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fighting - 1/16/2010 8:26:53 AM

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im a sub n i like to fight with my mistress. is this normal?

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RE: fighting - 1/16/2010 8:32:44 AM

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You're going to have to be much more explicit. When you say you like to fight...what do you mean?

As in, you like to argue and goad her?

You like to physically wrestle with her in a consentual manner?

You like to debate politics (in a consentual manner?)

Is this something she enjoys also, or is this a one-sided "like"?

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RE: fighting - 1/16/2010 8:33:20 AM

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well usually the mistress isnt going to like it after awhile. but i am sassy myself and give my Dom a bit of a challenge, but i try not to do this all the time it limits his amount of control and also might make him feel like i dont want to play when i do. if i want him to be more rough or maybe a little more feisty with me i would just tell him what i want before trying to get that out of him by fighting. the other reason i fight is to gain back some control that i feel i have lost, but he never gives it back :) and i like that.

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RE: fighting - 1/16/2010 9:10:01 AM

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Good luck with that over the long run. I have a feeling she'll eventually tire of it and kick you to the curb unless you start obeying...then again maybe you both just like the kick, scream, challenge match that some seem to be into but I've yet to see any one that it works for in a long term relationship.

I personally have no energy for such things. It just would tire me out and eventually I'd feel as if my resources were better served elsewhere with someone who didn't want to constantly challenge me.

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RE: fighting - 1/16/2010 10:47:59 AM

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Assuming you mean wrestling and other take down scenes, there are other people who also like that. No hold, primal. As to how many dominant women like this, I haven't a clue.

Normal yes, very common no.

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RE: fighting - 1/16/2010 10:49:54 AM

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im a sub n i like to fight with my mistress. is this normal?

You'll have to be more specific in what you mean by fight.

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RE: fighting - 1/16/2010 11:06:10 AM

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As a Dom I can say I really enjoy the challenge of a power struggle. My pet is sassy and does a good job of pushing my buttons just enough to keep her from getting a beating. I like this kind of psychological play a lot because I'm occasionally reminded of the free will of my pet. And having her grovel and beg for mercy after she realizes she's pissed me off feel's amazing. It's a truely hard hitting high.

It helps that I'm much stronger than her and can forcefully take charge of her. In a Domme setting this might not work as well, in general men have more physical strength then women (which is why you have nipple rings . ;) )

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And a little side story that goes with it: One night after fairly brutally fucking her and forcing her to cum again and again she resumed this kind of annoying sassy play. I think she knew I was to exhausted to want to punish her. She kept pushing me and pushing me even after mild punishment. Finally it pissed me off so much I punched a wall (which hurt >.<) and happily scared the shit out of her. I calmed her, she cuddled submissively and I tucked her into bed. (I haven't told her this, but I fairly enjoyed it)

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RE: fighting - 1/16/2010 11:20:30 AM

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Whatever the definition of 'fight', sounds switchy/passive-aggressive/topping from the bottom, none of which would be tolerated. I couldn't stand and wouldn't respond to a man who can't express what he wants and acts out to get it, and/or who acts like a little prick to get a red ass or sore asshole. Like a bad dog, it's best to fold one's arms and ignore the 6' tantruming toddler, unless it's physical, then let the cops sort him out.
It seems to work for you as a way to act out your aggression and get something you want; I'd like to hear from her: suggest you go ask her.

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RE: fighting - 1/16/2010 11:59:00 AM

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She's a few posts up, ask her yourself.

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RE: fighting - 1/16/2010 1:20:28 PM

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i think the word "fight" is not the right word, you mean to say you like to resist when your Mistress tried to tie you or whip you. Make it clear, so that we can understand, what do you mean with fighting?

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RE: fighting - 1/16/2010 1:34:24 PM

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im a sub n i like to fight with my mistress. is this normal?

It by "fight" you mean that you like to punch your Dom/Domme in the face, then that is not normal.

If instead, you mean that you sometimes resist their control, then that is very normal.

Please define the type of "fighting" that you do.

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RE: fighting - 1/16/2010 2:38:14 PM

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Play fighting & sparring are great fun and never fails to get me all worked up.

Any other type of physical fighting is just wrong and needs addressing.
Verbal fighting (such as heated disagreements) happen in any relationship to a point so you just need to learn to ride then out and let then go as quickly as they flare up

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RE: fighting - 1/16/2010 3:02:40 PM

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As denoted, I was replying to the o.p. Drywall-dissing was discussed in another thread.

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RE: fighting - 1/16/2010 3:06:52 PM

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In my opinion, the question that needs to be asked is: " Does this bring her pleasure?"
If the answer is yes, then all is candy canes and gum drops. If the answer is no, then you have an issue.

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RE: fighting - 1/16/2010 3:46:01 PM

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I agree with xxblushessxx and Aqua, in what context do you mean 'fight'?

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RE: fighting - 1/16/2010 11:24:08 PM

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quote:

is this normal?

Urghh.. one line, and no profile. One way traffic.

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RE: fighting - 1/17/2010 3:47:45 PM

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I agree that I would need *fight* defined in order to answer.

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RE: fighting - 1/17/2010 5:47:22 PM

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So I take it neither of you are from Glasgow then?

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RE: fighting - 1/17/2010 7:11:20 PM

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I actually like to "roughhouse" -- I'm talking about something like tickling or pillow fights. Once I did a very romantic evening where I had about 5 dozen roses' worth of rose petals spread across the bed, and we had a petal fight later in the evening in sheer silliness.

Both of us have studied martial arts - my Lady being a black sash and instructor in Tai Chi - so we don't actually fight physically, ever. We practice different styles (mine is Tae Kwondo) and we don't even spar. A real fight would end up with her sticking one of my feet in the opposite ear realistically, and a real chance of both of us with serious injuries, so we don't do it. We don't have a punishment dynamic either... though I do like impact and sensation play.

Like any couple that's been together 15 years, we do have an occasional argument. But our one hard rule for the relation ship is we don't go to bed mad, ever, so we never stay mad, we calm down and work out whatever it is that's put a wrench in the works of our otherwise smooth-running relationship.

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