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swittch 50/50 or 40/60 - 9/7/2004 3:51:21 AM

wirgomale

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what is really the basic meaning of switch as in dry explaining dictionary langueg - Have paistions with me cause U'r a friend, and a friend is a need - like a gas when u bleed - lai'n crying away - I'm swedish - its not only in the spelling its in the understandment - the deep profound knowlegde - can u bring this up to an aha level 4 me - explain as if i where 6 years old
- b'cause my follow up Q is as in the subject window - when are u and when arent u switch

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RE: swittch 50/50 or 40/60 - 9/7/2004 9:49:47 AM

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Greetings,

First, bravo for braving message boards not in line with your native language.

A switch is someone who enjoys both sides of the D/s coin. This might be in the form of Topping & bottoming (my definition of this is something that only takes place during scening with no outside life interaction) or Dominanting & submitting. For some people it goes on a case by case basis depending upon how they 'click' with the other person. In other words, some people might push someone's Dom/me buttons while others might push their submissive buttons. Still others (though i'm told this is pretty rare) might find someone whom they can enjoy both roles with.

Personally, i'm a submissive that enjoys the power exchange (giving up of control to a Dominant for the short explanation at least) in all aspects of life. However, i also enjoy Topping inside of the bedroom every now and then. i certainly would not be able to maintain a Dominant role outside of the bedroom and as such i don't really classify myself as a switch though others might.

Here's a link to an article on the Black Rose Castle site about Switches. This article was posted on their site with reference to steel-door.com which was the original author/poster. (steel-door isn't wanting to load right now so had to do a bit of searching)

Switches

Here's another link that might be a bit easier to understand

Another Switch link

i invite you to read through these and then repost with any questions you might have.

Well wishes

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RE: swittch 50/50 or 40/60 - 9/9/2004 5:40:50 PM

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As Destiny says it's to do with who you are with. Sometimes it's just your own mood or what's going on in your life. I usually feel pretty Dom but this past week I've definitely wished for a warm body to cuddle up to and someone to pat me on the back reminding me that everything will be fine and then take me to bed and have their wicked way with me.

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RE: swittch 50/50 or 40/60 - 9/10/2004 3:47:32 AM

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A "switch" is to BD/SM what a bisexual is to straight/gay. Everybody has their preferences - some people will only have sex with a person of the opposite gender, some people will only have sex with their own gender. Some people will only submit, some will only dominate.

A lot of people - more than are willing to admit it - will take up the opposite role for the right person.

Some people will willingly do either - or both - as whim and circumstances permit. These last few usually call themselves "switch", because they switch back and forth from Top to bottom, Sadist to masochist.

I have been told, but do not know if this is true, that the term "switch" is a baseball reference, from "Switch-Hitter", a person who can swing their bat from the right or left hand side of the plate. I'm too much of a sissy to bother with sports, so I do not know if this is correct.

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RE: swittch 50/50 or 40/60 - 9/10/2004 6:04:54 PM

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For me it depends on my mood. If I feel the need to be sub then I am.. if I feel the need to be Dominant then I do that instead.

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RE: swittch 50/50 or 40/60 - 9/20/2004 10:42:38 PM

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Hello wiregomale,
I think it can be a different thing for different people.
I for instance, am totally submissive in the relationship as a whole.
But, there are times when I desire to top my Mistress and be dominate in bed, I used to consider this switching because it is something I enjoy and feel comfortable doing.
I felt confusion for a while, because of my being submissive at all other times until I posted about my feelings, and someone respounded by telling me, if it is something my Mistress likes and desires,
even though I am being dominant, I am still submitting to my Mistresses desires. hope I didn't confuse you more =o).

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RE: swittch 50/50 or 40/60 - 10/7/2004 11:00:00 AM

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Suleiman,
That has to be the most clear and consise definition I have ever read. Short and to the point. May I use it?

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RE: swittch 50/50 or 40/60 - 12/3/2004 11:44:27 PM

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Technically, I'm a switch, in reality I'm 90+% Dommey - but boy do I enjoy it when I sub

It's a mood thing for me!

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RE: swittch 50/50 or 40/60 - 12/4/2004 5:59:55 PM

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I have to put my two cents in and say as CandPo states...its all in the mood you are in. Some days i can feel just downright submissive and when i say "Yes Daddy" or "Yes Sir" its a sign that says ok, this is how i am feeling right now. We have never felt submissive or Dominant at the same time, it was either one or the other so i am not sure what others do when that happens.

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RE: swittch 50/50 or 40/60 - 12/7/2004 6:52:05 PM

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wirgomale, are you getting the basic idea?

To summarize, a switch is a person that enjoys both the dominant and the submissive roles in bdsm.

In my mind, the percentage of time that a switch spends in either role matters little. It's a matter of how they identify themselves *to* themselves.

Hope we're making sense, and "Bravo!" for braving the English language! I hope our words here make as much sense to you as yours did to us. If so, we have communicated! Woohoo! :)

Regards,

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RE: swittch 50/50 or 40/60 - 12/7/2004 8:17:03 PM

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ORIGINAL: roseofsheryn

Suleiman,
That has to be the most clear and consise definition I have ever read. Short and to the point. May I use it?

Go ahead. If anything I say in a public forum is worth repeating, go ahead and repeat it. If you feel like it give attribution, but I really don't care. If I want recognition for my writing I'll sell it to a publisher. Stuff I say as part of a conversation is just stuff that I've said.

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