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Do you prefer playtime or 24-7 slavery? - 1/9/2010 8:56:21 PM

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Are you looking for a play partner who'll top you occasionally for an hour or two, or are you hoping to find an owner so you can submit like a real slave and live the lifestyle 24-7?

Are you living one of these but wish you could live the other way but can't because of your life circumstances (ie work, family, location)?

What are those reasons why you can't live it the way you wish you could?

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RE: Do you prefer playtime or 24-7 slavery? - 1/9/2010 9:19:43 PM

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Neither. I'm right in between the two, and that's where I am at my happiest.

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RE: Do you prefer playtime or 24-7 slavery? - 1/9/2010 9:52:18 PM

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We have far more than "playtime", even though our time physically together is limited.

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RE: Do you prefer playtime or 24-7 slavery? - 1/9/2010 9:55:32 PM

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how does one "live like a real slave"?

I tend to prefer living a long term committed monogamous relationship with a dominant man in which I feel submissive towards because of his personality.

Call it what you like.

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RE: Do you prefer playtime or 24-7 slavery? - 1/9/2010 10:00:06 PM

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i'm not sure the dichotomy is "play time" vs. "24/7 real slave." There's a lot of space in between.

i have previously served 24/7, and seek such again. But i don't consider myself "superior" in any way, and definitely don't look at others as just "play time."

Please let me know if i'm interpreting your question incorrectly.

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RE: Do you prefer playtime or 24-7 slavery? - 1/9/2010 10:23:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves
What are those reasons why you can't live it the way you wish you could?

Living it pretty much the way we want. He owns my pasty white ass 24/7. It'd be nice if we had a bigger place and room for furniture but all things in time.

Edited to add: I'm also curious as to what it a "real" slave. Whatever is I'm sure I don't qualify, lol.

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RE: Do you prefer playtime or 24-7 slavery? - 1/9/2010 11:08:58 PM

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I tend to prefer living a long term committed monogamous relationship with a dominant man in which I feel submissive towards because of his personality.

This. I'm not "enslaved" or "owned" or anything extreme like that, but he does like to say 'you're mine' a lot. I can live with that

Basically my preference (which I have) is a long term relationship with all the sugary vanilla goodness like living together, marriage, saying "I love you" and all that...and then we have playtime, and then we have 'normal sex time' which is still totally play time, and if he says he wants a drink I go get it for him even if we're both in bed mucking around on laptops and technically he should get it cuz he's closer

That being said I would, sometime in a maybe not distant future, like to find a play partner, a woman, for both of us, with the possibility of it turning into something more...but want to wait til circumstances would make it easier and we have a house that's more private instead of an apartment.

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RE: Do you prefer playtime or 24-7 slavery? - 1/10/2010 4:16:19 AM

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i am a submissive wife, married to a Dominant Husband...
we live in the same house 24/7 and we like to play regularly too

but it is not like i am a naked slave and He is micromanaging me and every single little thing i do wrong will be punished severly

For most of our married life i used to have a lot of private fantasies about being a slave to my Master... without the reality of it...
we were married, but we sort of lost eachother and we did not see eye to eye ...
and then i managed to successfully manipulate him into expressing His Dominance over me and now we have a much better dynamic

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RE: Do you prefer playtime or 24-7 slavery? - 1/10/2010 8:06:11 AM

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Neither of those two if I was actually going for a relationship. Being a slave is definitely nothing for me, I'd more want a relationship as equals in normal life but with the possibility of stuff happening when we are home alone, be it sm (which I always like) or d/s (which I sometimes like).
At the moment I am in a...hmmm... what could I call it? Casual relationship of sorts with a friend, we play regularly/are sexually involved but aren't or will ever be in an actual relationship and I'm quite happy with that.

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RE: Do you prefer playtime or 24-7 slavery? - 1/10/2010 8:26:08 AM

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i started out just looking fora play partner as that is what i had experienced up to that point. once i had ownership explained to me i knew that bing 24/7 was what i was needing in my life. now i am also serving in the military so the time i have to spend with my mistress is very precious to me. i love when my Mistress plays with me as it is a deeply bonding time. but i am very happy to just be able to sit at her feet.

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RE: Do you prefer playtime or 24-7 slavery? - 1/10/2010 9:09:03 AM

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like a real slave?

guess my mind is on another track

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RE: Do you prefer playtime or 24-7 slavery? - 1/10/2010 9:43:30 AM

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i am not looking to be a slave i have someone that i love and will keep my best interests in mind and because i trust him i listen.

i also enjoy the mental challenge of bdsm in my relationship, and it is mental 24/7

in front of company we are very mellow and relaxed with it, but we still have rituals/rules that i follow consistently, but i will never be a 'real life slave' i will only be someone he loves, respects and adores and vice-versa.

the only reason we cant 'live' as we would like at times is because his brother is our roommate so we are very private about it and dont always have the option to be as hard as we both would like.

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RE: Do you prefer playtime or 24-7 slavery? - 1/10/2010 9:50:12 AM

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Didn't you start this same thread somewhere else? I could have sworn I just answered this question.

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RE: Do you prefer playtime or 24-7 slavery? - 1/10/2010 11:31:53 AM

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Neither. I was not interested in casual. At the same time I'm 24/7 with him but not a slave. I'm a sub, in a relationship that has some D/lg qualities. And I never set up a divide between my 'vanilla' responsibilities and my life with him. We've integrated everything into our life.

Are there restrictions on play time due to the fact that we have all these teens between us? Sure. Would I rather be with someone where I could play more but didn't love or respect? Not at all.

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RE: Do you prefer playtime or 24-7 slavery? - 1/10/2010 1:03:21 PM

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i'm not sure the dichotomy is "play time" vs. "24/7 real slave." There's a lot of space in between.

If there is a dichotomoy, it would be between a 24/7 relationship, and occasional meetings.

As we have seen in a thousand other threads, the difference between a "real" anything and any other type exists mostly in the minds of the participants.

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RE: Do you prefer playtime or 24-7 slavery? - 1/10/2010 1:07:17 PM

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To be honest like a lot of other people on here I am not looking for anything specific, I guess other than being happy, whatever relationship fulfills me the most, I try to not put conditions on things or 'look' in any real sense I enjoy the way things develop to find its own little niche.

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RE: Do you prefer playtime or 24-7 slavery? - 1/11/2010 6:49:29 PM

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24-7, clearly.

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RE: Do you prefer playtime or 24-7 slavery? - 1/11/2010 7:51:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves

Are you looking for a play partner who'll top you occasionally for an hour or two, or are you hoping to find an owner so you can submit like a real slave and live the lifestyle 24-7?

The latter, though I'm quite open to non-slave relationships with the right dominant man.

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ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves
Are you living one of these but wish you could live the other way but can't because of your life circumstances (ie work, family, location)?

Being in Canada versus the US limits my selection, and makes relocation difficult when dealing with international masters, but nothing in my personal life prevents a M/s situation.

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What are those reasons why you can't live it the way you wish you could?

Because I haven't found him yet, I suppose.

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RE: Do you prefer playtime or 24-7 slavery? - 1/12/2010 7:49:23 AM

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I can't handle a play time scenario. BDSM leaves me wide open emotionally, and I need the care and love of a full time relationship to feel safe and secure. It took me a while to find the right person that could fill my needs, and it even took me a while to figure out what those needs were. But I do live as I wish to, life's too short to do anything else.

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RE: Do you prefer playtime or 24-7 slavery? - 1/12/2010 7:53:11 AM

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like a real slave?

guess my mind is on another track

Since you have this question in reply to My boy, I'll ask you to clarify your question.

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