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LadyAngelika -> RE: "Expecting" a long term D/s relationship? (3/7/2010 7:47:16 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Smutmonger
She got personal,and made up things about me that had no base in reality to do it.
I see this sort of behavior all the time here-it's beyond annoying.
It is annoying. For lack of a better expression, I call it projection through unfounded deduction.
To all who don't understand Smutmonger's reaction, I ask you to look at the use of "it seems as though". This time it was much more subtle than usual. But this is her modus operandi.
She takes someone's opinion and then from it makes unfounded deductions about that person, of course which are always insulting. This time it was quite subtle, but she's done it to me over a half-dozen times and it was not so subtle. She writes:
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It seems as though you have recently had an experience that left a sour taste in your mouth. As though you had met and begun "playing" with someone and she mistook it to be leading to something more, and since you didn't, she left and you are pissed. How close might that be?
How close might what be? How on earth did she jump to such conclusions? Maybe he just formulated an OP from a certain position and had something else in mind. Instead of asking for clarification, she jumps to conclusions. In my experience, that to me is a sign of someone who has massive trust issues and always expects the worse from people, never giving anyone the benefit of the doubt.
The unfortunate thing is that she usually has some great points, but this form of projection through unfounded deduction on someone is not only irritating but it makes for a very week argument. Unfortunately, many people start nodding in agreement with her deductions because she is so well spoken, think that her deduction is legit and jump on her bandwagon.
- LA
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