MasterFireMaam
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Joined: 3/1/2006 From: Charleston, WV Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx At what point do you, as a dominant expect to be addressed as 'Master', 'Sir' 'Maam' or even 'Dr.' (for those who are) rather than by name from a potential submissive? I assume that if he or she is interested enough in me to serve me, he or she is interested enough to show respect. So, I expect "Ma'am" right from the moment he or she shows interest in service. I'm a little less strict with those who just want to play and I don't expect it from strangers. However, if I get it from a stranger, I do take note...I prefer those who are willing to show respect first. They usually understand that if they show respect, it's then on the shoulders of the person to whom they're refering to live up to it. This is my opinion, of course...and we all look for those who share our opinions. quote:
Is this something that evolves rather naturally or do you have a set standard you employ? For those I click with, it usually comes naturally to them. Most get the honorific wrong the first time, which doesn't bother me since a female who uses Master seems to confuse people. I usually only have to correct them once. quote:
What are your views on a potential submissive who balks at the title when first directed to use it? Is she/he not 'submissive enough', not 'submissive to you' or just possibly not ready to take that next step with you? They obviously don't click with me, so I don't make an issue of it. I wouldn't pursue a relationship with them. quote:
And if someone is interested in exploring becoming collared by you (eventually), but does balk at the use of an honorific as just not being ready for that, what is your next step? See previous question. If they balk, we're not a fit. quote:
Ok, one more; Is it a sign of respect to the title, or just disrespect to you, if this happens relatively early in a d/s relationship? It's a sign that they're not willing to give respect in order to get it back. However, most discerning subs/slaves won't try to submit to someone they don't respect, so by the time they are looking at someone for a relationship, they should have respect for the person and be more than willing to address them in whatever manner they wish. Fire
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