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frostbear -> RE: How does a girl handle this situation? (2/17/2010 6:03:19 PM)
Dear Estilore Being a submissive does not mean being a doormat. There are too many Doms out here that are looking for a special someone. I realize you have put in time, energy and your heart to him, but you can only be true to yourself. If you feel you need more, explain it to him, give him an out so he can take the high road if he has honestly moved on. But let him do it gracefully. It will give you a sense of your own accomplishment to fulfill his last request with strength and honesty'. You sound like a dedicated sub, you should be proud of your patience, but there does come a time. Good luck and keep us posted. If you ever feel want to chat, message me.

LeatherBentOne -> RE: How does a girl handle this situation? (2/26/2010 7:18:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming How long has this been going on? [8\|] As a Dominant, I find the most meaningful thing a sub can do for me isto give me space when I need it. It shows me she is unselfish, putting my needs first, patient, secure and able to control her impulses to whine and complain. This is always rewarded and greatly appreciated.

CelticPrince -> RE: How does a girl handle this situation? (3/11/2010 6:56:32 PM)
quote: What do you do when you feel like you are not wanted anymore by Your Master...and every conversation You try having with Him he is always too busy to handle... when before he would? though i ask him this he says it is not true and that he is just buys with RT life ( Which i understand completely) But to me His actions speak louder then his words. am i right to think this way or am i totally off base? girl, You suffer from a common problem that shows up on the board alot. You offer a problem but with no background for folks to consider. More facts.. r/t or on line? how long together, how lonf since collared etc etc. CP

DWCskitten -> RE: How does a girl handle this situation? (3/11/2010 8:28:28 PM)
OP, Three hours in three months!? And He has lots of female friends on His profile but not you? Everyone needs space sometimes, but WOW. i'm no expert and i really do not want to make you feel bad, but i'd say He's moved on and you should too. Believe me, there are lots Doms out there. i live in WA and Master Sir lives in FL, and we talk every night on the phone, are going to see each other next month and later on i will be moving to FL. It sounds like your Master has no intention of moving forward with you. If i were you, i'd move forward withOUT Him and find a mutually fulfilling relationship. kitten

badlilthang -> RE: How does a girl handle this situation? (3/12/2010 4:59:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LeatherBentOne quote: ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming How long has this been going on? [8\|] As a Dominant, I find the most meaningful thing a sub can do for me isto give me space when I need it. It shows me she is unselfish, putting my needs first, patient, secure and able to control her impulses to whine and complain. This is always rewarded and greatly appreciated. 3 hours in 3 months is NOT giving the Dom space - it is a sad excuse of a man playing games with someone that actually believes in Him....what You mean - i sincerely hope is something entirely different than that..If a Dom had not had more than 3 hours for me in just as many months? Naw.....exit stage right for me...and just because i am curious - if/when with a sub - do You ever offer him/he the same curtesy of some space - or is it all about You? :-)

Nslavu -> RE: How does a girl handle this situation? (3/12/2010 10:24:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: estilore What do you do when you feel like you are not wanted anymore by Your Master...and every conversation You try having with Him he is always too busy to handle... when before he would? though i ask him this he says it is not true and that he is just buys with RT life ( Which i understand completely) But to me His actions speak louder then his words. am i right to think this way or am i totally off base? If you're not communicating with your Master, why would you expect anyone here to form a meaningful opinion, based on your own inadequate information? I am a always a bit amused by threads like this. It's rather like having fucked up plumbing and the calling a fireman who is clueless and whining about it. Fire!, no it's plumbing... waaaa there's no fire? ... nope its about plumbing. Talk to the plumber (Your M) or stfu.... or maybe call Master Roto Rooter. [:D]

LoveHeals60 -> RE: How does a girl handle this situation? (3/12/2010 10:38:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: estilore What do you do when you feel like you are not wanted anymore by Your Master...and every conversation You try having with Him he is always too busy to handle... when before he would? though i ask him this he says it is not true and that he is just buys with RT life ( Which i understand completely) But to me His actions speak louder then his words. am i right to think this way or am i totally off base? This isn't about bdsm, this is about common sense. You need to remember the 3 fundamental laws of the universe. 1. When words don't match actions, believe the actions. 2. There are no exceptions to rule 1. 3. Ninety percent of everything is below average. There, now wasn't that simple?

mstrj69 -> RE: How does a girl handle this situation? (3/12/2010 5:26:00 PM)
If you are not ready to dump him by now, at least go to some munches where you can actually talk to real people and make friends. You might want to try this link to find them http://www.domsubfriends.com/a-wwwdir/org.shtml Also, nothing says you can not make friends with other dominants and add them to your friends list so the next time he checks your profile and sees you have made other friends, he will either get upset and ask why or say good bye and leave you open to find someone better. Either way, you might have gotten a 4th hour from him. However even 4 hours is not enough. 4 hours a week is even questionable if he really wants you.

domiguy -> RE: How does a girl handle this situation? (3/12/2010 5:31:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: estilore For about 3 months now...i may have talked with him a total of 3 hours in that time Learn to love him. Nurture him. He values you. He is willing to set aside two minutes a day to make sure that you are doing great!!! It could be worse.

hopelessfool -> RE: How does a girl handle this situation? (3/12/2010 5:44:08 PM)
If your not poly, then you answer is on his profile, with the slave with his name that lives 6 miles from him.

brainiacsub -> RE: How does a girl handle this situation? (3/12/2010 7:45:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LoveHeals60 quote: ORIGINAL: estilore What do you do when you feel like you are not wanted anymore by Your Master...and every conversation You try having with Him he is always too busy to handle... when before he would? though i ask him this he says it is not true and that he is just buys with RT life ( Which i understand completely) But to me His actions speak louder then his words. am i right to think this way or am i totally off base? This isn't about bdsm, this is about common sense. You need to remember the 3 fundamental laws of the universe. 1. When words don't match actions, believe the actions. 2. There are no exceptions to rule 1. 3. Ninety percent of everything is below average. There, now wasn't that simple? And as a corollary to No. 1 - courtesy Oprah - "When people show you who they are, you better believe them."

DomBlade64 -> RE: How does a girl handle this situation? (3/15/2010 6:33:23 PM)
Perhaps he is working on something for the both of you? quote: ORIGINAL: estilore What do you do when you feel like you are not wanted anymore by Your Master...and every conversation You try having with Him he is always too busy to handle... when before he would? though i ask him this he says it is not true and that he is just buys with RT life ( Which i understand completely) But to me His actions speak louder then his words. am i right to think this way or am i totally off base?

dragon200070 -> RE: How does a girl handle this situation? (4/27/2010 2:56:50 PM)
Yes, you're correct in questioning your relationship. I've been a Dom over 20 years', and never have I needed a break from BDSM. My stress relief centers around BDSM practice. Neither of us needed a break untill she got lung cancer. Still we talk regularly. There is still a closeness there. Right now she's upstairs napping. She knows I play online but doesn't care. Jeff

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