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Elisabella -> RE: What do submissives/slaves look for (2/8/2010 6:46:49 PM)
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ORIGINAL: SternFather
For those willing to play......
You are walking down the street when you meet two identically dressed twins. Although they are identical twins, you are only attracted to one of them. One of them is barely noticable, the other makes you week in the knees.
Describe the one that turns you on.
This is completely open to your indivual interpretation. But try to be as descriptive as possible. If one has a certain look, describe it.
Hmm, this is interesting. Obviously what you're trying to get across is "what, other than looks and grooming, attracts you to a man," so I want to preface this by saying it's incomplete - for me, the looks and grooming and dress are absolute requirements as well, and a man who fits all of the following still might not do anything for me if those weren't there.
But I digress.
The man who attracted me would have many smiles - one devious, slightly off center smile, one smile that makes him look like an 8 year old boy on Christmas morning, one smile that shows his adoration when looking at me, one smirk for when we share a silent conversation about someone in the room...I like an expressive face, and so much of that is found in the smile.
He would walk with grace and confidence, neither puffing himself up nor shrinking back, wearing his skin like it was bought on Savile Row. He would be able to look at me in a way that let me know I was being measured by his standards, but be able to break the look right after it registered rather than letting it linger uncomfortably, and he would look at me as a woman, rather than undressing me with his eyes as if I were a mannequin. If I beat him at pool, he'd laugh and say the next game we're playing on the same team rather than getting insecure or pouty, and he's able to have a fun competition with me without investing too much into it.
He speaks calmly and intelligently, the authority in his voice comes solely from knowing what he's talking about, not because he's a dominant or a man or older or anything else. He holds some beliefs that he is very passionate about, and he's willing to defend those beliefs against my own if it comes down to it. He is a gentleman - the type who will open a door or offer his coat if we stay out later than we expected and it gets cold, and he's able to make me feel beautiful without saying the words "you look beautiful" and he knows the difference between beautiful and slutty, and while he likely has experience with the slutty types, he never mistakes one for the other.
I like the type of man who walks through life with ease, who makes wonderful things seem natural, rather than the type of man who always seems to be having a struggle with life. Obviously if something unexpected happens I'd want him to be open enough to discuss it with me, but I couldn't be with an overly critical, overly sensitive man for whom everything always seems to go wrong, or who always focuses on the negative. I want to be with a man who finds enjoyment in his life, appreciates my company, and is able to integrate those two things.
Now just don't get me started on appearance or I'll get blasted with "you have too high standards." But, well, I'm married to a wonderful man, and he pretty much fits the bill of what I wrote above. So nyah.
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