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ORIGINAL: Jeniluscious

I've said this in another place; let's see how it works over here...
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Hello. My name is Jen and I'm a non-apologetic, completely unreformed romantic.

This transcends even a prospective submissive treating me like a real person when we first begin to talk, this is after we decide to start testing that water, dipping a toe, so to speak, in the babbling brook of friend-maybe-more.

I want to be courted; is that so wrong? /harveyfiersteinoff

Before anyone overreacts and thinks I mean flowers, poetry and candy (allergies, acerbic tastes, diet), that's not what I meant. I mean affection, that edge of eagerness that says 'I've been SO looking forward to seeing/talking/meeting you!' that's pleasant to hear. Other words might be kindness, consideration. Why can't such things happen? I don't want to and I am not going to make all the moves forward. That is offensive to my delicate sensibilities.

I want to be pursued. I want the man to show me he's pursing ME, not some fanciful vision of domme-ness that any nameless, faceless woman could fulfill. I want to be feel cherished in some indefinable way. I want to feel appreciated. Desired.

To forestall any "Haven't we outgrown those antiquated points of view?" the response is, obviously, NO, not all of us have. I'm not one of the boys and I don't plan to be treated like one. Neither am I a "womyn". While I may be more than adequate to hold my own in a belching contest (thank you, diet DP), I don't do it at the Opera (except during slow bits of Die Walküre). Open my door; ask me what I want to drink, pick up my pocketbook if I drop it. This isn't submission; this is courtesy. This is, IMO, being a gentleman.

Now, I freely admit that not every dominant woman wants someone that necessarily fits my criteria, but not every submissive male (or female) knows that immediately. Maybe it's me; maybe I put off a vibe that's just wrong for communicating my expectations. 

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ORIGINAL: MsSonnetMarwood

It may not be completely dead, but it's definately on life-support with the overhanging thread of the plug being pulled.

Listen up, boys, particularly those that can't figure out why it is that they can't seem to meet/connect wiht a Domme.  

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if us men will not yield to romance i say its up to you Ladies to beat it into them 

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ORIGINAL: DiannaVesta

Beg for me. Painfully long for me. Buy me flowers, find my favorite wine, take me for a long peaceful walk through the woods & then feed me on a beautiful blanket. Tell me I’m the only woman and let me see it in your eyes. Subjugate yourself before me and let me feel, in my heart, that you will literally do *anything* to please me. Tuck me in at night and rub my body until I fall asleep.

Wake me up with coffee in your hands as you kneel next to my bed to sing, “My beautiful Goddess, the sun is shining, the birds are singing and how is my wonderful Goddess today?” knowing that is its raining you’ll be punished. Lol   
 

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ORIGINAL: Jeniluscious

I've said this in another place; let's see how it works over here...
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Hello. My name is Jen and I'm a non-apologetic, completely unreformed romantic.
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Hi Jen.

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This transcends even a prospective submissive treating me like a real person when we first begin to talk, this is after we decide to start testing that water, dipping a toe, so to speak, in the babbling brook of friend-maybe-more.

I want to be courted; is that so wrong? /harveyfiersteinoff

Before anyone overreacts and thinks I mean flowers, poetry and candy (allergies, acerbic tastes, diet), that's not what I meant. I mean affection, that edge of eagerness that says 'I've been SO looking forward to seeing/talking/meeting you!' that's pleasant to hear. Other words might be kindness, consideration. Why can't such things happen? I don't want to and I am not going to make all the moves forward. That is offensive to my delicate sensibilities.

I want to be pursued. I want the man to show me he's pursing ME, not some fanciful vision of domme-ness that any nameless, faceless woman could fulfill. I want to be feel cherished in some indefinable way. I want to feel appreciated. Desired.

To forestall any "Haven't we outgrown those antiquated points of view?" the response is, obviously, NO, not all of us have. I'm not one of the boys and I don't plan to be treated like one. Neither am I a "womyn". While I may be more than adequate to hold my own in a belching contest (thank you, diet DP), I don't do it at the Opera (except during slow bits of Die Walküre). Open my door; ask me what I want to drink, pick up my pocketbook if I drop it. This isn't submission; this is courtesy. This is, IMO, being a gentleman.

Now, I freely admit that not every dominant woman wants someone that necessarily fits my criteria, but not every submissive male (or female) knows that immediately. Maybe it's me; maybe I put off a vibe that's just wrong for communicating my expectations.

Tell me, what would you expect to hear from a domme in these early, tentative stages? How should the subject be broached?

Dommes, what do you find prevalent during the early stages? Is that something you like?

I look forward to hearing your opinions.

Jeni

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Unfortunately I really don't think it exist any more.  This is the fast food era, throw away society. 

(in reply to Jeniluscious)