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training. - 2/12/2010 4:33:41 PM

willtoy

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My question deals with training of a slave.

once a slave has started training by a Mistress then who leaves the area, is that slave obligated to tell any Mistress what training and with whom he was with. Does he start fresh again.?

This happened to me and am afraid to look again for fear of the same thing happening again to me.

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RE: training. - 2/12/2010 4:40:33 PM

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I can only speak for myself, but I would want to know what training was received. However, I could care less from whom it was received. I don't know that it's an obligation, just something I ask for.

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RE: training. - 2/12/2010 4:59:01 PM

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Up to you, and your prospective dom. Why does it bother you that you might hafta talk about training you've already recieved??? If there's stuff you did that you don't wanna do again, just make those hard limits.

I don't think most dommes really care what the last one's name is, unless she's the next door neighbor or something. But its nice to know a little about what you've been up to, just as a frame of reference. The most important thing to me would be to be sure that she didn't leave you with a gift that keeps on giving (STD's).

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RE: training. - 2/12/2010 6:35:26 PM

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Of course I'd want to know. Whatever training you might have received could end up being valuable to Me. Perhaps you were trained in high protocol and know how to serve at such functions. Were you trained in leather care? Excellent. That would save Me a lot of time. Massage, manicures, pedicures, wine service, or a hundred other things that you might have been trained to do in your last dynamic.

Yes, I would absolutely want to know the who as well as the what. References are always good. Most amicable partings allow the participants to have no issues to verify that the last dynamic existed. Not to mention, I'd want to know what kind of protocol household the last person ran, so I would know whether My expectations of anyone joining Me would be unreasonable.

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RE: training. - 2/12/2010 6:37:03 PM

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I don't really understand why talking about it would be a problem. Then again, I'm not comfortable being with people who are uncomfortable talking exes or previous partners.

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RE: training. - 2/12/2010 6:59:49 PM

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It's definitely not the first thing I would want to know. The first thing I would want to know is why a boy wants to serve me.

Eventually, I'd like to know about his past. It might come out all in one shot, it might come out bit by bit, but it does need to be addressed. I would also make a point of discussing my past experiences as well. But when all is said and done, that is his past and I want him focussing on me, the present and perhaps his future.

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RE: training. - 2/13/2010 11:23:21 AM

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If asked, you should tell. My slaves thoughts are mine, he shouldn't keep any secrets. More to the point, it might be handy in training because it helps understanding your reactions.

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RE: training. - 2/14/2010 8:52:37 AM

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I want to know about your experience. If you can't tell me that, then I have to wonder if you have any at all.

I may or may not want details but I want to know how many partners you've had and what activities you have participated in and your ideas about what being a slave means and entails.

I want the option of talking to folks who know you because that is the level of information I will provide to you about me. Why would I expect less back?

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