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RE: Turn Down Sex? - 3/9/2010 3:25:29 AM   
lally2


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Status: offline 		im not much into casual sex - so ive turned that down.  makes no odds if im attracted to them or not - i just dont get all that i want from it, so i pass.

a woman i got to know as a sort of neighbour managed to fuck more men in one month than id fucked in a lifetime.  she was having a ball and good on her - not my thang though.

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RE: Turn Down Sex? - 3/9/2010 3:31:21 AM   
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I'm just curious here..How many have turned down sex from someone they were attracted to?

What reasons did you do so?




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RE: Turn Down Sex? - 3/9/2010 4:20:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		Like lally, I don't go for casual sex. Momentary lust just isn't enough. I need to like a person and liking requires knowing. If there isn't a relationship, it doesn't work for me.

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RE: Turn Down Sex? - 3/9/2010 4:40:51 AM   
paleness


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Status: offline 		i have no idea if/why i'd turn down sex...
cause apparently i am the only human on planet earth that doesn't get offered sex O_o

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RE: Turn Down Sex? - 3/9/2010 4:46:10 AM   
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RE: Turn Down Sex? - 3/9/2010 4:50:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have. The last time was because I was already in a relationship with someone else. 

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RE: Turn Down Sex? - 3/9/2010 5:21:29 AM   
wisdomtogive


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Status: offline 		Yes, I have. The majority of the times was because even though they were good looking, when they openned their mouth, it was a turn off. If my mind doesn't get stimulated then forget it.

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RE: Turn Down Sex? - 3/9/2010 6:19:10 AM   
DomImus


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Status: offline 		I've turned down offers of fornication from women I was attracted to a few times.

Once there was one woman who I would have loved to have fucked. She was the ex-wife of a friend of mine. Now, he would have gotten over it but the woman was also a close friend of my ex-wife who I had (and still have) a very good relationship with and who would not have appreciated my being promiscuous in that fashion. So I passed.

I played in bar bands off and off for about 20 years. Occasionally a woman would proposition me not realizing I was there with my significant other (or maybe in spite of the fact) and I declined those offers.

Those are the only instances I can recall having turned down sexual favors from women I was attracted to.

I am enjoying the best sex of my life in my relationship now but removing that from the picture some of the best sex I have ever had was casual one night stands. Sex in and of itself and without all of the other baggage of a relationship is an amazing event.




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RE: Turn Down Sex? - 3/9/2010 6:41:40 AM   
thornhappy


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Status: offline 		Turned down because they were married or spoken for.  Life's a little less exciting that way, but it beats having tires slashed! 

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RE: Turn Down Sex? - 3/9/2010 6:42:04 AM   
ResidentSadist


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ORIGINAL: paleness

i have no idea if/why i'd turn down sex...
cause apparently i am the only human on planet earth that doesn't get offered sex O_o

You are trying to tell us that you, the model for the Ab-Blaster 9000, who is living in Milan, one of the casual sex capitols of Europe, doesn’t get offered sex?

I rarely call someone a liar unless I have facts to the contrary but I really find it hard to believe you. Do you live in a cave? Don’t you go out… like to the store… where horny girls follow you around?


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RE: Turn Down Sex? - 3/9/2010 7:03:55 AM   
paleness


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quote:

ORIGINAL: paleness

i have no idea if/why i'd turn down sex...
cause apparently i am the only human on planet earth that doesn't get offered sex O_o

You are trying to tell us that you, the model for the Ab-Blaster 9000, who is living in Milan, one of the casual sex capitols of Europe, doesn’t get offered sex?

I rarely call someone a liar unless I have facts to the contrary but I really find it hard to believe you. Do you live in a cave? Don’t you go out… like to the store… where horny girls follow you around?

lol O_o
well, i am not a very social person most of the time, but i don't even know any guy among my circle of friends who got offered sex
girls, yes. but guys? never seen that.

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RE: Turn Down Sex? - 3/9/2010 7:07:08 AM   
RCdc


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Status: offline 		I don't do casual so that's the only reason.  People usually have 'strings attatched' so for me,there is no such thing as casual really, it's more about being upfront with their conditions.

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RE: Turn Down Sex? - 3/9/2010 7:08:46 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Icarys

I'm just curious here..How many have turned down sex from someone they were attracted to?

What reasons did you do so?



Absolutely.

Various situations, various reasons. A common theme, power. Another, what is easy to get, is less valued.


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RE: Turn Down Sex? - 3/9/2010 7:17:18 AM   
Icarys


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Status: offline 		A lot of interesting responses. Some of which I figured and a few that I hadn't thought of so thanks.


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RE: Turn Down Sex? - 3/9/2010 7:18:34 AM   
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I don't do casual so that's the only reason.  People usually have 'strings attatched' so for me,there is no such thing as casual really, it's more about being upfront with their conditions.

the.dark.

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RE: Turn Down Sex? - 3/9/2010 7:21:02 AM   
RCdc


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RE: Turn Down Sex? - 3/9/2010 8:07:54 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Icarys

I'm just curious here..How many have turned down sex from someone they were attracted to?

What reasons did you do so?



Not really into casual sex so will turn it down even if I am attracted to them. Have turned it down when it is obvious all I would be to them is a convenient hole. Turned it down when they were married or already in a relationship with someone. Turned it down when I got a bad feeling even with initial attraction (was definitely a smart move on my part I later discovered). Those are the basics.

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RE: Turn Down Sex? - 3/9/2010 8:32:22 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Of course I have.  (I almost want to say, hasn't everybody?)

The obvious reason, of course, is that I'm married.  We haven't always been poly and for us, poly doesn't mean feel free to have sex with whoever you want to.  It's one of the differences in the way we define poly verses an open marriage. 

I've never been a huge fan of casual sex.  I've had friends with benefits in the past, but it's really not My thing.  The last one night stand that I had was over twenty years ago.

Also, there was an occasion that sex didn't happen based on no greater reason than the lack of a condom. 


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RE: Turn Down Sex? - 3/9/2010 8:38:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yes,for various reasons.

She was flakey-the road to being driven crazy...married,poly etc. I'm not good at sharing or cheating.

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RE: Turn Down Sex? - 3/9/2010 8:49:54 AM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Icarys

I'm just curious here..How many have turned down sex from someone they were attracted to?

What reasons did you do so?



Various reasons. I was in a relationship that didn't allow it, they were, I honestly didn't have the time when they did, various social factors (ie. It would hurt a friend's feelings and I cared more about the friend than I was horny), that sort of thing.

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