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ArtistInTN -> I know strapon seems to be the subject this week, for me the question is (3/29/2006 2:44:03 AM)

I have been thinking for quite a while about using a strapon with one of my subs and now have 2 whom keep asking me to do so. My question is more to do with any suggestions on how to get started. I already have had both using but plugs etc to get them used to that part along with making sure that this is not something that should stay just fantasy (I would never want to harm either boy in any way and for some fantasies should stay just that) The devices I have so far looked at would range from slender to average.
Any suggestions would be appreciated.




TexasMaam -> RE: I know strapon seems to be the subject this week, for me the question is (3/29/2006 2:49:19 AM)

If you've already had both using butt plugs I'd say you've already gotten started.

When using a strappie on a 'virgin sub boy' I like to seduce a bound male sub, culminating in the strappie just as a male would culminate his seduction scene in intercourse.

I never use a large strappie because at our age the lining of the colon is apt to tear and can cause bruising and infection.  If the strappies are slender to average, or if the sub is younger than 35 years, I'd suggest making the leap.

<hands ArtistInTN some lube and waves them onward....

TexasMaam




Jasmyn -> RE: I know strapon seems to be the subject this week, for me the question is (3/29/2006 3:44:47 AM)

Hi Artist, get to know the male anatomy and peruse a few gay male dom sites for hints and tips for male anal play and agree with Texas to seduce them... whether that be in a traditional sense or in a more domination sense...getting them to the point of asking, begging, pleading, wanting you to take them.
 
Secondly I'd look at what is it about the strap-on that is particularly appealing to them?  Is it driven from a need to please you, something they wouldnt inherently seek out for themselves, and if they are doing it to please you, how does the idea of been at your mercy and penetrated make them feel...find that energy that core that makes them tick and somehow incorporate it.  Playing tricks and mind games can help too, like the scene describe below where a large, like ridicuously large dildo was bandied about ... turn it into a game, send them off to purchase their own dildo to your specifications, while you yourself have actually already purchased a couple of nice slender beginner ones.
 
Will share a particular scene I did to give you an idea how I work mind games into scenes (sorry the scene was the sadistic bitch thing, so reflects that)  ... had done some power play mind games with him before grabbing him by the hair and thrusting his face into the carpet telling him spread em.
 
I'd let him see a HUGE strap-on dildo before I blindfolded him earlier in the scene and now pushed its girth between his legs and slowly slid it up and down his butt crack using it to liberally apply a coat of lube. He visibly baulked, stammering in his gag how it was too big! please Mistress no...ordering him to shut up I slapped him hard on the rump and demanded he reach back and spread his cheeks.
 
Tentatively he did so, whimpering when I told him to spread em wider... once again pushing the head of the HUGE dildo against this anus ... but slipped a smaller virgin butt strap-on dildo in behind it, forcing just the tip inside him. Still convinced he was going to be split in half he tensed up and I slapped his buttock telling him to relax his arse and take it like a good little whore boy... almost immediately thrusting the full length of the shaft into him.
 
He cried out in expectation of extreme pain but as I slowly drew back it dawned on him this wasnt the same dildo I'd teased him with earlier and little by little he relaxed into it.
 
By the end of the scene I wasn't having to do a thing... ride my cock I'd tell him and he'd fuck away on the pole his hips thrusting away like a mad man ... begging me to fuck him harder and harder...telling me his arse was mine to take.
 
The latter part, if the experience of getting penetrated by your strap on is humiliating to them as well as a leap of faith in their submission to you, don't be afraid to point out their predicament and/or making them do all the work so to speak... some will enjoy the 'being taken' aspect and want to be in bondage, almost imobilised being forced to feel your strap on in them, while others will enjoy the humiliation of having to actively engage in the act of 'fucking' the dildo ...
 
In a more lovemaking type traditional moment, take them from behind while they are on their knees, you can reach around and play with their cocks or on their backs with you on top so to speak and look deep in their eyes in the traditional male sense of thrusting into someone. 
 
Good luck, hope you and your boys have an enjoyable time.  I love the butt plug training idea ...so much yummy anticipation ;)




westside -> RE: I know strapon seems to be the subject this week, for me the question is (3/29/2006 10:45:03 AM)

A great tease....




blkdragn01 -> RE: I know strapon seems to be the subject this week, for me the question is (3/29/2006 2:46:09 PM)

I agree, strap-on should be approached gently, when dealing with a nivice or sub with little to no anal training. Work with the sub/slave between the ears, before you work between the legs. They will thank you for it. The plug idea works well, when I am training a sub/slave to take a larger or graduated insertable.

Lady/Mistress Sherrie




lushusboobs -> RE: I know strapon seems to be the subject this week, for me the question is (3/29/2006 9:18:13 PM)

I like stretching with gloved fingers.  It's more personal because I can feel him squeezing me and know exactly how tight or relaxed he is before I enter him or her. 
Lushus




Nahemah -> RE: I know strapon seems to be the subject this week, for me the question is (3/30/2006 6:07:51 AM)

I agree with all of the other Ladies and gents here. I think You are going about it the right way with butt plug training, first. Jasmyn gave You a perfect example of how to get the most bang for Your buck, so to speak.
 
The only thing that concerns Me about Your post? Are these boys asking You to do something to them as a means of "topping from the bottom" or are they simply responding to a desire that You have expressed personally? It seems that if they keep asking You to do it to them over and over that they are trying to force You into doing something that maybe You aren't ready for. Tell them to stop asking and that You will ravage their asses with Your strap-on when You are damn well good and ready. *smiles* Of course, I realize I do not know the entire situation so if any of that is off-base, please disgregard!
 
Happy strapping!




DianeB -> RE: I know strapon seems to be the subject this week, for me the question is (3/30/2006 3:11:24 PM)

Mistress/Dommes

If any of you ladies have any first time strapon questions, please send me a message here on collarme.

Diane




DianeB -> RE: I know strapon seems to be the subject this week, for me the question is (3/30/2006 4:08:44 PM)

If you're a strapon training Pro Domme and have a website, please send me your links.




texguy98 -> RE: I know strapon seems to be the subject this week, for me the question is (3/30/2006 4:49:40 PM)

For a first-timer, I think it takes a bit of work on the sub as well. First off, the sub should know his/her own body. This involves self experimentation. Second, the sub should read up on how to receive a strap-on. Things like, "Push, don't squeeze". When you push, you open up more. Finally, communication is key. When you're being taken in such a way, it's very easy to go from good pain, to very bad pain.

David




mnottertail -> RE: I know strapon seems to be the subject this week, for me the question is (3/30/2006 5:00:48 PM)

Buy a monster for waving in his face and a realistic for doing...........get lots of vaseline and start with his mouth......saying on the order of since you got all that shit running out of it all the time anyway........yadda yadda yadda......... beat his ass..........make him squeeze until he shakes and check often......the thing is to tighten up the muscles until they fatigue and then it will go kinda easy, but the gentle doing is the thing when you start, angles are important as well, maybe start like you are going for a retrograde emission.

Ron  




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