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MasterCharlie010 -> dating advice (1/25/2010 10:19:26 PM)
Can anybody give me good dating advice? I'm looking for a nice sub or slave girl

PrimalConsonance -> RE: dating advice (1/25/2010 10:24:12 PM)
I would just say be confident and be yourself. Have something to say, and be easy to get along with...all the usual things that apply to vanilla, apply to BDSM, and is really just a part of being a social animal. Take care, and welcome to the boards...

peppermint -> RE: dating advice (1/25/2010 10:55:44 PM)
If you are looking for a LTR then you go about dating just as you would with any other lady. You go to dinner, the movies, hang out with friends, and do tons of talking. The talking is about everything vanilla and kink.

LadyPact -> RE: dating advice (1/25/2010 11:00:03 PM)
Agreed. I don't particularly think dating advice would be any different just because a person happens to be kinky. If you're looking at relationship type D/s, it's not all going to be about the kink. It's still a getting to know someone process, spending time together and so on. If it's play partners only, it may have a different twist, but most folks still need the relationship content if it's an actual relationship.

Rhodes85 -> RE: dating advice (1/25/2010 11:05:10 PM)
My advice is simple: be yourself and act like you would if you were dating someone in a vanilla relationship. After all its a relationship first and the kink second.

PowerOverU -> RE: dating advice (1/25/2010 11:13:57 PM)
I've actually worked as a dating coach before and I'd be happy to help . What specifically are you looking for help in? Are you asking for advice on meeting/finding someone or what to do once you've found them? Saying you're looking for "dating advice" is VERY broad.

sirsholly -> RE: dating advice (1/26/2010 1:22:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: peppermint If you are looking for a LTR then you go about dating just as you would with any other lady. You go to dinner, the movies, hang out with friends, and do tons of talking. The talking is about everything vanilla and kink. yep!

ResidentSadist -> RE: dating advice (1/26/2010 1:29:40 AM)
Dating advice??? Don't do it! Just buy one for $850 from those guys in TX.

onlyfreelycaged -> RE: dating advice (1/26/2010 2:03:47 AM)
try looking for the woman, not the sub or slave.

EbonyWood -> RE: dating advice (1/26/2010 2:11:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: peppermint If you are looking for a LTR then you go about dating just as you would with any other lady. You go to dinner, the movies, hang out with friends, and do tons of talking. Then you take her home and suspend her from the ceiling. Especially if you went Dutch.

crazyml -> RE: dating advice (1/26/2010 3:17:16 AM)
Where to start! All of the above makes great sense, I'd also advise you to read some of the different threads here on the forum, and invest some time in redoing your profile - make it clear what you're looking for, how much experience you have. Don't expect an inbox full of subs pledging their service to you - as a guy it's more likely that you'll have to initiate contact..

eyesopened -> RE: dating advice (1/26/2010 4:58:04 AM)
I'm not so sure I'd agree entirely with people who say it's a relationship first and kink second. What I would recommend is to look at what kind of relationship you want and the goals for that relationship. Kink, vanilla, work or play, if the people involved do not share the same goals, failure is inevitable. If kink is important to you then dating vanilla with the hopes it will become a kink relationship is going to be frustrating. My Master came up with a very short list of must-haves and a very short list of deal-breakers. For example a passion for bondage was a must-have, drugs use was a deal-breaker. Once we established that each of us had the must-haves and didn't have the deal-breakers and that we wanted the same things from the relationship, we proceeded pretty much the same as any 'vanilla' dating.

CarrieO -> RE: dating advice (1/26/2010 5:35:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterCharlie010 Can anybody give me good dating advice? I'm looking for a nice sub or slave girl Well, giving people the bird in your video and having next to nothing in your profile isn't going to help you one bit. You may want a sub or a slave but you still need to be approachable as a person first. Start with THIS and then re-read everything that's been said to you on this thread...especially this... quote: ORIGINAL: onlyfreelycaged try looking for the woman, not the sub or slave.

lucylucy -> RE: dating advice (1/26/2010 6:25:30 AM)
Be sure you are someone a nice sub or slave girl will want to be in a relationship with. Do an honest self-assessment. If you have "issues" or shortcomings that you already know about, do something about them. Good luck.

DarkSteven -> RE: dating advice (1/26/2010 6:41:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CarrieO Well, giving people the bird in your video and having next to nothing in your profile isn't going to help you one bit. What CarrieO said, but with a lot more emphasis. A Master needs to have maturity, and flipping a bird is something that most of us outgrew in high school. You may want to change to a profile that doesn't use the term Master. That's like someone about to buy tools who refers to himself as a journeyman.

Sanguinarian -> RE: dating advice (1/26/2010 6:47:20 AM)
What DarkSteven said. Only more emphatically.

pahunkboy -> RE: dating advice (1/26/2010 8:00:02 AM)
dinner, dancing, FLOWERS, poems, romance, gifts like chocolate, little notes- tell her she is pretty, smart, you need a ladies touch. no big mystery to it.

allthatjaz -> RE: dating advice (1/26/2010 8:05:33 AM)
Dating advice for submissives and dominants .... moved to off topic. Whats going on?!?!

Loki45 -> RE: dating advice (1/26/2010 8:11:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterCharlie010 Can anybody give me good dating advice? I'm looking for a nice sub or slave girl How about "don't do it." If you want to blow tons of cash and only get an orgasm out of it, the women of the moonlight bunny ranch would be more than accomodating.

EmeraldGuardian -> RE: dating advice (1/26/2010 8:17:35 AM)
Just tossing this thought out- Do you need advice on how to GET a date, or what to do ON a date?

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