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Your Sexuality.... - 2/7/2010 12:35:39 PM   
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How do you best express your sexuality?  What might some situations be where you could ideally or optimally express yourself?  What inspires your sexuality?




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RE: Your Sexuality.... - 2/7/2010 12:55:10 PM   
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A long, well paced, unhurried session, taking in whartenberg wheel, vampire glove, clothespins, wax, food, blindfold....god knows what else, then preferably horsehair flogger for allover body work, then over my lap for prolonged spanking and paddling, then some good pretty ropework.

All the above accompanied by orgasmic delights of the forced kind.

The details aren't really as important as the intent. I like to toy with her body while entrancing her mind, making sure she's got no choice but to float on air when we're done. If I were to sum my preferred style up in a few words - dexterous magic fingers.


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RE: Your Sexuality.... - 2/7/2010 1:15:47 PM   
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Fitznicely,

Oooh...your sexual style definitely sounds sadistic and hot.  Very nice. :)

What I'd be particularly interested in hearing more about is...how does this tie into *your* sexuality? I'm probably not phrasing the question in the best way...so bear with me.  I can see where what you described would entice incredible sexual and erotic feelings in both you and your partner.  But what I am looking at perhaps...is maybe a more abstract or even philosophical way of how we define and live out our sexuality.  Its obviously an individual experience....and this thought process has been lingering in my mind for the last few days.

For example, for me to be able to *feed* my sexuality, I would need:

  • to give and receive mental stimulation; to feel challenged and to challenge my partner (getting into each other's heads)
  • validation toward pursuits of creative sexual expression
  • diverse, non-traditional sexual outlets
When those things are in place, I feel like I'm in the best position to embrace and express my sexuality or sexual nature.





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RE: Your Sexuality.... - 2/7/2010 2:02:13 PM   
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my sexuality is a constant influence in my daily life.
Even when i wash dishes, which is a non sexual service to my Master, i know i please him by doing this act.
That means everything i do is in the name of pleasure. " It's like a circle... "

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RE: Your Sexuality.... - 2/7/2010 2:32:32 PM   
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I think my sexuality is....lighthearted and assertive.

I have to be in control of the situation, or it's a total turnoff. I like to play, play and play....the most fulfilling part of the sexual experience is watching her convulse, whether it's in pain, shock or climax. More often than not, at that point, I find it very amusing. I think the amusement comes from a little surprise that I've done that to her, exultation, to a point, that I've achieved my aim of exerting my dominance over her - and real amusement that I can make her do that

I find myself detatching in a way, watching these things happen to her from outside myself, watching, studying, advising where the next blow should fall, the route the pinwheel should take, where to place the next drip...

And here's an interesting issue, for me, anyway....For me, intercourse doesn't need to be involved. I can get the same spiritual, emotional satisfaction from a good BDSM scene as from intercourse.

I'm a simple soul and don't worry too much at deep, philosophical reasons why I enjoy things (I spent my teen years doing that. In my mid 20's I had a revelation and stopped worrying about the "why" and just enjoy the moment now), so I'll leave it to others to expound why it should be.


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RE: Your Sexuality.... - 2/7/2010 2:56:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: pagankinktress
How do you best express your sexuality?

With my cock.... it's very expressive.


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RE: Your Sexuality.... - 2/7/2010 3:05:45 PM   
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I'm sure it is, ResidentSadist.

But can it do the Hokey Pokey? Now *that* would be expressive (and very creative too).


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RE: Your Sexuality.... - 2/7/2010 3:49:47 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: pagankinktress

Fitznicely,

Oooh...your sexual style definitely sounds sadistic and hot.  Very nice. :)

What I'd be particularly interested in hearing more about is...how does this tie into *your* sexuality? I'm probably not phrasing the question in the best way...so bear with me.  I can see where what you described would entice incredible sexual and erotic feelings in both you and your partner.  But what I am looking at perhaps...is maybe a more abstract or even philosophical way of how we define and live out our sexuality.  Its obviously an individual experience....and this thought process has been lingering in my mind for the last few days.

For example, for me to be able to *feed* my sexuality, I would need:

  • to give and receive mental stimulation; to feel challenged and to challenge my partner (getting into each other's heads)
  • validation toward pursuits of creative sexual expression
  • diverse, non-traditional sexual outlets
When those things are in place, I feel like I'm in the best position to embrace and express my sexuality or sexual nature.





No offense, but isn't that what everyone needs for the ideal relationship? You seem to have described the ideal version of a relationship, vanilla or not, and it does not seem to correlate to how one expresses their sexuality.

Something like what Fitz wrote (which is awesomely hot, yikes) would be more of a reply to how one expresses their sexuality.

As an overriding concept of sexuality from an intellectual standpoint, I would say that my sexuality is expressed in an appreciation for all things sensual, sexual, kinky, perverse, deviant and orgasmic.

The expressway to each of those places can take various turns.

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RE: Your Sexuality.... - 2/7/2010 4:41:39 PM   
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ORIGINAL: pagankinktress

How do you best express your sexuality?  What might some situations be where you could ideally or optimally express yourself?  What inspires your sexuality?


I express my sexuality by showing a deep interest in who he is, in everything he does, in being obedient, serving him, being pleasing to him, in the way I act, the way I dress, in everything I do making sure it's him I'm thinking about.

He inspires my sexuality.





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RE: Your Sexuality.... - 2/7/2010 4:43:47 PM   
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Overall I'm a very sexual person. I think it comes across in many things I do. I could be very verbal to express it or not. Some times actions speak louder than words.

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RE: Your Sexuality.... - 2/7/2010 4:46:46 PM   
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OP the things you require for your sexuality are what I would term essential for a good relationship. And for me to feel sexual, the relationship has to be good.

One thing I've noticed the last couple of years is that I need him to be relaxed. If he's wired over stuff, then although he might want sex to relax, I won't feel sexual but anxious instead. I'm fine pleasuring him but that won't be an expression of my sexuality, just of my love. Same as baking him an apple pie isn't an expression of my sexuality but is of my love.

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RE: Your Sexuality.... - 2/8/2010 8:48:18 AM   
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From being very expressive sensually to being rough and animalistic. 

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RE: Your Sexuality.... - 2/8/2010 11:09:29 AM   
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what I would like and what I can have are 2 different things.

more touching would be nice...

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RE: Your Sexuality.... - 2/8/2010 2:44:46 PM   
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His total comfort and acceptance of me as a sexual being has taken me places I've only dreamt about in the past.

When He has me past the point of thinking; into a totally animalistic, tactile, sensing, feeling, begging, cumming, no ego- only id- kind of place is when He says He has got me down to the real me- raw, pure sexuality.

So, it's through Him that I truly express my sexuality.


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RE: Your Sexuality.... - 2/8/2010 3:32:49 PM   
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I love the variety of responses here.  Thanks to all who have shared thus far. 

It's interesting...a few of you mentioned how the things I mentioned as needing to express my sexuality seem like the standard for most relationships in general.  I can see how that might look that way, based on my own response to my question.  It would appear that I emphasize relational qualities and link those to the way I express (or would like to express) sexuality.  I'm not sure I totally agree that is the whole picture, but it definitely gives me some food for thought.

Good stuff here...and quite thought provoking.  :)


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RE: Your Sexuality.... - 2/9/2010 8:01:35 AM   
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quote:

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And here's an interesting issue, for me, anyway....For me, intercourse doesn't need to be involved. I can get the same spiritual, emotional satisfaction from a good BDSM scene as from intercourse.




I feel the same way. As I've put it..."I don't always cum, but I always get off."

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RE: Your Sexuality.... - 2/9/2010 9:23:53 AM   
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Flirting...

come 'ere big boy! and bring that hottie tottie chica wicha!

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