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camille65 -> RE: Choosing Online over Real Life? (2/15/2010 8:14:48 PM)
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ORIGINAL: trealeon
Can someone help me understand what I'm missing? I've never really understood the attraction of online interaction as the primary way of being in a relationship. I see talking online as a way to get to know a person but not as a way to date them. Why would someone choose that over a real life person to the extent of cutting off their real life interactions in favor of online?
Just so you know I fully recognize I'm a little bitter about this. I'll get over it soon I'm sure (it's by far not the worst thing that's ever happened). So no need to point this out :).
We had an online relationship for about 3 years before we met and I was pretty darn content with that most of the time. My life was in turmoil and I was still married. I totally rationalized carrying on an online emotional affair because he gave me what I needed. At that point that was what mattered to me, that I get what I needed and RL wasn't one of those needs.
It wasn't fear of the unknown or not wanting to be with him RL, I just wasn't in a place emotionally where RL would have been the healthy option for me. Thankfully he understood and has a wealth of patience where I'm concerned because he waited me out like he promised he would do.
In ten days it will be our 10 year anniversary (yes I do count the online years). Even before we moved it into RL it was very real to us, the emotions were real and honest.
I know it isn't for everyone, heck I don't even think it is for most. But it worked for me for a long time.
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