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Genital desperation - 1/12/2010 11:37:21 AM

Jinger

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Before I say anything, my partner and I have in fact been tested for STDs. Recently. For all of them.
We went to an STD clinic to check out a yeast infection, and protocol demanded they check for everything.

Free clinics are free, but we'll probably never do that again. A lot of it was pointless, but still it's nice to
know we're healthy.

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Around Easter of last year I somehow contracted scabies. I'm pretty sure I got it from a bus, because the only person
I engage sexually is my girlfriend. Period. The point is after weeks of hell I finally was cleansed of the bastards with
Permethrin cream. That rid the parasites, but also damaged my skin making it much more sensitive from then on.

Bug bites bother me more. And poison ivy is now something I REALLY have to avoid, when before I seemed resistant to both.

On top of that, it seemed I was now even more susceptible to jock itch, and other fungal infections.
Since these various outbreaks, I've been three times as hygienic.

My girlfriend and I never had a problem with sex until after the scabies issue. And since then it seems like we just keep trading unpleasantries.
One week she'll have a yeast infection, and the next I'll have some scaly dryness issue. It seems like we can have great sex for maybe 3 or four days, and then it's a week of treatment and no sex.

It's so frustrating. We've been to the doctors multiple times, but they only offer remedies, not advice.

Is there something we're doing wrong here?

We shower every time after sex.
We eat right.

I don't understand.

We even tried using condoms but it seems my skin is still hypersensitive.
My girlfriend is on the pill.

Any advice?

HELP!

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RE: Genital desperation - 1/12/2010 12:43:19 PM

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You could have got scabies everywhere (thought it interesting to suggest either the bus or sex)

Anywho, a friend of mine goes through something similar, she gets BV any time she has sex with her current partner, thats because thier PH doesn't match so having more sex balances it. But I think you are saying you get different issues each time? That would change the answer.

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RE: Genital desperation - 1/12/2010 12:53:59 PM

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If youre using anti-bacterial soap/creams etc, you can expect lots of fungal infections, I know that much. Unpleasant to think about perhaps, but its an attractive environment down there that is in balance most of the time between swarms of bacteria and fungi - remove one and the other will take over pronto.

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RE: Genital desperation - 1/12/2010 2:32:30 PM

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We wash, but we never use soap on our genitals.
We both learned that the hard way, already.

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RE: Genital desperation - 1/12/2010 2:45:15 PM

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Yeast is a nasty beast. Once it takes over, it lodges all over your body, not just in the genitals, which is why it is so had to get rid of...doctors only treat the local area, not the whole body. If you are out of balance, you can ask your doctor for a prescription for some oral Nystatin. Now, purists will say you should use the powder, but I've done just fine with pills. It helps to kill off the colonies of yeast, and eating plain yogurt will help to balance your intestinal flora. If all you can get is the powder, then you can get plain gelatin capsules at a health food store, and fill your own.

I know I've gotten out of balance when I'm craving sugary things...people who don't usually eat sweets will tend to eat lots of bread, or drink a lot of beer or wine. The yeast colonies set up a craving...and it's hard to beat! But Nystatin can help.

Hope that helps, feel free to email me on the other side if you have more questions.

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RE: Genital desperation - 1/12/2010 4:31:12 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Jinger

Before I say anything, my partner and I have in fact been tested for STDs. Recently. For all of them.
We went to an STD clinic to check out a yeast infection, and protocol demanded they check for everything.

Smart move.

Free clinics are free, but we'll probably never do that again. A lot of it was pointless, but still it's nice to
know we're healthy.

Not sure I'd see it as pointless and I don't believe in saying never when it comes to being tested.
•••

Around Easter of last year I somehow contracted scabies. I'm pretty sure I got it from a bus, because the only person
I engage sexually is my girlfriend. Period. The point is after weeks of hell I finally was cleansed of the bastards with
Permethrin cream. That rid the parasites, but also damaged my skin making it much more sensitive from then on.

There is a chance of developing a type of eczema after treatment with Permethrin and other creams. This may be the case with you.

Bug bites bother me more. And poison ivy is now something I REALLY have to avoid, when before I seemed resistant to both.

On top of that, it seemed I was now even more susceptible to jock itch, and other fungal infections.
Since these various outbreaks, I've been three times as hygienic.

My girlfriend and I never had a problem with sex until after the scabies issue. And since then it seems like we just keep trading unpleasantries.
One week she'll have a yeast infection, and the next I'll have some scaly dryness issue. It seems like we can have great sex for maybe 3 or four days, and then it's a week of treatment and no sex.

Yeast infections can be passed back and forth between partners which means both of you need to be treated. http://www.cdc.gov/nczved/dfbmd/disease_listing/candidiasis_gi.html

It's so frustrating. We've been to the doctors multiple times, but they only offer remedies, not advice.

Is there something we're doing wrong here?

We shower every time after sex.
We eat right.

An over-growth of yeast can be attributed to diet. SweetPoosy's right...pay attention to your cravings, bread/starch/sweets/beer...pretty much anything starchy can feed the growth of yeast.

I don't understand.

We even tried using condoms but it seems my skin is still hypersensitive.

Could you have an allergy to latex?

My girlfriend is on the pill.

This can contribute to more yeast infections.

Any advice?

HELP!

I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I'm hesitant to give you any medicial advice as I'm not a doctor. I know what works for me as far as natural treatments but I would strongly recommend you seek the advice of a professional.

Do what you can to decrease or eliminate sugar from your diet. I would also avoid sweets of all kinds, including fruits and refined carbs along with avoiding alcohol and fermented products.

You could use pure aloe vera gel to help with your itching and dryness too. You need to find out if this is at all related to the scabies treatment and why your GF is having recurring yeast infections and if there any underlying health problems they could be related to.

Best of luck.

*Edited to add...."The Complete Candida Yeast Guidebook" by Jeanne Marie Martin is a wonderful resource book I highly recommend.
http://www.amazon.com/Complete-Candida-Yeast-Guidebook-Revised/dp/0761527400

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RE: Genital desperation - 1/12/2010 5:56:39 PM

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We wash, but we never use soap on our genitals.
We both learned that the hard way, already.

I have to honest, this is something that I have never heard of doing, nor would I think it is a good idea. Sure, don't use bacterial soap, but lots of nasty stuff is going on down there when you sweat, poop, etc. and it needs to be washed.

Most dermatologists actually do recommend Dove soap. It isn't antibacterial.

As everyone else has said, another trip to the doctor, for both of you, is in order. But so is washing your genitals with a mild soap, not just water.

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RE: Genital desperation - 1/12/2010 11:30:56 PM

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Around here, gynaecologists recommend to only use clear water on the genitals, no soap.

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RE: Genital desperation - 1/13/2010 12:14:09 AM

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Around here, gynaecologists recommend to only use clear water on the genitals, no soap.

Interesting. Here in the states, it is not something any gynocologist has ever recommended to me. Certainly, they don't recommend internally washing that way, but douching is also not recommended either.

Interestingly enough with all the other crap that can be found on the internet, even WebMD didn't have anything about whether or not to use soap or just water. This site was one of the few that offered any information.

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This is an area that is covered in something all day, an area that is prone to perspiration during warmer months. I think that the OP would be better off using a mild soap, or one specifically designed for the genitals that using only water.

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RE: Genital desperation - 1/13/2010 7:03:08 AM

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Around here, gynaecologists recommend to only use clear water on the genitals, no soap.

i'd second that, soap is not good on your genitals
i personally do not like soap anywhere, it dries me out and i think it stinks.

op, you and your girlfriend might just grow out of it after a while... my Husband and i went through quite a patch of getting eachothers coldsores and stuff and then all of a sudden everything was just fine

for yeast infections... firstly it is very good practise to make sure you are clean, hands and nails clean before having sex... washing after is good, but before even more important
Secondly make sure you do not play with things or fingers in the butt and then in the vagina, the otherway around is ok but butt first and then pussy is a NO NO.
Thirdly she might make sure she eats a lot of yoghurt, i have heard it is good for the balance

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RE: Genital desperation - 1/13/2010 7:11:37 AM

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I wash my nuts everyday and have yet to have a problem.

I sweat..They get dirty. I'm gonna clean the fellas and spritzing fresh water on'm aint gonna do it. I don't care what the doctors say.

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RE: Genital desperation - 1/13/2010 11:37:02 AM

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Recently I was told I had Bacterial Vaginitis and was given a cream to use internally. Cleared it up and I'm good to go. But the OB/GYN did warn that it can be passed on the my (now ex) partner and if it was, then he would have to go get treated. I've heard yeast infections can be the same. Maybe you should see your doctor and find out if that can be a part of the problem.

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RE: Genital desperation - 1/13/2010 4:06:26 PM

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I wash my nuts everyday and have yet to have a problem.

I sweat..They get dirty. I'm gonna clean the fellas and spritzing fresh water on'm aint gonna do it. I don't care what the doctors say.

I'm with you Icarys. I have never heard of a doctor here in the states recommending that one doesn't use soap on their genitals. Granted, I don't think they want you to use Lava (for those who don't know, it is a very harsh soap that also contains grit), but a mild soap, such as dove, neutragena, and the like are definately in order.

ranja, if you are prone to dry skin, try dove or any of the other moisturizing soaps. As I said earlier in the post, every dermatologist I have ever seen recommends Dove. It doesn't dry out the skin. During the harsh winter months, your skin might get dry no matter what you do. That's what moisturizers are for.

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RE: Genital desperation - 1/14/2010 1:51:10 AM

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Thank you very much for your good advice LafayetteLady, but i smell good and i am absolutely fine without soap thank you very much

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