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BLoved -> RE: A legend returns ... (2/17/2010 7:33:10 AM)
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Are you a Christian? I am not but I still would not, "judge lest ye be judged".
I wrote the following in response to a question like this:
Are you a good judge of character?
Every now and then I see someone saying we shouldn't judge others.
Which of us doesn't judge a liar who deceives us?
Which of us doesn't judge an abuser who abuses us?
Casual players like to believe casual bdsm is completely harmless, unaware of the emotional damage it does over time.
Not until they realize they no longer have the capacity to truly love another, to trust someone so thoroughly as to commit their life to that person do they become aware of the damage they've done to themselves.
In the pursuit of cheap thrills they lose the ability to love.
Healthy BDSM is not a cheap thrill. It is an expression of love and trust in someone who has demonstrated qualities worthy of love and trust. Every thought, every deed is meaningful and only deepens the love and trust shared.
Casual bdsm only attracts those who are afraid of this kind of intimacy. Those who are too emotionally-immature for a healthy, loving relationship. In the no-strings-attached world of casual bdsm they can pretend to be intimate without ever experiencing intimacy.
And thus they reinforce their emotional immaturity.
We each must judge for ourselves what is and is not "abusive". We each must take our stand opposing that which we judge to be abusive.
How else will we know which of us have thought this out, and which of us are here for a cheap thrill?
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