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wrongplanetjon -> Looking for input from slaves (1/16/2010 2:38:32 PM)

Hi, I'm looking for input and opinions from slaves on my ad writeup...I hope it doesn't come across as my trying to find any slaves for me here (I'm only trying to find local ones on a search I can do on my own); I'm honestly looking for opinions because from what I've gathered so far, it's easy to come across the wrong way and be an unwelcome presence which I'm hoping to avoid...

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"I am a 38 year old man with Asperger Syndrome looking for a slave.  I have no experience in this realm, but because I do not have the social skills to "jump through the hoops" or whatnot to enjoy sexual experiences, I am instead seeking local women willing to be slaves to help me out, on a temporary, mutual enjoyment, non degrading or exploitive basis.  If I am going about this the wrong way, I'm unsure what IS the right way, and would be willing to listen to respectful guidance for what I generally seek, which is an outlet for my sexuality which has been blocked for many years due to my social incompetance.  I am respectful of others, though I tend to be self centered...not in an egotistical way, but in an Asperger Syndrome/Autism way.  I hope to meet local women who would be intrigued about being a slave to a man with AS. "

More personal info to add for this thread:  I am broke and unemployed (despite looking for low end jobs) and I have never been in a relationship ever.  Telling me to "just get a girlfriend" is like telling a crippled man to "just walk". 




lally2 -> RE: Looking for input from slaves (1/16/2010 3:00:22 PM)

hi,

from youre add i get the feeling that you are looking for someone to walk you through youre first sexual encounter, for there to be few strings attached, simply a mutually fun time. i think that if that is the case you maybe should be looking for a play partner. a slave tends to be someone who is looking for a Master/slave situation that is far more involved and committed than you are looking for right now.

i would drop the phrase 'socially incompetant', it just feels wrong to say that, generally. youre interpersonal skills challenge you because of youre AS. if people do not understand AS but are curious to get to know you then you can maybe send them some info on AS. otherwise i would just assume that people have some understanding of AS and i would leave it there. the self centered comment needs to be dropped too. i believe it should be enough to mention you have AS and have some info on AS downloaded for anyone who comes along that you can send to them. you are too self denigrating and i dont think thats going to encourage people youre way.

if all you are looking for is a play partner (and i think that at the moment that is what you are looking for) providing personal information like youre financial and employment status really isnt anyones business and doesnt need to be included.

in the end you are a guy who is looking for some fun. thats it. be up beat about youreself, be open about the AS, dont be so self depracating.

good luck.



wrongplanetjon -> RE: Looking for input from slaves (1/16/2010 10:46:20 PM)

Ok, I edited my profile in hopes of making it more suitable.  Thanks for the advice.



elleX -> RE: Looking for input from slaves (1/17/2010 2:39:08 AM)

Hi Jon,
Lally gave you good advice ,
i would change the word slave and put submissive ,, i beleive that will give you a wider plate of possibility
elleX



LillyoftheVally -> RE: Looking for input from slaves (1/17/2010 4:34:55 AM)

I think there is too much focus on AS, the 'crippled' man bit could cause offense.

I think it is good that you mention it but I am pretty sure that it is not the only thing about you, do not let it define you, mention it once then talk about other parts of you. Make it a little longer, what do you enjoy in day to day life, what kind of person do you like spending time with etc etc



lally2 -> RE: Looking for input from slaves (1/17/2010 10:27:04 AM)


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ORIGINAL: wrongplanetjon

Ok, I edited my profile in hopes of making it more suitable.  Thanks for the advice.


hi,

ive checked it out and it reads really well. but, sorry, i think the bit about 'get a girlfriend' and telling a cippled person to walk needs to go. just my slant on it, but its hitting the negative button again with youreself and you need to keep the positive energy flowing. besides, there might be someone who is disabled in some way and who reads youre ad and might be offended by the word crippled.

up to you though. [:)]



sirsholly -> RE: Looking for input from slaves (1/17/2010 1:58:25 PM)

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I am broke and unemployed (despite looking for low end jobs) and I have never been in a relationship ever. Telling me to "just get a girlfriend" is like telling a crippled man to "just walk".
if i were not familiar with Aspergers Syndrome and read this i would tend to think: Socially inept loser with no ambition. Many of us here (myself included) have kids that fall under Autism Spectrum Disorder so there is a lot of understanding (and applause!!) sent your way. But many that will read your profile have no clue what AS is about.

Rather than announce you have never had a relationship in your 38 years, perhaps "Just starting out is this lifestyle" or something along those lines.

As to being broke and unemployed...leave it out. You are not looking for a LTR, so your employment is not an issue.

Lastly...i understand where you are coming from, but "crippled" is not exactly politically correct.




badlilthang -> RE: Looking for input from slaves (1/18/2010 12:01:41 AM)

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But many that will read your profile have no clue what AS is about.
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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

If people do not know, but  are truly interested in  learning about AS - i would hope they took the time to look it up on the net...s...

But...it might be quite the challenge to be submissive to one with AS. Many of them are very set in their ways, and for us outside the AS it can be hard to deal with...i speak out of experience on the AS part...s...mother to one having that diagnosis.







GabrielleSlave -> RE: Looking for input from slaves (1/18/2010 3:54:53 AM)

Hi. i think that you also need to get yourself out and about to your local munch. There will be alot of understanding and should be alot of help and encouragement (there would be at the one i run) and that will get you started meeting people and possible play partners. i understand that it is a scary thing to do, but if you talk to the folk running it beforehand, maybe meet up with them first, then it will be easier i promise!

Good luck!

gabrielle x



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