Slipstreme
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I am always Dominant, even when I am bottoming, although I do not Top from the bottom. Thanks for sharing your experiences Slipstreme. That one line above got me....care to expand on that? When I go into a scene, it is generally agreed that we are at least equals. I will not play with someone who expects to feel or be dominant over me. When the scene ends, we are back to being equals. In fact, my primary partner helps fill my masochistic needs because he knows it pleases me, and in a way, this is one of his methods of serving me. Usually I come to my partners for my beatings, and I initiate when my sadism is piqued and they usually reciprocate. Either way, I approach them. Even with my flogging buddy, I decide when and where. Yet, once a scene starts and I am the one bottoming, I try my darnnedest not to stop until my Top decides enough is enough (I have started outlasting them...lol). I do not try to control the scene, because it is not "my" scene. I basically let my inhibitions go, and hang on for the ride. Scene ends, the dynamic is reestablished. My flogging buddy and I have both encounted physical Domspace and subspace working each other over, but overall it is simply sadistic and masochistic desire and not control that has us there. Once an attempt to control me is made and I pick up on it, said partner experiences resistence and the scene usually will end. So yes, as much as it is confusing, I am a dominant SadoMasochist (with an emphasis on sadomasochist). I do often feel as if I am in control of my primary partner inside and outside of scene when I am on the giving end. Our dynamic, though weak, is D/s, with me at the helm. I had first come to collarme thinking the love of Topping and bottoming would make me a switch, until I realized sadomasochism is not connected to D/s directly. I have realized though that the scenes where I finally give up my ability not to enjoy the pain, and to argue with the skewed dynamics are the ones I enjoy most.The ones that push me as far as I can physically go, and get my Dommy side to give into the fact it does take you presenting yourself for the abuse and take a supine looking role to enjoy a masochistic experience. At least though, the days I can't see myself at the business end of the whip are few. I've also realized that I like to wear the gear expected of the submissive or bottom, and like the irony inherent of a Dominant in chains. Hope this helps. I know it is confusing. Heck, I confuse myself sometimes!
< Message edited by Slipstreme -- 3/28/2006 11:19:19 AM >
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