hopelessfool
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ORIGINAL: antipode quote:
What is your litmus test for married To be honest with you, if I were married, I'd tell you it was none of your business. Whether or not I have a bit on the side, am poly, or cheating, would only be relevant if you wanted a permanent relationship and wanted to live together. How I live my life is otherwise not your business. Having said that, if you get his home phone (landline) you could call him at 2am - "I just wanted to hear your voice" - if this causes ruptures, issues, or if there is a screaming bitch in the background, he's married. Generally, having a few long phone or cam conversations, especially around dinner time, very early in the morning, is a good check. The best check is on Skype or some such, to ask him to take his laptop and walk you around his house. A pile of kiddie clothing on the washing machine is a dead giveaway. If he refuses "my cam is broken" you know what you need to know. For me its HUGELY my business. A) I have a right to know if my partner could be exposing me to and std by sleeping with more then just me. b) I have the right to know if my partner is trust worthy or not c) I have a right to know that if I do something Im not involving someone else in my kink non consentually D) I have a right to know that my owner is actually going to respect my limits, Which are pretty much a b and c
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