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RE: Arousal Cycles - WOMEN only - 3/19/2010 3:38:38 PM   
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RE: Arousal Cycles - WOMEN only - 3/19/2010 8:31:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		If you don't tell him about it, then you might as well not go. If you can't talk to him, then find an ob/gyn you can talk to. I mentioned mania but there are other causes for hypersexuality as well.

Oh, and my bipolar daughter swings every five minutes between states. Or did before the new antiseizure meds. Just saying you can't assume anything. You have to tell the doc all about it.


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RE: Arousal Cycles - WOMEN only - 3/19/2010 9:08:06 PM   
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If you don't tell him about it, then you might as well not go. If you can't talk to him, then find an ob/gyn you can talk to. I mentioned mania but there are other causes for hypersexuality as well.

Oh, and my bipolar daughter swings every five minutes between states. Or did before the new antiseizure meds. Just saying you can't assume anything. You have to tell the doc all about it.



What she said. If the OP isn't willing to talk with her doctor about it or find a doctor she is willing to talk with about it, there is no point at all to this thread. We are all simply guessing and suggesting what could be the cause. We aren't doctors who can diagnose the problem. It is either a problem or it isn't. If it is a problem, you go to the doctor and talk to them and find out if anything can be done. If you aren't going to go to the doctor, then you live with it and learn to deal.

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RE: Arousal Cycles - WOMEN only - 3/19/2010 9:38:42 PM   
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Random orgasms started when I was 19: exercise, a meeting, sleeping, BLAMMO!! I always think of them with a Fonzie-esque two thumbs up 'Heyyyyyy!'

As you say, they might be light but some are memorable [think old-timey car horn: aOOOOgah!]
Sure, there is a possibility of being 'outed' in public: I only came close [hah!] once when I fell asleep during a lecture and yes, woke up coming. Had to pretend I was snoring/sneezing: never found out if anyone knew what happened.
For me, it's a sign I need more regular sex and stronger longer orgasms: with a partner for preference, but solo works almost as well.

As to the squirting, and orgasming during labour, sounds like a possible g-spot orgasm to me. 'Just' a g-spot? Heyyyyyyyyyy, me too!

The dipping movement of the cervix is enjoyable for me during orgasm, and I wouldn't lose it unless medically absolutely necessary.

I know the dryness of post-menopause can be painful, so right now I'm revelling in my slickness, and so do my partners who call it their 'waterfall': sweet. So, my panties get wet [shrug]: it's a sign of sexual health. I think of all the women starving themselves so much they have no hormones and are dry as a hall of fishbones. Now THAT would be a telethon of hope!

So I'm definitely in the pussy-bragging mansion. Imagine if women's slickness were a new true standard of physical beauty, sexual prowess and bragging rights for women, unlike the false prophets of shoe size, snow writing and penis size for men? Winnahs!

Absolutely talk to your doc for some medical assessment and reassurance, especially since it's distressing you and/or interfering with your daily life, but I hope it turns into a June Cleaver-ectomy 'how emBARRassing!' to a 'Heyyyy! Look what I can do!'
Then you can tell your partner or your Hitachi magic wand you need more regular orgasms: what good man or machine can resist?


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RE: Arousal Cycles - WOMEN only - 3/19/2010 9:55:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		Tantriqu lol you are hillarious. ahah

I feel better knowing it just had labels to narrow it down.

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The dipping movement of the cervix is enjoyable for me during orgasm, and I wouldn't lose it unless medically absolutely necessary.
I don't really want to get the parts out, uhhg, I do though get frustrated and wish them gone. I'd be afraid of losing ALL feeling also.

I guess I am going to have to grab a doc at random out of the phone book who specializes in sex (will take a gander at what the options are).



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RE: Arousal Cycles - WOMEN only - 3/19/2010 10:16:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		@ came4U: Glad to help. Plus, all sorts of great memories welled ;-) up.

And remember, when you see the doc, tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth without being asked: good doctors are unembarrassable, and have seen it ALL. Guys get aroused all the time during physical exams including rectals, so don't be embarrassed about getting aroused from a gyn. exam: it's just a physiologic response.
Suggest you tell the doc beforehand about your experiences: they might ask if you want someone else in the room during the exam as a chaperone: whatever's more comfortable for both of you.

Good luck, and let us know how it works out for you.

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RE: Arousal Cycles - WOMEN only - 3/19/2010 10:22:06 PM   
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Suggest you tell the doc beforehand about your experiences: they might ask if you want someone else in the room during the exam as a chaperone: whatever's more comfortable for both of you.
Ha well, hopefully they won't have to do a physical?? Cripes, not again. I'm spoiled, usually my doc pokes at me for my appointments alone, never a nurse present. He knows my issues in having an 'audience' for the exams.

I hope to find some excercizes (since I am not one to take meds) that could relieve some of the pressure. Maybe even rid of my immense migranes, could be built up ...cum-head LOL

lmao, sorry, heard someting a lil earlier that made me hot. Can't concentrate at all for a lil bit.

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RE: Arousal Cycles - WOMEN only - 3/20/2010 6:19:20 AM   
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Status: offline 		Doctors who specialize in female sexuality tend to be urologists. But most urologists specialize in men's issues. Instead of the phone book, call the best hospital around and ask them for a referral to a urologist who specializes in women's problems. Then check by phone to make sure they don't just do incontinence.

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RE: Arousal Cycles - WOMEN only - 3/20/2010 7:17:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		So despite that I had complete physicals, you still suggest it is a physical problem, and not therefore one to bring to the attention of a sexual counsellor of some kind?

Not lazy or broke, just don't don't see the point in seeing more doctors for the physical (when there is nothing out of place or wrong).

Gonna work up the nerve to ask hmmm well, not sure yet. Thanks again, DesFIP.





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RE: Arousal Cycles - WOMEN only - 3/20/2010 8:46:46 AM   
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this slave would suggest that you talk to as many people/MD's/counselors/clergy/etc. that YOU feel comfortable discussing it with, if assistance with managing your symptoms is truly what you seek. prepare to go through tests and evaluations and to hear a variety of diagnoses and recommendations for treatment.

it has not been this slave's experience that a baritone voice behind her in the supermarket line sets it off, or imagining some version of sexy. it is way more random and disconnected from what would pass for stimulation, in any other circumstance...sort of like an insatiable "mind of it's own" so to speak, that wakes up in the morning...if it managed to sleep the night before, and is on, at low simmer, throughout the day. sometimes, mild vibrations like a car ride will set it off into orgasmic spasms...but other times, they just happen.

controlling/managing it has been something this slave has been challenged with since childhood.

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RE: Arousal Cycles - WOMEN only - 3/20/2010 1:56:19 PM   
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So despite that I had complete physicals, you still suggest it is a physical problem, and not therefore one to bring to the attention of a sexual counsellor of some kind?

Not lazy or broke, just don't don't see the point in seeing more doctors for the physical (when there is nothing out of place or wrong).

Gonna work up the nerve to ask hmmm well, not sure yet. Thanks again, DesFIP.





If something is not a "typical" problem and you don't mention the symptoms to the doctor, they may not even consider something to be an issue. There are many things that could be "symptoms" of something or could be perfectly normal.

The type of doctor that DesFIP is referring to is known as a Uro/Gyn, and she is correct that most will be dealing with incontinent issues. I had a wonderful Uro/Gyn who was absolutely fantastic, however, he isn't in your area.

The point is that the doctor's may not be "seeing" something wrong because you aren't telling them that something is wrong. Doctor's are not mind readers and you need to be an active participant in your health care, which means you need to discuss the problem with him in order for him to start helping you to seek out the solutions.

A good example would be the dryness of menopause. Some women aren't bothered by it, some are. The OB/GYN isn't going to know which is bothered and which isn't unless the patient tells them.

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RE: Arousal Cycles - WOMEN only - 3/20/2010 3:41:47 PM   
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controlling/managing it has been something this slave has been challenged with since childhood.


OOo I do understand that beth. Hard to keep a straight face, walk a straight line (yep, have walked into shelves at stores lol when the ATTENTION SHOPPERS guy has a real baritone voice)

I understand what you are saying Lady,

is why we have the option here that if I go to a clinic for something, they ask 'do you want your family doctor to get a copy' I say NO sometimes, lol, I don't want him to know certain things (embarassing things). Ie; After work about 3 years ago, I went with friends and thought yeah, I'm cool, I'm gonna take a puff of whatever ciggy they are smokin' LOL. Baaad idea. I got paranoid and then upset..had to run to a clinic. lol I definately didn't want him to know that. Imagine someone 40 doing that? lol just cuz it was there lol *smacks head. I didn't want him to think I am a druggy...and give me that 'wtf are you doing??' look.

I found one listing for a sexual therapist PhD that seems close and has several topics listed as what he treats (very similar issues) so I will try that place Monday to ask a few questions first.



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RE: Arousal Cycles - WOMEN only - 3/20/2010 11:42:04 PM   
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I found one listing for a sexual therapist PhD that seems close and has several topics listed as what he treats (very similar issues) so I will try that place Monday to ask a few questions first.



The point everyone is trying to make though is that while you are saying all the tests have come back normal, your medical doctor doesn't know this is going on, so those tests may be meaningless. He may refer you to a therapist, but you have already stated that this is not a pyschological issue, it is physical. A sexual therapist helps people overcome sexual dysfunction. If a man was suffering from impotence, the first stop isn't the sex therapist. The first stop is the doctor to determine if there is a physical cause for the problem. If there isn't a physical cause, THEN the sex therapist can potentially help him discover what is psychologically preventing him from getting/maintaining an erection.

I realize that it can be embarassing to discuss this with your doctor. When I suffered from urinary incontinence, I suffered for a lot of years because I was too embarassed to tell the doctor (anyone really) that I was peeing my pants on a regular basis and had no control over it. Finally, it got annoying enough that I overcame the embarassment and go to the doctor for it. It was the best thing I ever did, and now the problem is gone.

I understand it isn't the same thing, nor could it possibly be treated the same way, but the point is....talk with your doctor! Start out by telling him it is something you are finding difficult and embarassing to discuss and trust me, he will reassure you that it's ok to talk about it.

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RE: Arousal Cycles - WOMEN only - 3/21/2010 6:24:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		I dooooo hear ya Lafayettelady, I reallly dooo

but I can'tttt *cries.

Just cannot tell him that. If it were anything else, I could.

yanno,
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talk with your doctor! Start out by telling him it is something you are finding difficult and embarassing to discuss and trust me, he will reassure you that it's ok to talk about it.


that almost made me feel brave hmm.. I think I could. I could just tell him 'look, im really horny, all the time and always have been and was really scared to tell you all these years'. He might laugh because he already knew that for all I know LOL..you make it sound easy and it IS. He is a hand-patter, a good doc. Really good bedside manner. I just usually get my 'physical' done and run outta there like a bat outta hell lol.

thanks, I'm gonna. thanks for taking the time also to reply.

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RE: Arousal Cycles - WOMEN only - 3/21/2010 9:24:17 PM   
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RE: Arousal Cycles - WOMEN only - 3/21/2010 9:43:43 PM   
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No, you are not alone. 24/7/365 i am ready. The least little touch can make me go off. i, too, can relate to embarrassing moments in the GYN's office. It's hard as hell to try and explain Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder without sounding like a horny toad. ~blushing~

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RE: Arousal Cycles - WOMEN only - 3/21/2010 9:45:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ok, if what you are experiencing cannot be considered 'normal' then at least know that I understand you. Maybe I misidentified/compared what is 'normal' with what I also experience. I'm very close to menopause but I don't think that has anything to do with it for me. I am quite easily aroused by the sound, smell or presence of an even somewhat-attractive man because my husband and I are not sexually-active at the moment. Let me put it bluntly; I find it easy to be incredibly aroused by the least bit of male attention because I'm not getting any! (He is ill right now, on meds for 6 months that make him want to puke or sleep all day). I guess 'normal' to me is to continue to feel sexual feelings despite the fact that I am no longer sexual with my partner. If that is not the case for you, I guess you should listen to the ones who say you should run to the nearest Doc or Head-shrinker ASAP.

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RE: Arousal Cycles - WOMEN only - 3/23/2010 2:28:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		Wow, glad this whole thing was brought up and that I learned something.  LOL, I am so glad I don't have this problem.

About 15 years ago, I was giving a friend of mine a ride in my car and...just riding in the car gave her an orgasm.  We had to pull over and find a bathroom, because she was on the rag and said a huge gush came out and she worried about messing up her clothes. 

I thought she was pulling my leg or bragging or something, until she got crabby and insisted we find a bathroom NOW.  She never brought it up again.

Glad that others have given labels for this, so you know you're not the only woman on the planet going through this...but...if you can't say this in person, would explaining briefly in a letter make it easier?  If the doctor went through school long before this stuff became known, and he hasn't kept up with his reading, how about finding a reputable source and sending him a copy so he can look it up for himself?  Or, mail these to the new doctor you plan to sneak a visit to, telling him that it's embarrassing to talk about it and you'd rather just pass on the info of what's wrong in writing before your appointment.

You might get lucky, and find a doctor who can give you some relief.


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RE: Arousal Cycles - WOMEN only - 3/23/2010 5:51:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yep, Cynthia, that has happened too. Pre-menses, Post, no matter., often worse during, not always. (which is why I suspected hormones to begin with) but, nothing showed up. It is a pain in the ass, no picnic usually (especially being single and I can't just run up and hump random men for temporary relief LOL) I get booty calls but if they only knew how little it relieved me--yet they think, since I am so orgasmic, that they are GREEEAAAT in the sac and the best thing since sliced bread. I mean really, if they were that great, I'd call more than twice a year lol.

Vibes on/in vehicles aren't really a big thing. But, I do sit at the front of the bus (to stare at my fave driver's big hands turning the steering wheel) and that is enough to set me off into lala land., especially if I chat him up about life and then they keep talkin' (I'm such a user ). I often forget my stop, or get off (literally) too early. I am left in a location unknown, all stunned n entranced like 'ah shittt, how did I get here??' lol againnnn. Lectures, the same thing. If the prof had a hot, deep voice (although the topic was interesting) I look down after at my notes and there is nothing but chicken scribble., maybe a doodle. Lameee

Telling the doc, well, I am going to. He is a clever n funny guy, I just have to imagine his expression that he gets with any other lesser nonsense I bring up. His smiley face and the hand holding/patting like I am 4 or on my deathbed. Just was difficult, especially since all over the office walls there are his family pics and his computer screensaver is a slideshow of the wife n grandkids (I know em). Makes me feel all durty lol.

Got appt. on the 31st for some intake interview with a doc at the university.

*not sure if it is on topic, but a student sent this to me this morn: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-P6_FwpVo_s&feature=player_embedded

lol cute.

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RE: Arousal Cycles - WOMEN only - 3/23/2010 10:57:51 AM   
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ORIGINAL: came4U

I found one listing for a sexual therapist PhD that seems close and has several topics listed as what he treats (very similar issues) so I will try that place Monday to ask a few questions first.



The point everyone is trying to make though is that while you are saying all the tests have come back normal, your medical doctor doesn't know this is going on, so those tests may be meaningless. He may refer you to a therapist, but you have already stated that this is not a pyschological issue, it is physical. A sexual therapist helps people overcome sexual dysfunction.


This.  In spades.  If you can't tell your physical doctor everything, then you are doing both yourself and him a disservice.  How can he treat you if he doesn't know what is going on?  What is going to happen if you go see someone else, and they put you on a medication (such as an anti-seizure med), and then the next time you go back to your regular doc, and you have to tell them you are taking this med (and you HAVE to tell), what are you going to say then? 

Perhaps it's time to shop for a new doctor. 

By the way, instead of saying "I'm horny all the time" (although there is certainly nothing wrong with saying that), you could say, "I'm horribly embarrassed over something my body is doing.  I've been doing some research and I have some of the symptoms of Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder that are bothering me." Or heck, write it on a piece of paper and hand it to him.

Or go get a new doc.  A sex therapist worth their salt will tell you to go get a new doc.

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