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LadyHugs -> RE: Does sex get in the way of submission? (2/3/2007 8:52:11 PM)
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Dear openmindedslave, Ladies and Gentlemen;
Sex is an extremely broad word, to where it can be associated to almost anything we do and or associate with, even though the act of mating/breeding is absent. So, just as sex is vague due to the ability to lead into assumptions or perceptions, so is the topic of submission.
In my mind's eyes I see, the physical act of mating/breeding expectations prove troublesome as those who approach me on a personal level see sex acts, such as mating/breeding is paramount over and above establishing a relationship, communication and taking into consideration the entire person, flaws and all and not just focus on sex acts.
In my mind's eyes, the attraction to this lifestyle is through 'sex.' Sex sells, regardless if it gives a good fantasy read and or porn videos to watch. We, in general terms are sexual by nature and sex is a drive that is most primal, as to keep our kind (the human) alive to the next generations. At the beginnings of the lifestyle 'sex'--it is physical. Yet, as one matures into the lifestyle 'sex' on the physical realm takes less focus and shifts to the inner spirit/soul and mind as an equal companion to the sex acts itself.
For those who have conditional submission, such joined journey into the primal physical sex into the more sophisticated recipe of adding to the primal passion of physical sex, with the joining of spirit/soul and the mind, the use of pleasure and pain to add or withdraw, cannot happen freely and or is limited. So, yes it can get in the way of submission; as submission allows the Dominant to send the slave into the spaces in flying or in ecstacy and or trance, so the Dominant then can join in that level having placed the person from submission in the rapture, join and then return to Earth per se.
Further, the pressure that individuals place on the physical sexual performance can often sabatoge the rapture of mental, spiritual ecstacy and or trance. Removing the physical performance factor, the submission and rise into the mental, spiritual and sense of being then can compensate for physical performances and or inhibiting pressure, allowing sexual joy to manifest in many ways but, not limited and or exclusively physical orgasms.
Just some thoughts.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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