know what works and what doesn't. You can create up all the uber Dom sounding rules that you like. If they aren't practical, they don't work.

agirl -> RE: Rule Suggestions (12/26/2009 3:42:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shahaba My past relationships have only been d/s within the bedroom, but I find myself becoming more and more interest in trying something closer to 24/7 with my next sub. I've started to compile a list of rules for my sub to follow. Of course all the basic stuff is there such as, "My sub will obey my commands without hesitation." and "Failing to comply with my commands will result in punishment." I've also come up with several which may not be so universal such as. "My sub is free to remove any clothing but is not to put any clothes on without my permission" What rules do you have for your sub/slave or do you have any suggestions? I had lots of ideas about child rearing until I actually had a child.The children I got didn't fit my ideas and the mother I was, didn't fit them either.....lol Just out of curiousity, why do you want to make lists of rules for some girl you haven't so much as found yet? Echoing LadyPact, it's an idea to actually have a go at it and find out where rules might be a helpful and workable option for both you and your girl. agirl

SirJohnMandevill -> RE: Rule Suggestions (12/26/2009 4:44:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shahaba My past relationships have only been d/s within the bedroom, but I find myself becoming more and more interest in trying something closer to 24/7 with my next sub. I've started to compile a list of rules for my sub to follow. Of course all the basic stuff is there such as, "My sub will obey my commands without hesitation." and "Failing to comply with my commands will result in punishment." I've also come up with several which may not be so universal such as. "My sub is free to remove any clothing but is not to put any clothes on without my permission" What rules do you have for your sub/slave or do you have any suggestions? Well, the only "rule" my submissive love and I have is that she be barefoot when we play...and even that I modify if our scene calls for it. This is really so dependent on your submissive and how you interact. No harm in having these rules in your mind, but be willing to modify them and come up with new rules once you actually are involved with someone. Just my .02 zlotys.... [sm=chug.gif] Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink)

antipode -> RE: Rule Suggestions (12/26/2009 5:24:12 AM)
quote: What rules do you have for your sub/slave or do you have any suggestions? Is this what you think domination is? A really short list of contractual terms? I am not seeing, either, how this relates to a 24/7 relationship. Please explain..

Aileen1968 -> RE: Rule Suggestions (12/26/2009 5:45:38 AM)
I only have three rules that I have to follow. 1. I do what he says 2. I never lie to him 3. No one but him touches me sexually ever. Easy.

KatyLied -> RE: Rule Suggestions (12/26/2009 6:26:35 AM)
I like Aileen's rules. I think that less is more when it comes to rules. Those that lend themselves to expected behavior and complete transparency at the best.

DarkSteven -> RE: Rule Suggestions (12/26/2009 6:31:27 AM)
I love the answers you've been given. All of 'em.

osf -> RE: Rule Suggestions (12/26/2009 6:38:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 I only have three rules that I have to follow. 1. I do what he says 2. I never lie to him 3. No one but him touches me sexually ever. Easy. i can see a possible conflict between #1 and #3

Aileen1968 -> RE: Rule Suggestions (12/26/2009 6:44:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 I only have three rules that I have to follow. 1. I do what he says 2. I never lie to him 3. No one but him touches me sexually ever. Easy. i can see a possible conflict between #1 and #3 He doesn't share. No conflict at all. edited to add...if #3 were to occur it would be based on a choice I made unbeknownst to him and would end the relationship immediately.

osf -> RE: Rule Suggestions (12/26/2009 7:12:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 I only have three rules that I have to follow. 1. I do what he says 2. I never lie to him 3. No one but him touches me sexually ever. Easy. i can see a possible conflict between #1 and #3 He doesn't share. No conflict at all. edited to add...if #3 were to occur it would be based on a choice I made unbeknownst to him and would end the relationship immediately. so rule one should be, i'll do what he says, unless i don't want to

Aileen1968 -> RE: Rule Suggestions (12/26/2009 7:24:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 I only have three rules that I have to follow. 1. I do what he says 2. I never lie to him 3. No one but him touches me sexually ever. Easy. i can see a possible conflict between #1 and #3 He doesn't share. No conflict at all. edited to add...if #3 were to occur it would be based on a choice I made unbeknownst to him and would end the relationship immediately. so rule one should be, i'll do what he says, unless i don't want to heh..you're making this way too complicated then it is. OK. I know that if I purposely go against any of these rules then I am heading down the path of relationship destruction. I know that. If I choose to stop submitting to him, to lie to him or to fuck someone else it's because I want the relationship to end. We are also a realistic, real time, in the flesh couple and if he was to tell me to jump off a bridge I'd say fuck no. And then call him a douche. He would never tell me to do that and I'd never not tell him he was a fucktard if he did. As it is, I fell in love with someone that completely compliments me, my mind, my personality and my kink. It's a fucking rare match. So I do what he says without question because I love him and I love our relationship. Not enough coffee and rambling...

osf -> RE: Rule Suggestions (12/26/2009 7:32:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 I only have three rules that I have to follow. 1. I do what he says 2. I never lie to him 3. No one but him touches me sexually ever. Easy. i can see a possible conflict between #1 and #3 He doesn't share. No conflict at all. edited to add...if #3 were to occur it would be based on a choice I made unbeknownst to him and would end the relationship immediately. so rule one should be, i'll do what he says, unless i don't want to heh..you're making this way too complicated then it is. OK. I know that if I purposely go against any of these rules then I am heading down the path of relationship destruction. I know that. If I choose to stop submitting to him, to lie to him or to fuck someone else it's because I want the relationship to end. We are also a realistic, real time, in the flesh couple and if he was to tell me to jump off a bridge I'd say fuck no. And then call him a douche. He would never tell me to do that and I'd never not tell him he was a fucktard if he did. As it is, I fell in love with someone that completely compliments me, my mind, my personality and my kink. It's a fucking rare match. So I do what he says without question because I love him and I love our relationship. Not enough coffee and rambling... i'm not an absolutest about anything shit happens if there were something i wanted that she absolutely couldn't do i would accept that occasionally but still it would require punishment of such magnitude as to instill in her idea that she didn't get away with anything otherwise it would become easier and easier for her to rebel that is not to say that if her refusal became willful and repetitive i wouldn't end the relationship, for the relationship is already ended

subangi -> RE: Rule Suggestions (12/26/2009 8:11:07 AM)
I think with any relationship you need to start out simple and slow and work your way up to expectations. This way, you get to know and learn about each other. I get more excited when a command or expectation is added to the list, but not when I enter into it with a list. But, more than anything, I need to feel the person I am with is dominant, and that has nothing to do with a list of rules. I need to want and yearn to be with him and feel an eagerness to serve. I want to be able to memorize his mannerisms, likes, preferences, and be able to serve him without being told every time. If I enter into a relationship with rules before getting to know each other, it is more like a play session or role play, which is much different than 24/7.

osf -> RE: Rule Suggestions (12/26/2009 8:22:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subangi I think with any relationship you need to start out simple and slow and work your way up to expectations. This way, you get to know and learn about each other. I get more excited when a command or expectation is added to the list, but not when I enter into it with a list. But, more than anything, I need to feel the person I am with is dominant, and that has nothing to do with a list of rules. I need to want and yearn to be with him and feel an eagerness to serve. I want to be able to memorize his mannerisms, likes, preferences, and be able to serve him without being told every time. If I enter into a relationship with rules before getting to know each other, it is more like a play session or role play, which is much different than 24/7. i'm not talking about rules, rules can be to specific, i sorta prefer guidlines plus rules anyway i was referring to a specific thing, whatever it may be

Acer49 -> RE: Rule Suggestions (12/26/2009 8:53:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shahaba My past relationships have only been d/s within the bedroom, but I find myself becoming more and more interest in trying something closer to 24/7 with my next sub. I've started to compile a list of rules for my sub to follow. Of course all the basic stuff is there such as, "My sub will obey my commands without hesitation." and "Failing to comply with my commands will result in punishment." I've also come up with several which may not be so universal such as. "My sub is free to remove any clothing but is not to put any clothes on without my permission" What rules do you have for your sub/slave or do you have any suggestions? And then he woke up... [:)] Sorry just had to say that I am not one much for a ton rules because then, I have to remember them all. I perfer the "KISS approach" (Keep it simple, stupid) Mutual Respect and Integrity Mutual Honesty Mutual Faithfulness Total Communication Never ask you partner to do something you yourself would not do Never forget to to show your partner you love them, Especially, if you are mad at them The rest will work itself out....

osf -> RE: Rule Suggestions (12/26/2009 8:57:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Acer49 quote: ORIGINAL: shahaba My past relationships have only been d/s within the bedroom, but I find myself becoming more and more interest in trying something closer to 24/7 with my next sub. I've started to compile a list of rules for my sub to follow. Of course all the basic stuff is there such as, "My sub will obey my commands without hesitation." and "Failing to comply with my commands will result in punishment." I've also come up with several which may not be so universal such as. "My sub is free to remove any clothing but is not to put any clothes on without my permission" What rules do you have for your sub/slave or do you have any suggestions? And then he woke up... [:)] Sorry just had to say that I am not one much for a ton rules because then, I have to remember them all. I perfer the "KISS approach" (Keep it simple, stupid) Mutual Respect and Integrity Mutual Honesty Mutual Faithfulness Total Communication Never ask you partner to do something you yourself would not do Never forget to to show your partner you love them, Especially, if you are mad at them The rest will work itself out.... make her carry around the rule book so you can refer to it when you think she may have broken one and add new ones so you can punish her for the current infraction of the rule that should have been there

subangi -> RE: Rule Suggestions (12/26/2009 9:06:50 AM)
Sorry osf, I was replying to the OP, and didnt mean to reply to your specific reply.

osf -> RE: Rule Suggestions (12/26/2009 9:17:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subangi Sorry osf, I was replying to the OP, and didnt mean to reply to your specific reply. no problem but i stand by my reply to your non reply

MasterSlaveLA -> RE: Rule Suggestions (12/26/2009 3:28:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shahaba ...do you have any suggestions? Sure thing... here ya go: No shitting in the car. No exluding the family pets from Movie Night. Hot dogs may only be eaten with chop sticks. Apologies are to be directly given to any fruit or veggie prior to eating, 'cause they have feelings too! No green pens or markers in the house... ever! That goes for pencils too. No abbreviation of television as "TV"... same holds true of Kentucky Fried Chicken, aka KFC. All corners are to be folded at 90 degrees... 'cause if it's not a RIGHT angle, it's a WRONG angle! No playing "Hide 'n Seek" at Walmart. No humming of the "Andy Griffith Show" theme music. No skinny-dipping in water... only Jell-O... and LIME Jell-O at that. All CDs and DVDs are to be stored in REVERSE alphabetical order. Upon waking, stand atop a chair and shout, "Oh Captain, My Captain!" The word "pickle" shall NEVER be used in this house. Craft a 6ft tall by 4ft wide tribute to whomever wins each years American Idol. Count aloud the turns required to both remove and replace any light bulbs. Bath soap shall be limited to ONLY those with an "O" in the brand name. Breasts must always GLISTEN... keep a spray bottle on you at all times. Be able to sing the School House Rock "Noun" song upon request. Never run with scissors... 'cause that just makes good sense, dammit!!! Okay... that should get you started. NOW CRACK THE WHIP, 'cause the stupid cunt needs to learn!!!

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