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ResidentSadist -> RE: Struggling (1/30/2010 7:53:54 PM)
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-=Questions=-
If struggling gives you a sense of accomplishment, a feeling of belonging, a connection to your partner or love, then you might have slave tendencies.
If struggling makes you suffer and gives you a sense of sexual stimulation, sexual satisfaction or otherwise enhances your libido, you may have masochistic tendencies.
If struggling gives you a sense of accomplishment, love, and enhances your libido, you may be a masochistic slave. :)
-=Struggling Slaves=-
In my experience through many community discussions, struggle has been used to describe one of the common determining factors in the choice between a submissive role or a slave role in a relationship. In general, not the ‘one twue way’, but often enough to suggest a personality pattern, I have found that:
A submissive takes the subordinate position in a D/s relationship. The degree of control is negotiated by agreement, they do not have to surrender all control. The rewards include the pleasures of service and/or being controled. Often, struggle or suffering is optional, hence the negotiation aspect.
A slave, is a subordinate that surrenders control in a TPE. Often a slave will struggle to do that which is not pleasurable and it is fulfilling this service that brings reward to a slave, suffering isn't optional. Obedience is enforced (forced as you say) with repercussions and/or recompense for disobedience.
-=Maso=-
If struggling for you includes suffering, and suffering is either as an enhancement to or a substitute for sexual pleasure, it can also be an indicator of masochism and sexual masochism.
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