CynthiaWVirginia
Posts: 1915
Joined: 2/28/2010 From: West Virginia, USA Status: offline
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These are just a few basic questions. Just to get a clearer picture of who currently identifies as a switch on these boards. There may have been some great threads in the past about this but I think it's time for a fresh start...what with so many new people coming around CM. *Why do you choose to identify as a switch instead of dominant or submissive? Other than it's very convenient and helps to severely limit the amount of mail in my mailbox? Because I can feel dominant or submissive depending on who I'm around, and I prefer the domme side to the submissive side. I'm not bi nor poly, and can't switch with the same person, so for me it's an either/or situation. *Do you identify as switch in conjunction with dominant/submissive/slave Dominant, and I'd like any submissive part of my nature to just go to sleep and not wake up. <grins> *Do you see switching as top/bottom or dominant/submissive in nature? When I'm not in dominant mode, I was in submissive mode. That was years under the bridge though. I have topped, when I didn't have a submissive and the flogger called to me but I have never bottomed. I have no dreams of being the one tied up or spanked or anything, so I'm beginning to think I don't have a masochistic side. *Did you choose switch because you're still undecided? No. I'm not undecided. If I could, I'd deep six that old submissive side so it would stay buried, and then life wouldn't be so potentially complicated. It's hard enough keeping a relationship between two people together, I wouldn't want to have to complicate things by adding a third person to the mix. I can't possibly imagine switching with the same person, but this is just me and I know others manage it just fine. *What has been your impression of switches and their acceptance in the offline bdsm community? My impression of switches? Since I mostly meet submissives... In the past 4 years or so, I've only met one male switch in my area, and he's quite the athletic little hottie, but he's not as much into the dominance/submission as I am so our interests didn't click. The other switch I've met is female, and a friend of mine, and she's a sweet lil thing who's now owned. As for what the community in my area thinks of switches, I'd probably have to ask someone like BOUNTYHUNTER how things were like in the munch group. Whenever I've finally handled some "charcoal cannister" problem with my vehicle, I plan to attend the munch group, SMACK, in Beckley and possibly the munch group in Charleston. I've something else to add on my impression of switches. There seems to be a lot more of us out there than I assumed. So many fem subs cross over and become switches, and there are so many male dominants that have a small switchy side. It's hard to remember someone's a switch when all I see of them is their submissive side. Thanks for the replies. Thanks for asking the questions.
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