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kiwisub12 -> RE: Help needed for an assignment (1/24/2010 2:19:57 PM)

Is there not a bdsm site in Brazil? Seems you would be better off looking there than on cm. For that matter, don't you know anyone in Brazil that you can ask if they know someone who could fufil your assignment.

ps - your english is excellent - way better than my spanish. [:)]



LadyJay -> RE: Help needed for an assignment (1/24/2010 2:27:22 PM)

I have done 2 other assignments where no physical contact was included and both worked. Both times I could see they where having a hard on, since I was naked. But since this two guys where really experienced in the local BDSM community, all the rules where respected.



LadyJay -> RE: Help needed for an assignment (1/24/2010 2:29:47 PM)

unfortunatly not many BDSM sites in Brazil. But there are many people of Brazil on CM and fetlife where I also published the assignment.
thank you.



LadyJay -> RE: Help needed for an assignment (1/24/2010 2:31:49 PM)

By the way, my Master nick is "larme" he is online and reading our postings. Anything you want to know, just ask him.



littlebitxxx -> RE: Help needed for an assignment (1/24/2010 2:33:12 PM)

<FR>
Just a quick thought:  watching a strip tease after hours of stinging nettle in the panties....ewwww. 



xxblushesxx -> RE: Help needed for an assignment (1/24/2010 3:03:03 PM)

Why don't you ask him why he would put you in danger? Why can't you do a cam show? That way lots of people can watch and humiliate you AND you'll be safe.



Surrenderwithin -> RE: Help needed for an assignment (1/24/2010 3:50:17 PM)

I read this thread and a thought comes to me... It is more about the idea of what punishment is and its intent and need within a power exchange relationship....

This entire thread irks me for some reason.

To the OP: I second the good luck with that thing.



Missokyst -> RE: Help needed for an assignment (1/24/2010 4:24:04 PM)

Then it seems to me contacting someone from your local BDSM community would be the best way to go. Posting this to CM seems like a bit of overkill.

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ORIGINAL: LadyJay

I have done 2 other assignments where no physical contact was included and both worked. Both times I could see they where having a hard on, since I was naked. But since this two guys where really experienced in the local BDSM community, all the rules where respected.




DesFIP -> RE: Help needed for an assignment (1/24/2010 6:12:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyJay

Is not in my best interest, is in his interest. It's a punishment, of course would take energy, dealing with a stranger in a hotel room (something I'm not newbie by the way), etc. I did something wrong, now I'm dealing with it.


So what happens when the stranger decides pictures aren't enough and proceeds to rape you? No help from the police in Brazil in such a situation, they'll assume you are a whore.

And if he isn't interested in your safety he's not trustworthy.



Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Help needed for an assignment (1/24/2010 6:19:11 PM)

In my opinion, then, which means nothing he wouldn't be having you find a stranger to go do a strip tease for.

There's all kinds of manner of things that can go wrong with a request like this.

Do you even know if you're alergic to the plant or not, and if you happen to be, what if the stranger won't help you get medical care and you're not capable of getting it yourself.

What if the stranger decides after your little agreement is in place and you're actually alone with him to rape you instead, If you even manage to fight off the attack then you'll still be traumatized, just because two people before have been honorable, don't mean every one will be  and in my opinion, which again means nothing, since it's your risk, someone who loved and claimed to care for me, and held my life in his hands, wouldn't tell me to do something as stupid as this.

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ORIGINAL: LadyJay

He is not a cyberfreak. We have a LDR, but we travel frequently together. He is very concerned on my safety. He is not only my BDSM partner, he is my lover and best friend




DrkJourney -> RE: Help needed for an assignment (1/24/2010 6:31:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyJay

Yes I would do that in a safe/neutral environment.
Must be for someone in the BDSM community, that would understand and respect the goal of tha play which is humiliation, plus the fact that there's no physical/sexual contact.


What do you call a safe environment being in a room alone with a stranger?  If you don't know this person, which I figure since you are trolling here for volunteers, will "follow the rules"?  If humiliation is all he wants then why not set up a cam and invite people to watch? 



DrkJourney -> RE: Help needed for an assignment (1/24/2010 6:35:30 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyJay

I have done 2 other assignments where no physical contact was included and both worked. Both times I could see they where having a hard on, since I was naked. But since this two guys where really experienced in the local BDSM community, all the rules where respected.


If you've already done this twice why press your luck?   Get those same people to help you again.  Your english sure is perfect for someone in another country...but good fall back on the I'm in another country thing....but for it to be believeable you really need to speak more broken.

can't believe we are responding to this like it's real....lol  oh well maybe it will help someone else who might come up with some hair-brained idea




AquaticSub -> RE: Help needed for an assignment (1/24/2010 7:24:56 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyJay

Is not in my best interest, is in his interest. It's a punishment, of course would take energy, dealing with a stranger in a hotel room (something I'm not newbie by the way), etc. I did something wrong, now I'm dealing with it.


In our relationship, anything that has the potential to damage me is not in his interest as I am his and he has no interest in devaluing/breaking/having to fix his toys.

Keep in mind... I'm not saying you shouldn't. I'm just not convinced that the situation has been thought through so I'm not going "Yeehaw, have fun". And frankly, as has been mentioned, this really isn't the right side of this site to find it. They don't even let us put ads for relationships here, I don't see why an ad for a scene would be different. Even if this isn't sexual to you, I doubt someone will take you up on this unless they are getting some kind of thrill out of it.

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By the way, my Master nick is "larme" he is online and reading our postings. Anything you want to know, just ask him.

If he's reading, why not comment? Not judging, but I don't particularly feel like PMing a guy who is reading over the public discussion and not adding anything to it.



NibbyJibby -> RE: Help needed for an assignment (1/24/2010 7:28:42 PM)

With perhaps allergic reaction which could easily be tested in advance, i do not believe there is danger with nettles. This is something i experienced six or seven years ago. Was instructed to collect a large plastic garbage bag full of nettles which i did. Upon return i knelt on small stones then proceeded to fill underwear completly full of nettles... front and back.

In heat of the moment there was not much sensation, but shortly after the pain was indescribable. Recall my antics of pain, it hurt much and water made no difference... however with exception of intense pain which lasted ten minutes, there were no other symptoms and this was on most sensitive parts of my body. I would liken it to pain of tabasco sauce.

As for a stranger and public task, a strip club i found to be easiest solution... however i am speaking from perspective of a male. Still i see it no more dangerous than asking a total stranger online. Online or in club, references are wise option.



DesFIP -> RE: Help needed for an assignment (1/24/2010 7:52:39 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DrkJourney


Your english sure is perfect for someone in another country...but good fall back on the I'm in another country thing....but for it to be believeable you really need to speak more broken.




Another point is that as people wander around in barely anything on the beaches in Brazil, thong barely anything, you can't assume slipping the band aids worth of bathing suit off is going to be any major punishment. Body image difficulties are not normally found on those beaches. And unless this was difficult, it isn't a punishment.



Rhodes85 -> RE: Help needed for an assignment (1/24/2010 8:50:55 PM)

Methinks this is a bad bad BAD idea.

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Your english sure is perfect for someone in another country...but good fall back on the I'm in another country thing....but for it to be believeable you really need to speak more broken.


Doesn't necessarily mean much. A good friend of mine is from Brazil and speaks English perfectly. Despite only learning it a few years ago. Hell I learned German in less than a year. You'd be suprised how well someone who speaks Portuguese as their first language can learn to speak English.



camille65 -> RE: Help needed for an assignment (1/24/2010 8:55:39 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Rhodes85

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Your english sure is perfect for someone in another country...but good fall back on the I'm in another country thing....but for it to be believeable you really need to speak more broken.


Doesn't necessarily mean much. A good friend of mine is from Brazil and speaks English perfectly. Despite only learning it a few years ago. Hell I learned German in less than a year. You'd be suprised how well someone who speaks Portuguese as their first language can learn to speak English.



Plus for some writing in a secondary language is easier then speaking/hearing it. Broken language IME happens more often when it is spoken not written.



Rhodes85 -> RE: Help needed for an assignment (1/24/2010 9:00:15 PM)

True. and on that note he also speaks English near perfectly...albeit with a vaugly English accent (language teacher was from England)



OsideGirl -> RE: Help needed for an assignment (1/25/2010 7:39:49 AM)

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ORIGINAL: NibbyJibby

I would liken it to pain of tabasco sauce.
Which I wouldn't apply to my nether regions either.



Elizabeth666 -> RE: Help needed for an assignment (1/25/2010 7:47:43 AM)


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyJay

Is not in my best interest, is in his interest. It's a punishment, of course would take energy, dealing with a stranger in a hotel room (something I'm not newbie by the way), etc. I did something wrong, now I'm dealing with it.


So what happens when the stranger decides pictures aren't enough and proceeds to rape you? No help from the police in Brazil in such a situation, they'll assume you are a whore.

And if he isn't interested in your safety he's not trustworthy.


In total agreement.

You gut lucky the first two times, don't push your luck.

Another question, if this is what he wants you to do, why can't he be there with you in another room? Why don't you bring a friend for safety's sake?



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