lovingpet
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I still don't think it is a gender and orientation specific trend. I have seen the occasional male dominant wanting someone smarter than him simply for the joy of reducing him/her to the base elements underneath all the intellect. Mostly I see a lot of people attempting to appear smarter than they really are because it seems to be a near fetish in the bdsm world to the more open lifestyle people. In the end, the group is split about the same as any population, so that means that half are going to be of average intellect or below and about half will be above it with most falling closer to that average mark to the tune of about 30% (bell curve and all). I reasonably expect most people are not actually what they appear when it comes to this particular trait. Even if things are askew some to the higher side, it is not going to be to the extremes people try to make it appear. I might be a different kind of bird, but I am more likely to force you to reveal your lacking in this area than to buy that you are what you say you are just because you said so. As much as I want someone who can engage me on this level, so much so it hurts sometimes, I can't fool myself in the least. I will open up a line of thought unwittingly that makes the issue a little hard to ignore. It is a natural way for me to interact. The moment I realize I am having to fit into intellectual constraints, it is painfully clear. I am not saying any of this as though I have some crazy level of intellect. I am not even saying I am a cut above. I just know what I need and am not all that great about self deception. I used to be able to convince myself Mr. Wrong was oh so Mr. Right, but a few hard lessons knocked that out of me, but then again those delusions were about other aspects of them. I am probably the wrong person to be responding to you. I am not all that typical of most any group. I kinda go my own way. That being said, I did wind up with someone very likely my intellectual superior simply because he is who I could connect with on that level. Everyone else was a void for me in that area. If someone cannot know my mind, then how can we ever form an intimate relationship? lovingpet
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