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winterrose77 -> RE: "Sneaky" fetishwear (1/31/2010 9:21:40 PM)
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One of the best, most discreet, and most amazingly erotic types of sneaky everyday fetishwear ideas is the simple rope harness.
Everyone who's into bondage has at least some vague idea of Shibari (Japanese rope bondage) and how to do it. And I think it's fair to say that almost all submissives enjoy it, when done right. Tying a simple rope harness around your sub each morning before he or she dresses is a great way to keep them intensely and pleasurably aware of their position throughout the day, it's safe and hygienic (so long as you're not using highly abrasive or dirty types of rope), it's almost impossible to detect if others aren't specifically looking for it, and there's a nearly infinite number of variations. This is also a great way to stay in touch with your submissive...if your D/s relationship is getting just a little too vanilla because of stress, distance, or really any other reason, a little daily rope harnessing can really bring you together and make you feel your bond(age) with your partner all the more. Plus, at the end of the day, the untying of the rope can make for a very romantic evening or scene. ;)
The best kinds of rope for this are the really thin kinds, obviously. Many tack shops and specialty stores carry a thin cotton rope which sells cheaply and comes in a ton of colors; this is often used to make rope halters for Western-style horseback riding.
At any local Home Depot you can usually find some cotton/nylon hybrids that are okay for loose harnesses that don't rub against the genitals (they can be abrasive and carry chemicals), and they come in a lot of pretty colors as well...and a pack of about 100 ft costs no more than I think $7. You could also go online and order some of the really nice stuff; silk rope feels the best and is the most comfortable for long-term wear...a sub could wear a silk harness for days at a time, in theory. However, possibly the best option is to use a simple hemp rope, which you can either buy ready-made or go grab a few packages of it at a local craft store and braid it yourself. You can add all sorts of beads and whatnot to this and tie it to be permanent, and hemp is all natural and perfectly safe to get wet. However it can be very abrasive and dangerous to the genitals, so this is best used as a breast harness, a leg-to-arms harness, or anything else not involving a thong-style. :P
As a subby girl myself, I know that this is one of the most erotic and loving things a Dom can do to make a submissive feel loved and truly owned. It's a constant reminder throughout the day and makes the sub feel exposed without actually compromising her modesty, and it really works to focus the sub's mind on the Dom all day long. It's a great ritual to build up between you and it'll lead to a really long-lasting tradition that will build up your relationship a lot more.
Hope this helps. :)
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