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osf -> why does he want a submissive over a nilla woman (1/11/2010 4:37:45 PM)

knowing how high maintenance a submissive is, why would any man prefer one to the average woman?



DesFIP -> RE: why does he want a submissive over a nilla woman (1/11/2010 4:52:42 PM)

Why are we perforce higher maintenance than a vanilla woman is? Because we aren't. The women you have partnered with may have been, but as the only constant in all  your relationships is you, this says more about your issues than theirs.

Beyond that, a dominant wants a submissive for a partner because they are not compatible with people who need power equal relationships. In other words, if he finds discussing and arguing pros and cons of every decision wearisome, and not energizing, then he will be very unhappy with someone who herself needs to be involved in every decision.



osf -> RE: why does he want a submissive over a nilla woman (1/11/2010 4:54:20 PM)

and you know this because your dominant?



GYPSYMAMBO -> RE: why does he want a submissive over a nilla woman (1/11/2010 4:54:58 PM)

Surely you fukkin jest?
He is not ANY man..
 HE is a man that wants a sub woman and he can find a low maintenece if he wants to
He may also want pickles on his hotdog or to drive BMW's only...and will find dills or sweet mixed if he wants
It is a preference..a choice..a desire...a need...a want..
OSF...
do not mistake YOUR opinion for fact..
from personnal experienc comes personal often(narrow) response
 
 
GM



osf -> RE: why does he want a submissive over a nilla woman (1/11/2010 4:55:59 PM)

quote:

if he finds discussing and arguing pros and cons of every decision wearisome, and not energizing, then he will be very unhappy with someone who herself needs to be involved in every decision.


he is weak willed and needs a doormat?



osf -> RE: why does he want a submissive over a nilla woman (1/11/2010 4:57:55 PM)

ok, but why is the question or did you miss that fine point?



domiguy -> RE: why does he want a submissive over a nilla woman (1/11/2010 4:58:03 PM)

What kind of a woman would ever choose to be with a man that would choose velcro straps in lieu of shoe laces?

I would think for most woman that would be a hard limit indeed.

Are you ninety?



osf -> RE: why does he want a submissive over a nilla woman (1/11/2010 4:59:20 PM)

quote:

do not mistake YOUR opinion for fact..
from personnal experienc comes personal often(narrow) response


where is it stated as fact, it's a fucking question



osf -> RE: why does he want a submissive over a nilla woman (1/11/2010 5:00:46 PM)

miss cillie seemd to not mind and living on a farm they we're fast to take off and put on



osf -> RE: why does he want a submissive over a nilla woman (1/11/2010 5:02:12 PM)

i want to thank you all for your misunderstanding the question and inappropriate answers



GYPSYMAMBO -> RE: why does he want a submissive over a nilla woman (1/11/2010 5:02:44 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

quote:

do not mistake YOUR opinion for fact..
from personnal experienc comes personal often(narrow) response


it's a fucking question

ok so what do you need to know about fucking?
GM



onlyfreelycaged -> RE: why does he want a submissive over a nilla woman (1/11/2010 5:05:11 PM)

in a relationship,
I am very, very, very, very high mantance.

But, unlike other high mantaience women, but the whole sex on demand thing kind of makes up for it.. o, btw.. I cook, well. that might have something to do with it.. I also don't complain about doing all the cleaning.



osf -> RE: why does he want a submissive over a nilla woman (1/11/2010 5:08:10 PM)

ok i reread the question and nowhere in it did i see all men, it was any man

and some submissives are very high maintenance



Level -> RE: why does he want a submissive over a nilla woman (1/11/2010 5:11:44 PM)

Ok, now you're saying "some" subs, but that's not what the OP indicated.



osf -> RE: why does he want a submissive over a nilla woman (1/11/2010 5:12:51 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Level

Ok, now you're saying "some", but that's not what the OP indicated.


any does not equal all



domiguy -> RE: why does he want a submissive over a nilla woman (1/11/2010 5:14:32 PM)

Where do you buy your shoes? Those are stunning.

They just scream, "you will submit."



osf -> RE: why does he want a submissive over a nilla woman (1/11/2010 5:15:16 PM)

domi ever live on a farm?



LadyPact -> RE: why does he want a submissive over a nilla woman (1/11/2010 5:17:07 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: GYPSYMAMBO

Surely you fukkin jest?
He is not ANY man..
 HE is a man that wants a sub woman and he can find a low maintenece if he wants to
He may also want pickles on his hotdog or to drive BMW's only...and will find dills or sweet mixed if he wants
It is a preference..a choice..a desire...a need...a want..
OSF...
do not mistake YOUR opinion for fact..
from personnal experienc comes personal often(narrow) response
 
 
GM

There's definitely something to be said for the above.  If you only attract high maintenance type of submissives, the common denominator really is you.

Overall, I don't see submissive females (or males for that matter) as any more or less high maintenance than any other cross section of society.  You could take any other common interest, such as reading detective stories, and spit out opinions that they are higher maintenance than those who don't.  There is no possible way to collect data either way, so the opinion is only based on a very small perception (i.e. your own) and has little value or merit since there is no way to determine if it is true.



Aynne88 -> RE: why does he want a submissive over a nilla woman (1/11/2010 5:23:41 PM)

osf, you know for whatever strange reason, I actually like you, yes I know, fellow submissives forgive me, but osf, we are not for the most part high maintenance.  If anything, I am way more of deferential to my Man than any vanilla woman I know, I wait on him hand and foot, try and anticipate his needs, and cater to his every whim, so that is why to me, he wants me over a "vanilla" woman. Maybe you are attracting the "do me" subs, or forgive me, but your attitude here somtimes comes across as wrong. Trust me, a woman that is really submissive to her man is a treasure, and one to be respected, yes  respected, and loved. You may want to readjust your attitude on the women you are interacting with. 



Level -> RE: why does he want a submissive over a nilla woman (1/11/2010 5:24:40 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: osf


quote:

ORIGINAL: Level

Ok, now you're saying "some", but that's not what the OP indicated.


any does not equal all


Some subs, is what I meant. No big deal, just a reason why some folks might not take to the subject is all.



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