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What do women need from men? - 2/2/2010 8:08:47 AM   
Tinkerer


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Status: offline 		For those of you in a relationship, what do you need from your male partner? Also, what do you need them to share with you about themselves and what they are thinking? What actions must they take when you are upset or hurt that show you they care and make you feel better? What makes you feel loved by them?
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RE: What do women need from men? - 2/2/2010 8:24:39 AM   
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RE: What do women need from men? - 2/2/2010 8:25:49 AM   
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RE: What do women need from men? - 2/2/2010 8:29:19 AM   
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RE: What do women need from men? - 2/2/2010 8:45:11 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Lucienne

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And monies!!

Srsly! Affection, acceptance, obedience, the same things that most folks want from their partners.

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RE: What do women need from men? - 2/2/2010 8:50:20 AM   
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"Snakes need a hole...holes don't have much need for snakes."


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RE: What do women need from men? - 2/2/2010 8:59:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		hmmmm...snarky answer: great cock, great tongue, unlimited use of credit cards, never wear sports team attire unless at a game, ability to kill bugs, install air conditioners, set up cable/DVR/TV situation, worship the ground I walk on, like all my friends, like my family, take out garbage, go food shopping for me, would kill for me.

serious answer: some of the above plus the ability to listen to me and hear me, to "get" me, to witness my life and let me witness his, to compromise, be flexible, love passionately and laugh alot.

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RE: What do women need from men? - 2/2/2010 9:01:00 AM   
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Can we just appear to be listening?


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RE: What do women need from men? - 2/2/2010 9:02:41 AM   
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RE: What do women need from men? - 2/2/2010 9:04:10 AM   
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RE: What do women need from men? - 2/2/2010 9:04:49 AM   
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RE: What do women need from men? - 2/2/2010 9:06:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		I tend to say that I don't need anything from other people.  Needs, to Me, are those things that support life.  I've obviously survived those periods in My life where I wasn't involved with anyone, so I don't really consider them needs.

That doesn't mean that there aren't things that I want to a great extent.  There are also things that I refuse to tolerate just for the sake of a relationship.  I do have certain requirements.

With all that being said, there are certain elements to a healthy relationship that seem to be universal.  Open communication is one of those.  That includes both parts of it.  The expressing as well as the listening.  Neither of those are especially strong suits in some males.  It's often the disconnect between partners.

The listening part, along with actual concern for Me, in most cases, is all I really want when I'm upset or hurt.  I don't expect any man in My life to fix everything for Me.  There are some things there really just isn't a fix for.  Grief over the death of a loved one is just one example of this.  Yet, I may need to express that grief.

What makes Me feel loved are all of the little things and big things that make up a relationship.  Not just the physical signs of affection or the verbal expressions.  I'm very much an actions person.  If I mention I have a headache, he brings the aspirin without Me asking him to, or he notices My feet are cold so he offers some socks.  He knows that I love trips to events, so he'll plan those all out.  It's all the things that he does for which he labels himself a 'smart' man, just because he knows they make Me happy.


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RE: What do women need from men? - 2/2/2010 10:11:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		I need a mate. Someone with whom I can entwine my life with. To know him inside and out, and him, me. Talking about himself and his feelings is a must. I've got real expectations, it does takes a long time to establish that with someone, but that is the goal. It's the small sweet things that get me when I'm feeling down. A kiss, a hug, a little tickle.

What makes me feel loved, well that can be anything. He shows he cares about my worries by taking care of household chores so that I don't have to do them. He has dinner ready for when I come home from work. He knows that certain look he can give me to cause me to bust up laughing. Things that show we have that connection and are building it still.

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RE: What do women need from men? - 2/2/2010 11:16:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		There's nothing I *need* from a man, or a woman for that matter.  Things I generally want, though (for a romantic partnership, for straight D/s and other things it's a different list) are love, communication, compatibility in major life views, plans, etc; and great sex.

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RE: What do women need from men? - 2/2/2010 4:18:10 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Tinkerer

For those of you in a relationship, what do you need from your male partner? Also, what do you need them to share with you about themselves and what they are thinking? What actions must they take when you are upset or hurt that show you they care and make you feel better? What makes you feel loved by them?



I think the word need is a very strong word. I could say that in order for the relationship to work, I will need honesty and respect from him. I will also give it back. Now the rest are simply things that I desire from him. He will, if he wants to make me happy, give me those things. If he doesn't there's a chance he isn't the man for me.

As for the sharing part, I think that it's up to both of us to create a dynamic where we can eventually share as much as we can about ourselves and what we are thinking. I don't rush this because the beauty is in discovering. I do admit however that over time, I realise that everyone deserves their own secret garden.

I don't dictate how someone reacts to me when I am uspet or hurt. I would hope that they would offer me some strength and comfort.

What makes me feel loved by them are the little things. Seriously.

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RE: What do women need from men? - 2/2/2010 5:37:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		The things I absolutely require to have success in a relationship are honesty, respect and communication.

I love sharing my mind with my partner, I give him honesty and real, I expect honest and real. They don't have to tell me every little secret, but I can't tolerate lies.

Respect really is a two way street. To have earned my partners respect and to have them show me in many different ways is a huge honor for me. Likewise in order to respect him, he will create and live by virtues that he has created for himself. I find I gravitate towards those who have high value systems, similar to my own..

Lastly, I want to know when my partner is unhappy about something so that perhaps I can help work through it. If they need to work through something on their own, I can respect that, but I would need them to communicate that to me in a healthy way or I will wind up stepping on toes, trying to "fix things". So likewise, when I am unhappy or upset, I would expect that I could communicate this to my partner and they would try to address my concerns or my needs.

There are so many other qualities I find attractive and that a partner can do to make me feel loved and cared for, but these are "extra" in my mind compared to these fundamental things.

Oh, and what Lucienne said.

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