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RE: on your list of requirements - 12/30/2009 2:05:55 PM

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ahhhhh domi, such a romantic.

Just dreamy ain't he?!?!

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RE: on your list of requirements - 12/30/2009 2:11:34 PM

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Intelligence comes before anything else. Life-smart as well as book. Not just the everyday common sense that most people should have but many people lack. I like someone that forces me to sometimes look in a dictionary to learn what they mean. Fortunately I have him. I had to look in the dictionary today. Giant turn on.

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RE: on your list of requirements - 12/30/2009 2:12:13 PM

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A healthy ego

1. someone who doesn't trip over their ego
2..someone who has a depth of understanding
3. someone who has a natural ability to control without calling importance to themself
4. someone who is true to themself and their beliefs without the need to bash others or try to be a pipe piper

Smarter then me
1.someone who can think out of the box, instead of putting themself in a prison
2. someone who has a thirst to learn many different things.
3. someone who can understand a challenge genius.
4. someone who isn't a bore or needs to put another down to show how smart they think they are.

Someone who see the positive in me and embraces it.
1. To embrace all of me, and yet want to help me improve
2. To understand my thirst to learn and explore.

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RE: on your list of requirements - 12/30/2009 2:12:58 PM

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ORIGINAL: Delphinus

Intelligence comes before anything else. Life-smart as well as book. Not just the everyday common sense that most people should have but many people lack. I like someone that forces me to sometimes look in a dictionary to learn what they mean. Fortunately I have him. I had to look in the dictionary today. Giant turn on.

the dictionary is an erogenous zone i've never heard of, but it interests me

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RE: on your list of requirements - 12/30/2009 2:14:35 PM

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on your list of requirements for a potential mate how do you rank your requirements, assuming it's the opposite sex

for me a need to be obedient is high

I'm trying to figure out the best way to answer this. I have an equality based primary relationship, so kink and authority weren't on the list when it came to My husband. Character, integrity, honesty, attitude about life, loyalty, values close to My own, the ability to compromise, sense of humor, intelligent, romance, and other things that I'm thinking most people want in a partner.

In a submissive (because I'm poly) I want those same types of character traits, plus I want the things that go with a power imbalance dynamic. That includes the stuff like obedience, ritual, protocol, and service. Since I'm also a sadist, I prefer masochists. As the person would be entering a poly family, a poly situation would have to be acceptable to them.

I may or may not be answering your question correctly, because I see My mate as My husband and yet the same question could apply to seeking an additional submissive. (Yeah, I know. I don't *need* three, but what the hell.)

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RE: on your list of requirements - 12/30/2009 2:16:15 PM

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I like what you wrote, wisdomtogive. Mind if I internalize and assimilate it? All I was able to come up with on my own was that they have a pulse.....

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RE: on your list of requirements - 12/30/2009 2:19:58 PM

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on your list of requirements for a potential mate how do you rank your requirements, assuming it's the opposite sex

for me a need to be obedient is high

I'm trying to figure out the best way to answer this. I have an equality based primary relationship, so kink and authority weren't on the list when it came to My husband. Character, integrity, honesty, attitude about life, loyalty, values close to My own, the ability to compromise, sense of humor, intelligent, romance, and other things that I'm thinking most people want in a partner.

In a submissive (because I'm poly) I want those same types of character traits, plus I want the things that go with a power imbalance dynamic. That includes the stuff like obedience, ritual, protocol, and service. Since I'm also a sadist, I prefer masochists. As the person would be entering a poly family, a poly situation would have to be acceptable to them.

I may or may not be answering your question correctly, because I see My mate as My husband and yet the same question could apply to seeking an additional submissive. (Yeah, I know. I don't *need* three, but what the hell.)

if your primary relationship meets your shall we say higher needs then couldn't secondary relationship just need to meet a lower set of needs?

i've known a few dommes and that seemed to be the pattern

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RE: on your list of requirements - 12/30/2009 2:20:07 PM

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I like what you wrote, wisdomtogive. Mind if I internalize and assimilate it? All I was able to come up with on my own was that they have a pulse.....

Picky bitch.

Jeff

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RE: on your list of requirements - 12/30/2009 2:21:11 PM

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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

I like what you wrote, wisdomtogive. Mind if I internalize and assimilate it? All I was able to come up with on my own was that they have a pulse.....

Picky bitch.

Jeff

Nah, just conditions of my parole....

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RE: on your list of requirements - 12/30/2009 2:22:12 PM

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-a she
-self supporting ( as in able to do things on her own)
-submissive because she wants to ( not the "break me"crap)
-27 or older
-one that doesn't rush and didn't have 12 Dom's a year
-likes to have fun
-can talk/discuss
-honest ( even when I don't want to hear it)
-loyal ( no clue how to check that)
-has an opinion
-the will to improve and learn

on the second page
-likes horror
-likes metal music ( atleast with the volume down)
-likes to walk in the forest ( and play)
-likes to swim ( and play)

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RE: on your list of requirements - 12/30/2009 2:23:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

I want a woman that comes home and immediately starts talking about her day. Thank Golly I usually arrive home about a half hour after her, just in time to stuff her pie hole with some grade A Chicago lumber.

*angrily wipes the Coca-Cola she just spewed all over her computer and goes hunting for Q-tips to run between the keys*

Anne

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RE: on your list of requirements - 12/30/2009 2:24:02 PM

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Ahhhhhh....

as an aside?

I think that perhaps the reason you sleep better in the bed alone?

Your breasts seem quite round and large. Is it possible they take up a lot of room? Maybe you shouldn't blame the poor man.

Jeff

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RE: on your list of requirements - 12/30/2009 2:24:22 PM

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Winsomedefiance
Thank you very much and please do what you wish with it.

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RE: on your list of requirements - 12/30/2009 2:25:16 PM

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submissive because she wants to ( not the "break me"crap)

too much like a total power struggle

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RE: on your list of requirements - 12/30/2009 2:27:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

Ahhhhhh....

as an aside?

I think that perhaps the reason you sleep better in the bed alone?

Your breasts seem quite round and large. Is it possible they take up a lot of room? Maybe you shouldn't blame the poor man.

Jeff

Oh, he's a phenomenal boulder holder. But he steals my side of the bed and my remote and then wants to snuggle and talk.. the man just had to go!

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RE: on your list of requirements - 12/30/2009 2:28:40 PM

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submissive because she wants to ( not the "break me"crap)

too much like a total power struggle

what is?

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RE: on your list of requirements - 12/30/2009 2:28:58 PM

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Thanks for the thougthful (and the funny) answers --- I have placed some in notepad so I can possibly use them (in my own words, of course) to help me with profile updates. Special thanks to the person who started the thread!

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RE: on your list of requirements - 12/30/2009 2:29:28 PM

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Oh, he's a phenomenal boulder holder. But he steals my side of the bed and my remote and then wants to snuggle and talk.. the man just had to go!

Ooooh..... Yeah, that's just one line that shouldn't be crossed!

Anne

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RE: on your list of requirements - 12/30/2009 2:29:34 PM

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By nature.... if not by law, the remote is the mans!

On this I will not be moved!

Jeff

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RE: on your list of requirements - 12/30/2009 2:30:21 PM

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the break me , that want to be overpowered

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