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Did You Ever Need - 2/19/2010 1:13:57 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		a spanking? Not just wanting one but needed one? The reason that i am asking this question is because what i did today. My Mom just passed away on wed and my emotions have been all over the place.

So today i felt i just need a spanking to settle me down. I asked Master and he was more the happy to provide that for me, It seemed to center me to calm me down.

So have you ever been going through a tough time and asked for a spanking to feel centered/calmed down a bit?

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RE: Did You Ever Need - 2/19/2010 1:46:42 PM   
MasterSlaveLA


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Status: offline 		I think several would answer "YES" to that question.



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RE: Did You Ever Need - 2/19/2010 2:00:01 PM   
HisSweetElysium


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Status: offline 		Definitely yes, I've dealt with this tendency in myself in a lot of ways in the past, a lot of them not healthy.  BDSM is a far safer and saner approach, and like you, my Master is always willing to accommodate such a request. 

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RE: Did You Ever Need - 2/19/2010 5:49:01 PM   
chicagoswitch


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Status: offline 		Yes, spanking provides a huge emotional and stress release for me.  There have been many times I have needed one.

I am sorry to hear of your loss, you will be in my thoughts.

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RE: Did You Ever Need - 2/19/2010 6:01:12 PM   
thishereboi


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Status: offline 		Yes and for the very same reason. I'm glad you have someone with you. It can really help.

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RE: Did You Ever Need - 2/19/2010 6:01:29 PM   
whiteslavebitch


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Status: offline 		Yes, I was much in the same boat last year when my mother passed away. After I returned from the funeral I really needed some impact play, MasterK must have
sensed it because he gave me just what I needed. It was very cathartic.

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RE: Did You Ever Need - 2/19/2010 6:04:57 PM   
UniqueRaven


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Status: offline 		Yes, i've just had to learn over the years that the physical release of pain doesn't necessarily fix anything, or make anything go away.

Ultimately i have to have the emotional maturity to deal with what happens to me regardless of whether i get spankings from my Owner, or not.

But yes, the endorphin rush from a spanking, or if he chooses to make me cry, is a nice physical release.


edited to add: My condolences on your loss as well. i can't imagine how that must feel - be gentle with yourself.

< Message edited by UniqueRaven -- 2/19/2010 6:05:55 PM >

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RE: Did You Ever Need - 2/19/2010 6:06:27 PM   
elleX


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Status: offline 		...many time that i went through a rough time , i have been spanked ,, the release of endorphine had a very positive effect on my stress level
i could just feel in   my blood,,,very good way to feel better after

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RE: Did You Ever Need - 2/19/2010 6:07:13 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Yes, but by the time I asked for it he felt it was past the appropriate point and sent me to bed instead.

My sympathies for your loss. Be gentle with yourself.

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RE: Did You Ever Need - 2/19/2010 6:14:26 PM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

My Mom just passed away on wed


My condolences


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RE: Did You Ever Need - 2/19/2010 6:22:46 PM   
RealSub58


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Status: offline 		yes there are times when i feel as if all i had was a good spanking, i could focus, make my way through a situation. . .  . etc.

I have never asked for a spanking for this, altho I do want to.
I am not sure why I have not.

Thoughts to ponder


Edited to add:  How thoughtless of me.  I am so sorry for your loss.

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RE: Did You Ever Need - 2/19/2010 7:04:31 PM   
kallisto


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Status: offline 		I'm so sorry for your loss.   

I know and understand exactly what you are saying, having felt it myself.     It seems to bring on a lot of emotional relief .. maybe that I'm not willing to let myself  feel.  

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RE: Did You Ever Need - 2/19/2010 7:08:48 PM   
Delphinus


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Status: offline 		I am so sorry for your loss.

And yes, I have felt myself needing that impact to ground me.

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RE: Did You Ever Need - 2/20/2010 9:50:02 AM   
lucylucy


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Status: offline 		My condolences. Be patient with yourself as you grieve.

To answer your question, for me it's not so much spankings that I need but being tied up. Every once in a while I will tell my owner that I need to be tied up and he is happy to indulge me. It doesn't matter what he does to me once I'm tied up--it's the being completely at his mercy that I need and crave. It instantly puts me in a better frame of mind and any stress I have evaporates.

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RE: Did You Ever Need - 2/20/2010 12:13:39 PM   
PetofMB


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Status: offline 		First of all...I'm so sorry for your loss.

It's a very interesting topic to me as I have just recently been involved with the BDSM scene. I have a tendency to over react about certain things in life and get myself all wound up to the point where if I were next to someone they would just slap you across the face and tell me to calm down. Now I'm not into that kind of thing, but with you mentioning the "asking for a spanking" it has made me really rethink things and how I think it would be beneifical to be spanked to "calm me down". It's probably more of a sense of focus and centering yourself to where and who you are. I'm glad I read this post and I would like to discuss this topic further with my Master. I know that I have been this way with him before and because we live apart it's not always possible for him to do this for me.....maybe some other method is appropriate until then.

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RE: Did You Ever Need - 2/21/2010 12:45:31 PM   
afkarr


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Status: offline 		Sometimes I just need to be used, the actual elements are irrelevant.

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RE: Did You Ever Need - 2/21/2010 2:33:10 PM   
sublizzie


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Status: offline 		You have my deepest sympathy on your loss.

I've hit the spot where the adrenaline from the shock of Santa's death has worn off and most people have moved on from his passing. I had stuffed my feelings over the past 5-6 weeks to the point where they all came spilling out this week. Since I had already signed up to go to a play party this weekend, I asked one of the Dommes if she would let any Dom/mes who were there know that I was available for play. I needed the endorphin rush, the opportunity to submit (even if it was just for "play"), and some Dominant attention. I got what I needed and it has helped me settle down again. I cried. I was comforted. I was able to talk about him. It helped.

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RE: Did You Ever Need - 2/21/2010 2:37:55 PM   
littlegirlangel


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Status: offline 		Yes, I don't always tell Daddy why before hand, just that I need to, "go deep" and he understands and we will both find time to do that. Actually I'm hoping if his arm doesn't hurt too bad today we'll be able to this afternoon. 

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RE: Did You Ever Need - 2/21/2010 8:25:01 PM   
trueshadow


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Status: offline 		Also, sorry for your loss.  My mom passed away a few years ago and I still miss her.  As well as my father, who preceded her.  You never get over it.

As far as the spanking, yes, me too.  Centering is a good term for dealing with it.  If I disappoint my Superior, I really want to be punished so I can 'pay' for it.



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RE: Did You Ever Need - 2/21/2010 8:56:21 PM   
Katsmeow70


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Status: offline 		I think you will find that most proclaimed masochist would answer "YES"!. I have had this discussion in other forums where people have found they suffer less chronic as well as acute depression if engaging in regular sessions. So sorry about your mom, my dad died in December and I know how hard it can be to get thru......

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