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Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Who's the slave? (1/26/2010 1:46:15 PM)
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It all depends upon the symbolic logic being applied. If you own a home, you become a slave to it's upkeep. If you own a car you become slave to the upkeep of that as well. Not to mention a Slave to the Big Buck Oil/Gas companies (this is slowly starting to change now days). The more favorite TV shows you have, the more you become a slave to your TV set too.
The more you things you own, greater becomes your responsibility. Such is true with the amount of friends you have. You can have so many friends that you become a slave to the social aspects of maintaining those relationships. Technically, we all are or become Slaves to our own choices and decisions in life.
The concept of slavery in the manner you presented here, is responsibility.
Some people are seeking out D/s relationships without regards to the responsibility involved. Then again some people don't think about responsibility when it comes to owning pets either. They just see the pretty cute fluffy kitty cat and not think about the responsibility, work and commitment that comes along with it. Some people in fact feel like they are slaves to their pets. It also depends upon the type of pet as well. For instance, dogs require way more work on the owners part compared to a cat (most of the time).
People make bad choices and decisions that ain't right for what they want out of life. It's insane to own a lot of cats and dogs, if your lifestyle plans includes doing a lot of frequent traveling. If you wish to do both, the solution is to hire somebody to take care of them while you are away. Then again, this requires one is responsible to properly screen who they are hiring to take care of their pets. You have to be able to entrust them with your responsibility with the welfare of the pets in mind. Some people can't afford this. If one can't somehow find or afford somebody to take care of their pets, then something needs to give. Either they need to put their traveling lifestyle plans on hold, or their pet owning lifestyle on hold.
I'm one of those types, that believes a Dominant should factor in responsibility, and be aware of their lifestyle choices. Also, the same is said for submissives. They should be aware of the responsibility their Dominant Partner Entrusts them with, just as much as the Dominant should be aware of responsibilities involved. This is a general adult concept. At least, this is an established Idealism that as adults we have learned to make responsibile choices and decisions. It's a concept that is reinforced in Kindergartner, 1st grade and repeated over and over again.
Adults don't always behave in a manner that is condusive to the concept of being "responsible adults". The world is full of illresponsibile adult children that never wanted to grow up. Some people really need a Mommy or Daddy still. Dominant Little Boys and Girls that can't seem to find their big boy/girl underwear. Ohhh booo hoooo...
In regards to D/s relationships responsbility travels two ways. If anythng, the Dominant is or should be in charge of knowing the overhaul big picture of responsibilies. Be able to religate tasks and responsbilities of what needs to be done or taken care of. You know, be a boss. This requires them to entrust their submissive with responsbility. Ironic, much can be said about this. That the Dominate has to be able to relinquish personal control and surrender it to the submissive. Personal control and being in charge of things is different.
For Instance, If I wanted personal control over Dinner.. my ass would be out in the kitchen doing it, not letting anybody else near the kitchen to do anything. Why? Because somebody else might fuck it up. However, if a Dominant releases that control and entrusts their submissive partner to do it, the Dominant still can be in charge of making the decision of what is for Dinner. If their Submissive partner ain't too good at cooking, sure the Dominant can take back personal control. However, they can also purchase come cooking books, DVD's and assign learning tasks for their submissive partner. However, this does not mean it has be an cold hard ass authoritian process either. Some Dominates will encourage personal growth through having normal everyday conversation about things. Such as talking about tasty food dishes, even go shopping with their submissive partner, tossing out the thoughts and ideas for their submissive to pick up on. A lot of submissives are actively seeking out ways to please their partner. (sounds almost too easy). Things only become a lot of work, if the submissive is a little mentally slow or dim witted. Then again, the same can be said for pets. Some people, just spot a cute little kitty cat or puppy dog, and without interacting with the animal at all.. scoop it up.. and away they go.
Some people troll the profiles online here, looking at pictures in very much the same way. Looking at Body parts thinking.. Ummm.. yummy.. yum yum.. and without taking time to interact with the other person, and without regards to figuring out the associated responsbilities.. they are trying to force things along in 2.5 seconds flat.
I don't have a people with people wantng NSA encounters, that's a bit like petting some dog or cat while they are out for a walk in a park. However, when it comes to a D/s relationship. It's a lifestyle choice. Lifestyle Choice. Just as much as a Job or Career is. Owning a House verse Renting a house, that's a bit of a lifestyle choice even. There are people that can afford to own a home but don't. Choices and Decisions we all get to make as human beings.
If anything we all are, and have been (at least) slave to our own stupidity from choices we've made.
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