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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/25/2010 5:00:43 PM   
FetishRose


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Status: offline 		If we are in a place where it can be administered immediately, he does so, but always after a discussion of what I did and why I will be punished for it, and what my punishment will be.
If we are in a public place, he will tell me he is displeased, and then we will discuss it and I will take my punishment when we get home.
For me, the delay is actually worse, because then I really feel like I messed up

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/25/2010 5:22:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		pusihment does't always work,a kind word doesn't always work either...but sometimes using a kind word last longer ...

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/25/2010 6:15:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FetishRose

If we are in a place where it can be administered immediately, he does so, but always after a discussion of what I did and why I will be punished for it, and what my punishment will be.
If we are in a public place, he will tell me he is displeased, and then we will discuss it and I will take my punishment when we get home.
For me, the delay is actually worse, because then I really feel like I messed up



you did mess up, you called miss cillie a duck

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/26/2010 7:43:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Exploratorynfun

I am still in the learning process and forget things at times and even after being reminded I sometimes forget.
If that's the case, perhaps helping you develop a system to help you remember would be more effective than punishment. I think that giving you the tools to succeed would be more fun/rewarding than being frustrated by repeating the same issue.

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/26/2010 7:06:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		as i have heard on here a few times, it really depends, ... in all my relationships there has been this evil little book i want to destroy that keeps track of what i have done wrong and how many swats i would be recieving

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/26/2010 8:30:35 PM   
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 It's not the *easy way out*...it's the method that works most efficiently for that person.

What works for you wouldn't work for me. And vice versa. It's a little short-sighted to suggest that being hit is the *easy way out*.

agirl





Sorry agirl, I was unclear. I didn't mean it was the easy way out for the sub, but for the dominant. Having to delve into the whys and wherefores and figure out what is happening and how best to solve it for the future takes more time and effort than does snapping out "Go stand in the corner".

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/27/2010 6:45:45 AM   
agirl


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

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ORIGINAL: agirl


 It's not the *easy way out*...it's the method that works most efficiently for that person.

What works for you wouldn't work for me. And vice versa. It's a little short-sighted to suggest that being hit is the *easy way out*.

agirl





Sorry agirl, I was unclear. I didn't mean it was the easy way out for the sub, but for the dominant. Having to delve into the whys and wherefores and figure out what is happening and how best to solve it for the future takes more time and effort than does snapping out "Go stand in the corner".


It's ok DesFIP, I did understand that you meant the dom.   Not everyone is in the same type of relationship,  or chose it for the same reasons or indeed have the same character.  

Even when it comes to paying the penalty for something , it doesn't mean it doesn't get talked about, or the whys and wherefores go ignored. He's known me for a decade, though... he knows how I operate. If I don't stick to something I agreed to and know the penalty of not doing so, it seems pretty clear cut to me. I can hardly complain.  He expects valid reasons for not sticking to things ....doctor's notes, death certificate etc ...lol.

The fact that I'm going to spend a very uncomfortable time if I don't motivate my arse to keep to things that I agreed to myself...means that I do stick to it most of the time...... the times when I don't, tend to cure me of it for quite a long time.
It's amazing how attractive a BodyPump class can seem first thing in the morning, when the alternative is an intimate moment with a swedish crop.

Would I go to the class anyhow?....well, yes, when I felt like it, but I don't *feel* like it 5 times out of 10.  Neither of us need to delve too deeply into WHY I don't *feel like it* because we both know that if I don't go, then I'm either burying my head in the sand about the consequences, living in the moment .... or a major disaster has occured.

agirl



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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/27/2010 7:35:30 AM   
Elisabella


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ORIGINAL: Exploratorynfun

Just curious of how punishment is handle for the rest of the subs.... Is punishment immediately following disobedience or disrespect? or is there lag time b/w the behavior and punishment?


Okay not to derail your thread (FR: We don't do punishment, he tells me if he is upset with me and why and I make an effort to improve) but is "lag" mainstream now or is this board geekier than I thought?

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