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*Why do you choose to identify as a switch instead of dominant or submissive? 

I've used "submissive" to identify what I am in the past.  I've considered choosing the dominant red letters here on CM but felt switch best fit, if I had to choose any label.  Plus, I relate to the duality and flow of the word.

*Do you identify as switch in conjunction with dominant/submissive/slave

Yes, I've become more of a dominant switch who likes to bottom or submit sometimes. That's a mouthful.

*Do you see switching as top/bottom or dominant/submissive in nature? 

Yes, all of the above. 

*Did you choose switch because you're still undecided?

Nope, see answer #1....I will admit to still learning and growing as a person, regardless of chosen labels.

*What has been your impression of switches and their acceptance in the offline bdsm community? 

Generally, the offline bdsm communities I've started to become involved with are receptive to switches.  I've met a few people who call them players (in a very negative way) but those have been the exceptions.  I've only started explore my local crowd in the past 6 months, though, so who knows.  Most have been open-minded.  

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ORIGINAL: CarrieO

These are just a few basic questions.  Just to get a clearer picture of who currently identifies as a switch on these boards.  There may have been some great threads in the past about this but I think it's time for a fresh start...what with so many new people coming around CM.

*Why do you choose to identify as a switch instead of dominant or submissive? 
- it is part of the process of my journey in this and finally knowing more about myself and my role in WIITWD. The more I experience and learn, the more I gain the tools to accurately define who I am and where I fit in.

*Do you identify as switch in conjunction with dominant/submissive/slave
 - if you mean in relation to the role of another, yes most times this is true.

*Do you see switching as top/bottom or dominant/submissive in nature? 
- I see switching as mostly relation to the psychological aspect of a dominant/submissive traits of a person. The top/bottom terms I see as pertaining to the actual roles/positions a person takes in any given activity. I may engage in some topping of a person yet ultimately I bottom in all activities in the end.

*Did you choose switch because you're still undecided?
- No I don't believe I have. As I wrote earlier, I chose switch because the label of submissive just doesn't seem to apply as accurately anymore. I believe that most of us who first started out , chose a term which I thought applied to me and through understanding myself more, that original label lost it's validity.

*What has been your impression of switches and their acceptance in the offline bdsm community? 
- Overall I look at them in the same way I look at someone who identifies as either submissive or dominant, which is to say I don't judge them by the role they identify with. It's the same approach I use if a person says they are Buddhist or they taken a vow of chastity. Granted I have seen how others view us who identify as switches yet I take comfort in knowing that how I identify and label myself is all that matters. The tolerance and a "to each their own" attitude I have in life I do my best to apply to others regarding BDSM.


Thanks for the replies.

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ORIGINAL: CarrieO

*Why do you choose to identify as a switch instead of dominant or submissive? 

Because, using my definitions, that's what I am.

*Do you identify as switch in conjunction with dominant/submissive/slave

I'm dominant, one that has enjoyed bottoming before.

*Do you see switching as top/bottom or dominant/submissive in nature? 

Dominant and bottoming.

*Did you choose switch because you're still undecided?

No.

*What has been your impression of switches and their acceptance in the offline bdsm community? 

Switches seem to be more accepted offline, maybe because there isn't that "keyboard kommando" rigamarole going on.

Thanks for the replies.

You're quite welcome

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ORIGINAL: CarrieO

These are just a few basic questions.  Just to get a clearer picture of who currently identifies as a switch on these boards.  There may have been some great threads in the past about this but I think it's time for a fresh start...what with so many new people coming around CM.

*Why do you choose to identify as a switch instead of dominant or submissive? 

I've found that I prefer to switch back and forth rather than sticking with dominant or submissive. I've found that when I'm forced into one role for too long, the other mindset tends to overtake my day-to-day activities in other ways.

*Do you identify as switch in conjunction with dominant/submissive/slave

Not on any consistent basis. If my partner is primarily one, then I'll identify with the other primarily, working the other into my daily life. There have been a few cases where I couldn't identify properly with my partner and that created more issues than I care to admit.

*Do you see switching as top/bottom or dominant/submissive in nature? 

Both although usually one or the other at a time. I've come across about every combination of the two sets in my relationships thus far.

*Did you choose switch because you're still undecided?

No, as I mentioned before, I have tendencies of both Dominant and Submissive in my life and when one is stressed at one point, the other tends to overtake other portions of my life.

*What has been your impression of switches and their acceptance in the offline bdsm community? 

I haven't delved too deep into the offline bdsm community, although switches weren't too common with the groups I've talked to.

Thanks for the replies.

S'all good

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ORIGINAL: CarrieO

These are just a few basic questions.  Just to get a clearer picture of who currently identifies as a switch on these boards.  There may have been some great threads in the past about this but I think it's time for a fresh start...what with so many new people coming around CM.

*Why do you choose to identify as a switch instead of dominant or submissive? 
Because I have a dominant personality, but submission is really relaxing for me. Also I do not like to limit myself to one category, so I pick them both. The main goal is to have fun with someone you like and someone you trust.

*Do you identify as switch in conjunction with dominant/submissive/slave
Yes

*Do you see switching as top/bottom or dominant/submissive in nature? 
Dominant/submissive

*Did you choose switch because you're still undecided?
I guess so, I have a split personality on this and I don't know which I prefer better.

*What has been your impression of switches and their acceptance in the offline bdsm community? 
I'm pretty new here and didn't have the change to get an impression or see their acceptance in the offline bdsm community.

Thanks for the replies.

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What has been your impression of switches and their acceptance in the offline bdsm communit

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These are just a few basic questions.  Just to get a clearer picture of who currently identifies as a switch on these boards.  There may have been some great threads in the past about this but I think it's time for a fresh start...what with so many new people coming around CM.

*Why do you choose to identify as a switch instead of dominant or submissive? 
Other than it's very convenient and helps to severely limit the amount of mail in my mailbox?  Because I can feel dominant or submissive depending on who I'm around, and I prefer the domme side to the submissive side.  I'm not bi nor poly, and can't switch with the same person, so for me it's an either/or situation.  

*Do you identify as switch in conjunction with dominant/submissive/slave
Dominant, and I'd like any submissive part of my nature to just go to sleep and not wake up. <grins> 

*Do you see switching as top/bottom or dominant/submissive in nature? 
When I'm not in dominant mode, I was in submissive mode.  That was years under the bridge though.  I have topped, when I didn't have a submissive and the flogger called to me  but I have never bottomed.  I have no dreams of being the one tied up or spanked or anything, so I'm beginning to think I don't have a masochistic side. 

*Did you choose switch because you're still undecided?
No.  I'm not undecided.  If I could, I'd deep six that old submissive side so it would stay buried, and then life wouldn't be so potentially complicated.  It's hard enough keeping a relationship between two people together, I wouldn't want to have to complicate things by adding a third person to the mix.  I can't possibly imagine switching with the same person, but this is just me and I know others manage it just fine.

*What has been your impression of switches and their acceptance in the offline bdsm community? 
My impression of switches?  Since I mostly meet submissives...  In the past 4 years or so, I've only met one male switch in my area, and he's quite the athletic little hottie, but he's not as much into the dominance/submission as I am so our interests didn't click.  The other switch I've met is female, and a friend of mine, and she's a sweet lil thing who's now owned.  As for what the community in my area thinks of switches, I'd probably have to ask someone like BOUNTYHUNTER how things were like in the munch group.  Whenever I've finally handled some "charcoal cannister" problem with my vehicle, I plan to attend the munch group, SMACK, in Beckley and possibly the munch group in Charleston.
 
I've something else to add on my impression of switches.  There seems to be a lot more of us out there than I assumed.  So many fem subs cross over and become switches, and there are so many male dominants that have a small switchy side.  It's hard to remember someone's a switch when all I see of them is their submissive side.

Thanks for the replies.
Thanks for asking the questions.

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ORIGINAL: CarrieO

*Why do you choose to identify as a switch instead of dominant or submissive?

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ORIGINAL: CarrieO

*Do you identify as switch in conjunction with dominant/submissive/slave

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ORIGINAL: CarrieO

*Do you see switching as top/bottom or dominant/submissive in nature?

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ORIGINAL: CarrieO

*Did you choose switch because you're still undecided?

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ORIGINAL: CarrieO

*What has been your impression of switches and their acceptance in the offline bdsm community?