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nobleslave -> Have you ever thought (2/24/2010 2:10:58 PM)

Hello

Has any one every thought to them selfs what the point? I mean the struggle to find a Mistress is so hard. And its a lonely life and you will never ever find any one and your wasting your time and energy on it. I have been feeling like this for the last few weeks and i am serious thinking of just giving up completely.



mnottertail -> RE: Have you ever thought (2/24/2010 2:12:39 PM)

one must strive, it is our nature, nit is life itself.... the alternative is not a glorious one.



juliaoceania -> RE: Have you ever thought (2/24/2010 2:14:43 PM)

I wish I had some words of encouragement for you. I know what discouragement feels like[:(]....

Those feelings will pass, one way or another.... 



Rochsub2009 -> RE: Have you ever thought (2/24/2010 2:17:27 PM)

i completely understand the feeling.  However, it is simply a part of the journey called "life".

Finding a vanilla soulmate is also hard.  Finding a competent nanny is hard.  Finding something good to watch on TV most nights (despite having 500 channels) is hard.  But you can't just roll up into a fetal position and give up.  Your dream Domme is out there.  Be patient.



lovingpet -> RE: Have you ever thought (2/24/2010 2:21:23 PM)

I think most go through these phases along the way.  I was just about done with trying to find someone who lit my dominant fire, but that has all changed now.  It's not easy and giving up will work for a time.  Sometimes we just have to stop and regroup and just stop having expectations for awhile.  The fact of the matter is that, if this is truly a part of who you  are, you will be back.  It will be with a renewed understanding of yourself, a better idea of what you are looking for, and what went wrong in the past.  Solitude and self reflection are good things.  When the time comes, it will be irrepressible and you will be back.  Be kind to yourself in this dark moment and greet the sun when it shines again.

lovingpet



subfever -> RE: Have you ever thought (2/24/2010 2:29:24 PM)

Perhaps the skills of a knowledgable pro Domme may provide temporary relief.



nobleslave -> RE: Have you ever thought (2/24/2010 3:57:03 PM)

Thank you so very truly much for all the responces it feels good to get it off my chest and to get some help thank you so very truly much every one.



AAkasha -> RE: Have you ever thought (2/24/2010 4:32:05 PM)



URGH!  Give me a break!! Ok, the lightbulb went off on my head. You were posting here two years ago, and all the advice gave you at that time was to tone down your fantasy expectations and start treating and viewing women as women first and foremost. You got GREAT advice.  You redid you profile.  You said you would listen.  Everyone said stop thinking about "how you can prepare to be a slave and how you could prepare your body" etc (in terms of fantasy acts, etc.) and we all said:  Treat her like a woman first and foremost, not a fantasy object. You won't get "commands" or "behavior modification" until a relationship is in place.

Then you email me just a couple of days ago asking me the same thing. I didn't realize until just now that you are the same person - in that thread, when you asked how to prepare your body, what rituals do you need to perform to be a true slave, should you bow your head, etc. we all told you "NO! You are living in a fantasy world, just act like a normal human being."

Now, I am starting to think you just get off on the idea that women will give you a list of "slave preparation" rituals. Otherwise, why on earth would you ask the question in a public forum, get told unanimously by dominant women not to worry about the slave rituals (including me), then write to me complimenting me on my posts and in the very same email, ask me the same thing, again, about the slave rituals?

I mean - seriously??

Akasha



RedMagic1 -> RE: Have you ever thought (2/24/2010 4:39:53 PM)

Good catch, Akasha.  I knew he was familiar somehow.  I was on that thread too.

Nobleslave, you might want to reread the advice you got then.  Sounds as though it would still help.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2442153/mpage_1/tm.htm



AAkasha -> RE: Have you ever thought (2/24/2010 4:46:40 PM)

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

Good catch, Akasha.  I knew he was familiar somehow.  I was on that thread too.

Nobleslave, you might want to reread the advice you got then.  Sounds as though it would still help.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2442153/mpage_1/tm.htm



No, I was talking about his thread below, but that one is the same thing again..

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2146024/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#2146024





Kaiel -> RE: Have you ever thought (2/24/2010 5:25:51 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha



URGH!  Give me a break!! Ok, the lightbulb went off on my head. You were posting here two years ago, and all the advice gave you at that time was to tone down your fantasy expectations and start treating and viewing women as women first and foremost. You got GREAT advice.  You redid you profile.  You said you would listen.  Everyone said stop thinking about "how you can prepare to be a slave and how you could prepare your body" etc (in terms of fantasy acts, etc.) and we all said:  Treat her like a woman first and foremost, not a fantasy object. You won't get "commands" or "behavior modification" until a relationship is in place.

Then you email me just a couple of days ago asking me the same thing. I didn't realize until just now that you are the same person - in that thread, when you asked how to prepare your body, what rituals do you need to perform to be a true slave, should you bow your head, etc. we all told you "NO! You are living in a fantasy world, just act like a normal human being."

Now, I am starting to think you just get off on the idea that women will give you a list of "slave preparation" rituals. Otherwise, why on earth would you ask the question in a public forum, get told unanimously by dominant women not to worry about the slave rituals (including me), then write to me complimenting me on my posts and in the very same email, ask me the same thing, again, about the slave rituals?

I mean - seriously??

Akasha



opps! Busted!



dreamerdreaming -> RE: Have you ever thought (2/24/2010 5:29:52 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

Good catch, Akasha.  I knew he was familiar somehow.  I was on that thread too.

Nobleslave, you might want to reread the advice you got then.  Sounds as though it would still help.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2442153/mpage_1/tm.htm



Wow yeah- I chimed in on that thread, and Sylverdawn left you this great link in it, to help you explore the scene over there:
http://www.nimhneach.ie/

Check it out, nobleslave. There are upcoming events.

Everyone gets discouraged once in a while. But really, how long have you been searching for a partner, and how actively? My slaveboy searched for decades.

Chin up! A positive attitude, and confidence are very attractive traits. Get those, and you'll be fine.

I love your screen name! But you'll be infinitely more attractive if you can show that you really believe it, about yourself. If you don't feel good about yourself, why would you expect anyone else to? So if you're getting depressed, deal with that first, before you go out looking for a partner. Do something to help others, and do whatever else you need to, to pump up your self esteem so that you feel noble, valuable and desirable.

Everything will be alright, if you put in the proper effort to bring about a positive result, and have patience.
 
Get busy enjoying your life. Enjoy this chance to be you! Enjoy being single! That's when someone will come along, to mess it all up.



slavekal -> RE: Have you ever thought (2/24/2010 5:53:29 PM)

Never. I have met several great Mistresses in my life. It isn't effortless, but it can be done. A lot of sub guys don't really commit themselves to finding a Mistress. They don't go to all the events they could, they keep trying to go "vanilla", some guys don't even put a pic with their profile.



Madame4a -> RE: Have you ever thought (2/24/2010 8:50:29 PM)

It seems like this is the only thing that matters in your life. I so hope that's not true -- I hope that its just what I'm seeing here.  My guess is, if you had a bit more balance in your life, less "struggle to find" and more just living life.. it might not feel so bad.

quote:

ORIGINAL: nobleslave

Hello

Has any one every thought to them selfs what the point? I mean the struggle to find a Mistress is so hard. And its a lonely life and you will never ever find any one and your wasting your time and energy on it. I have been feeling like this for the last few weeks and i am serious thinking of just giving up completely.



LPslittleclip -> RE: Have you ever thought (2/24/2010 11:04:19 PM)

get out and attend munches meet and greets find local groups and dont be afraid to travel to some as they will have more folks to meet. your Mistress wont come find you you have to go and meet them just do so politly when you do



WyldHrt -> RE: Have you ever thought (2/25/2010 1:21:40 AM)

[hijack] *tacklesmooches clip* Nice to see you! [/hijack] [:D]



lovingpet -> RE: Have you ever thought (2/25/2010 8:53:46 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

[hijack] *tacklesmooches clip* Nice to see you! [/hijack] [:D]


No ending thread hijacks without my okay!  LOL

Welcome back clip!

lovingpet



choccywoc -> RE: Have you ever thought (2/25/2010 9:09:30 AM)

I understand exactly what you're saying nobleslave. I've found this site to be a salvation and at the same time, it's almost put me off ever wanting to see a Mistress again. Strange, but i really rather like it on CM.



LanceHughes -> RE: Have you ever thought (2/25/2010 9:25:09 AM)

nobleslave;

I copy this link from slavekal's sig  for you:

"The Courage to Submit: the submissive male's guide to finding a dominant woman"
http://www.lulu.com/product/paperback/the-courage-to-submit-the-guide-for-the-submissive-male-seeking-a-dominant-woman/5968917

I copy it for two reasons.  1) I'll wager $ to doughnuts that you didn't "see" it. 2) If he ever changes his sig, it will disappear from his responses on this and other strings.



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